Friends after break up.Is it possible?

China
April 1, 2007 8:28am CST
To be friends after breaking up a relationship is one question that is quite difficult to answer. It's easy to say that," Lets be friends" but is it really possible? Although I had never such an experience in my life I can tell one hundred percent sure that I would never accept my ex as a good friend.I would disappear for ever and never be in contact with him anymore. I am wondering how people can continue good friendship with their ex.I really do not know.Maybe they have never had true love about him so it was easy to continue the relationship in a friendly way this time. What is your opinion?For me it would be out of the question.
4 responses
• India
1 Apr 07
You are perfectly right. It's easier said than doen. I believe that women find it easier to get over a relationship when compared to men. My girlfriend of more than a year suddenly started behaving strangely. When I asked her to come clean about her feelings, she bluntly said that it was all over and while she liked me a lot, she did not want to stay in a relationship with me and asked me whether we could still continue to be friends! I couldn't believe my ears! I just told her politely that it would not be possible for me to accept such a change, and that it she really wanted to part ways with me, it had to be for good. She went. We later met online and she apologized for the whole mess, but seemed to have no regrets about splitting up. While she hinted at being friends again, my wounds were still fresh, even after a whole year, and so politely declined again, wishing her all the very best for her life.
@susan50 (110)
• United States
1 Apr 07
It would really depend on the circumstances of the breakup. Some couples realize they can not get along living in the same place and decide living apart is the best and still keep in touch with each other. I personally have tried to remain friends with my exes, but very impossible when the breakup was not good, even though it was the best for both of us. Life can be cruel. What starts out as good intentions, usually ends up being disastrous. I have an ex boyfriend that I am still very good friends with. You can be friends with exes, if the breakup is really what the both of you want, but usually when there are children involved, that being nice goes out the window because parents are more worried about themselves than what the breakup is doing to them.
@Ravenladyj (22992)
• United States
1 Apr 07
Of course its possible...I've remained friends wiht most of my ex's actually except 2 of them (one because he was abusive to me and the second one because i was abusive to him unfortunately)
• United States
1 Apr 07
For me it's not possible....at least it hasn't been. Too many old feelings can surface and that's not a healthy thing to happen. It's just time to move on after a breakup, imho. Give yourself completely to the next/current relationship!