education or love

love or education - it can be love or education
Philippines
April 1, 2007 9:09am CST
can you have a serious relationship and at the same time your studying well.. me i experienced that i have my boyfriend and at the same time i'm studying..i'm not afraid to be serious in our relationship beacause i know we won't have any problems..but unfortunately when time goes by we have encountered many struggles about ourselves..so sometimes we fight and when it happens one day we broke up..i was very depressed and i don't know what will i do to my self..and because of that i can't concentrate well in my studies..so my grades got lower than the other quarters like my 1st and 2nd quarter i got a high grades and wen i got in a serious relationship..i can't concentrate well in my studies..
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43 responses
@mskzalameda (4036)
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
i think i can't have one because studying only is a big problem for me ha ha! so many paper works and having a relationship can only lead me to problem which will not help me out so better wait until its the time okay!
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
yah it's true..hehehe..but you should try to have some relationship with others so that you will experienced and feel to be loved by other people and to be hurt by your loved one..
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• Philippines
2 Apr 07
yah sure! maybe next time won't hurt! he he
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• Philippines
2 Apr 07
hahaha..i don't like again to get in a serious relationship..
@catcai (1057)
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
Personally for me, I can't afford to have it both together. I had a serious relationship when I was in college and it did affect my studies a lot. Maybe its just becaus of my personality. Or maybe because I was soo in love at that time and he was my first love. Unfortunately it didn't work, he didn't love me as much as I loved him- I should've listened to my mom- and just focused on my studies better. I did finish my course, unfortulately i wasn't able to finish it on time. I had to stay a semester longer- because my ex was staying a semester longer- In order to be with him-i didn't put much effort in my studies- so there it is- i flunked- i stayed a semester longer. And now im full of regrets, because of my "insane" affection for my ex, i wasn't able to graduate with my original batch. I wasn't able to take the board exam on time. I wasted a lot of time just so i can be with him- only to find out in the end- its not meant to be. So if you think and you can see that youre not doing well with your grades because of your relationship= Please think hard- what is your priority? choose what you think is beneficial for you in the long run. DOn't make the same mistake as i did. ok? take care...
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
your responsewas touch my heart..when that happens to i must have a good option..
@perugu (5281)
• India
1 Apr 07
hi,friend,many people spoil their life under the name of love,relation,friendship.All the above are for the people who settled financially will work out.When we don't have enough money or not financially independent,what people will do with love,relation....they can't feed our stomach.for few days we can sacrifice,but 3rd day we have to eat food and for that we have financial stability.So first concentrate on studies..
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@Willowlady (10666)
• United States
1 Apr 07
Love can come and go as you have discovered and your education is with you forever. The better bet is for the education. Let nothing interfere with it. Some dating is ok for balance but no relationship until your graduation. Time to make up for lost time now my friend.
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• Philippines
1 Apr 07
It depends on how you handle your boyfriend. If you are too serious about him, then you are most likely to be affected when things go wrong. The good side is, he becomes your inspiration and do good on your studies. My wife and I are together when we are in college. We split many times during college. But now, we are living together as man and wife. We share our asssignments. :) And we are always together in doing our projects and thesis. I hope you're getting what I mean.
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
i'm wishing someday my boyfriend and i will be together again..
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@Ace2242 (111)
• India
1 Apr 07
well it depends upon the person involved and the state or strength of relationship they have. well in my case , we were both so serious that sometimes just to be able to talk to each other we would do anything ...anything . and if we had problems then the whole world around us would know it and we would be in a very bad shape , sometimes couldn't handle anything , just bcoz of the bad mood . but anytime that happened ..it never affected our studies , i was able to secure even better marks coz my love would encourage me to do better than before . so it can be hazardous as well as helpfull towards ur educational life. u have to choose the options . take care and good luck
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
one thing more...you have to consider alot of things...ine is your strenght in dealing problems with your love one...you should be able to lnow your capacity and your limitations...know thyself well...do not get into a relationship where the risk is too high...most of all you should have fear in God... we could taslk and comment a lot of things but nits is really how much faith you have. But of course I'm also considering that we are all different and we could not say because we are not in the situations...all we have to do is be aware and focus...
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@Mithoo (255)
• Pakistan
1 Apr 07
Dear friend, i always beleive one work in one time. Also we should not get involved in love while our studies because it creates lots of problems for us while studying. I know what happens when we make a relationship of love with someone! It is hard to study when you are at the top in your love. And you loose grads also. So you are right that we can not concentrate on our studies while having a love relationship. But you can not stop love. its true!
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@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
1 Apr 07
I do believe that it is not good to have a serious relationship while attending school, and you are right how can you concentrate on your education and have this kind of relationship at the same time. So I agree with what you have said here completely.
• India
1 Apr 07
one should never neglect their education and studies with a the reason of love.. infact we should take love as an inspiration and study still better . .every thing depends on how we think . . so guyz never fear of ur education when u r in love...
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@jigars (20)
• India
2 Apr 07
Hi Diane_vente_trez.I think both have there vown importance.Studies are also done to make future and boyfriend is also future life.I think we can do both the think at the same time just we have to divide are self in two parts like while studing you should concentrate only on studies and while with boyfriend you should think only about love.I also have girlfriend but i divide myself.And if he is your true love he will always understand you and your problems.And about your studies it was your mistake that you were not able to concentrate on it properly it was not your boyfriends mistake.So please concentrate on your studies.Your boyfriend is always yours.Buy Take care.
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• Philippines
2 Apr 07
for me it's hard to divide it..maybe i'm too young for a serious relationship..
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• Philippines
2 Apr 07
it depends..well sometimes your studies will be affected when you and your boyfriend have a fight..it really affected a lot..if you really prioritize your studies..so set aside first the relationship.you can have serious relationship when your finish at your school
• India
2 Apr 07
I personally think it is pretty hard for someone to maintain a good balance between his studies and his relations with his/her lover. Once you fall in love with someone, other things in your life are bound to get worse but the best part is that you may still enjoy all these worse things for the sake of love. The best way to maintain a healthy balance is..... is there any way? As you said, you ended up breaking up with your boy friend for your studies but still could not solve your problem because you were in depression. I believe you should just chill about studies. You will always get the passing marks and that's what matters! :)
• Romania
2 Apr 07
Hey ! I personally think that we can have both of them .. and having a serious relationship shouldn`t interfeer in our studies .. As a matter of fact .. when i know i have an important exam or something .. and i`m at my bf`s .. i`m even more motivated to learn and to get high grades .. so that my parents won`t judge me for not being able to have both of them on the floating line .. so i think that if you`ll try to focus only on studying .. when you do study .. you won`t even feel that you`re in a relationship .. and after study hours pass .. you simply get with your boy .. and everything will be just fine .. :)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
When I was in College, I have a boyfriend who served as my inspiration then. If you are in a good relationship that should never interrupt with your studies. You just have to prioritize things and never put your boyfriend on top of the list. Though I know you consider him number 1. I know you love your boyfriend that much but never put your studies in jeopardy because of that. You might consider putting studies and your boyfriend on top of the list but be always wise in your decisions.
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
on my experience, i manage to have it both. to have it balanced, i made my time management for it. i considered also my brain and my heart, because there are things that needed to be decided by the heart or the brain. it wasn't hard for me because i'm an open-mided person, i know that there are no perfect relationships and all have trials, sacrifices, challenges and most of all, "all problems have solutions". my advice for you is that, don't let your lovelife affect your studies, don't sacrifice your studies just because of it.
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@NatureBoy (493)
• Singapore
2 Apr 07
Well, most people will experience 'their love of their life' during the periods of studying. I have seen lots of couples come and go after that phrase. I too have been attached during my studies, and became unattached after my studies. Things just start changing after the study part. It would have been ok if both can grow at the same pace in life, but that is mostly not possible. that is also the cause of many breakups. If the choice now is given again, maybe I would choose education, cos with good education, you can get to meet people who are of the same level, this will increase the chances of meeting someone who will somehow grow at the same pace.
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@dbeast (1498)
• India
2 Apr 07
well it all depends on how your relationship is.if it is rocking and you find it hard to concentrate ,maybe you can put it aside for sometime and get on with it later.i do know how it feels when fights occur.we tend to take our frustration out on anyone near us and the only thing that ever stays in our heads is what went wrong and why the fight occured.you can have a close relationship and not commit yourself so much that it can ruin your life.after all you need you studies too.so just let it go side by side for a while and then you can get serious about your relationship.all the best.
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• India
2 Apr 07
Doing both the things is not very easy. It takes very courage as well as patience. I am also in the same state. I love a girl and she also loves me. But many times due to our studies we cannnot give time to each other. I always complain that she doesn't have time for me and she also does the same thing. I think that we should concentrate only on one thing at a time.
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@wisejedi (15)
• Malaysia
2 Apr 07
It is always nice to have a boyfriend or girlfriend in school. Somehow everyone is doing it, and it feels nice to have someone to belong to. Personally I don't think it would be possible to have a serious relationship and study well at the same time, unless you are very disciplined in your studying habits. There is always the temptation to spend more time with your partner rather than study.
• India
2 Apr 07
i think u dont need to worry at all.i think u may take it so much seriously and wht u need to do that pls leave ur all tainson and pls dont ask any question abt it. just leave and now try to enjoy with what ever u have.
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