can a mother love all her children equelly

India
April 1, 2007 1:43pm CST
what do u think can a moter love all her children equellly
5 responses
• Canada
1 Apr 07
Yes of course. My mother did it with 3. Sometimes one of us would get more attention than the others, but that didn't mean she loved us any less. We just all needed special attention at certain times.
• United States
2 Apr 07
Exactly. One may get a new pair of shoes simply because they need them.
@towongfoo27 (2989)
• United States
1 Apr 07
I think it is very hard for a mother to love all her children equally, if the children are not equal in the sense of genetics. One child may have downs-sydrome, so mom frets over him a little more than capapble Susie. Another child may be the over-achiever to compensate for mom's attention, and mom loves her, but she is too busy with the down-sydrome child. All in all, it is possible to love the children equally if you love them for the decidedly individual things they do on their own merit (in other words, not yours).
• United States
1 Apr 07
I am glad to be the first Mother to respond to your discussion(if when I finish with what I have to say I am still the first hehe) I hope that I am speaking for most Mothers. I say most and not all because of something I read here in My Lot Land. A fellow My Lotter stated in a response to another discussion that she had her niece since she was a baby because the mother(notice no capital m)wanted a boy and not a girl so she didn't want the daughter that she had given birth to.(Now that is a whole entire different discussion in which I will start one on so check for it)I could never fathom a Mother doing that. I have given birth to four children one passed on at five months he was only one pound 10 ounces at birth.(And that is another discussion)I have raised the others with one left he is 15 (16 in November). In all their years I have never loved one more or less than the other one. I think that some people say or think one may love one child different than the other because they don't understand. Each child is different and wouldn't dare treat them the same. They all three are different individuals and I have learned that what works for one may not work for the other. So yes I treat them differently (Not so different in a way that would show favoritism)But just to give an example of what I mean. My daughter 17, 18 in September is very strong minded. Pretty much a leader not a follower. I only have to explain something once and man she understands. She takes everything in and watches for everything. However my youngest son is gullible. He believes and trust in anyone and everything. Now with just those two differences I have to keep an eye out on my son in situations where I don't have to with my daughter. If I die today I feel comfortable that my daughter can make it in life without as many taking advantage of her but on the other hand my son I know someone would have to keep the big eye out for him. Saying all that the one of the differences in the way that I treat him and her is when she goes out to a friends or what ever I am not as worried. She isn't required to check in as often as I would have him check in with me. Another thing that is different in the way I treat them. When I tell her to do something I don't to have to tell her but once if it is not done then I am on her asking why she hasn't done as I told her,which is not often. Now with my son he is very forgetful I can't tell him more than two things to do at one time. So when I tell him to do something and it is not done I at least tell him again because I know that he has forgotten what I have told him to do.(I have had him checked and been told he is fine he gets good grades in school)Sometimes I have even had to write things down that I have told him to do. I don't have to tell you every difference I think you get where I am going with this. As a child growing up myself there were things that were expected of me that were different than what was expected of my brother I don't feel that either one of us was loved any different than the other. We were treated as individuals. So in getting back to the topic at hand I do think that a MOTHER loves all of her children equally.
@lightningMD (5937)
• United States
1 Apr 07
yes ofcourse you can...love isnt limited you have an unending supply...you might love each kid differently but that doesnt mean you love one more than another...
@stacyv81 (5906)
• United States
1 Apr 07
Yes, of course. I have two kids, a 3 year old boy, and a 6month old girl. When I was pregnant with my second, I was scared about that, Can I really love them both the same amount? But yes, you definitely can. You fall in love with the other children just as fast, and just as much as the ones before. I could never discriminate against my kids. They are both beautiful wonderful kids. I love them both dearly and equally.