You borrowed somthing from someone and you lost it!

Philippines
April 1, 2007 9:52pm CST
What would you do? Will you going to confess the minute you discover you have lost it or think of something of how to get away like buying new one that looks like the same or anything that you think can help you get away with the mistake. And if you decided to confess it, how would you break the news? How would you say it in a way that she will not freak out or stub you to death!lol.. Me I won't let myself live with it or dwell it too hard instead maybe I will find the best way to make it up to her.
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47 responses
• Canada
2 Apr 07
If I lost something that belonged to someone else I would initially get in a big panic and have everyone ripping apart the house to find it . If it was not found then I would let the person know by telling them that I was really sorry and that I had lost whatever it was but that I would replace it for them as that would be the best I could do and considering I was the one that was responsible for it when it was in my care , it would be the least I could do and would pray the person would be able to forgive me for losing something that they trusted me with and would not hold this against me for the next time I was hoping to borrow something .
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• Philippines
2 Apr 07
yeah me too before I could think of replacing it I woudl definitely freak out especially if I lost something that is so expensive.
@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
err that would hunt me, i have to tell her/him. i have to let it off my chest. ill take the blame if he/she gets angry atleast i came honest.
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• Philippines
2 Apr 07
yeah it will really hunt you its like a second shadow.
@Feggish (44)
• Canada
2 Apr 07
I'll just tell him/her that I lost it and pay him/her back the money so they could buy another one. It's my fault that I lost it, I should be responsible for bringing it back to the person.
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• Philippines
2 Apr 07
That would be fair enough. thanks.
@tonyxxx (693)
• India
2 Apr 07
If the thing I borrowed and lost is found in the market I will buy the thing and return it to the person apologizing him for my carelessness.As far as telling the person in this case will not be difficult for me as I will be replacing the thing which was bought from the market. There may be a case when the thing I borrowed was made by the person himself then in that case, if I know how to make that thing , I will simply work 24 hours a day to make that thing again and tell him that I am very sorry that I lost his thing and I have made it for him again though it is not as good as his. But the worst case will be when I don't know how to make the thing and also the thing is not available in the market.Then it will be the most difficult situation for me.I will go and apologize to the person and tell him how can I help him.I will offer him to make that thing again.I will buy all the materials used for making that thing and help him in making that thing.Though telling the person that the thing I borrowed has been lost will be very difficult for me and I will try to convey it to the person through someone else.
@maribel1218 (3085)
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
I really think with this scenario famous quote really applies "Honesty is the best policy" The moment I discover I lost what I borrowed from a friend no matter what will be her reaction was I will prepared myself to it and will tell her right away. I will just call her and personally meet her and will have a *maamo face* while breaking the news lol!!! Will really make it a point to replace what I just lost.
• Philippines
4 Apr 07
yeah I tried that once the "maamo facee" and it work a little bit but I still need to pay for the lost.
@Dolcerina (3379)
• Hungary
3 Apr 07
FIrst of all I would try to find it hard. But I never lie ( I can not), so I would say the truth, I would say to her what happened, and I would ask her what she expect me to do now.
@Dolcerina (3379)
• Hungary
3 Apr 07
I would expect it from others too, if they would loose my thing.
• United States
3 Apr 07
This happeend to me too. I borrowed a picture from my friend a couple of months ago and she made me promise to give it back to her because it was one of her favorite pictures. Of course I lost it. I haven't mentioned it and I'm hoping that she will forget about it and not ask me about it so I don't have to tell her it's gone. i looked everywhere for it!!!!
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
I think you better tell her cause she will just be more mad if you did not infrom her earlier.
@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
2 Apr 07
It depends if what I borrowed was replaceable! I hate borrowing stuff from friends. Once I went camping and my friend offered to lend me her tent, she said it was silly me buying one if I was only going to use it once, so I borrowed it, I didn't feel comfortable so I went and bought my own, used my own and then gave her back her tent when I returned, it was peace of mind. I wouldn't have been able to relax if it got torn or damaged in anyway. If it was a dvd or cd I would definitely buy a new one if I had lost it.
• Philippines
20 Apr 07
yeah, thats like plying safe.
@rushmee (605)
• India
2 Apr 07
oh yes, i remember... wen i was in the hostel, i was on duty and i wanted a matching stole or a shawl to carry with my saree. a junior of mine offered me her new stole which was exactly matching with my dress. i reluctantly accepted and lost it in the function.... i dint knew how to react and how to admit that i've lost it... i din even talk to her for so many days and tried to avoid her for long... finally i bought a similar kind of stole for her from the market and offered it to her. however, she refused to take it, which was more embarassing for me... i hope she is not reading this...
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
that is really embarassing.. she refuse it means she feels bad about it. But I think you made her feel that ways since you didn't inform her after you discover that you lost it.
@mommyaiai (295)
• United States
2 Apr 07
This did not happen to me but my sister did.She borrowed my aunt earings and she lost it.She did not confess or tell my aunt coz she is so scared.She tell my mom first and my mom is the one who told me,my mom wants me to tell my cousin,my aunt daughter so that she will be the one to tell my aunt, in that way she can understand or she won't freak out.So yeah,i did tell my cousin and she told my aunt what happen,and she's ok but she really want my sister to confess her but my sister did not do that,instead she tried to avoid my aunt and that's why my aunt mad at her.
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
well if I'm your aunty I will be mad too she is the one who lost it and she should apologize I know its really hard and require lots of strenght and courage to tell it but that is the prize she should pay for losing it.
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
That's a really hard situation to be in. There are points to consider. First if the thing you lost is of great value then you have to really think whether to confess or find a replacement for the thing you lost. Second, if she's really one of your close friends, you might consider opening up to her about what happened and tell her that you'll replace what is lost. Third, if she's not suffering from hypertension or no heart problems, it is at least safe to tell her the truth.(hehehe). Have you heard of the story about The Necklace by Guy de Maupassant. Check it out. It's quite disappointing story.
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
LOL surely blood pressure is something to consider. Yeah I have read that story before and someone just response with that story telling it happen to him. thanks for the response.
@Mamaof4 (222)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
I'd be honest with your friend and just tell her that you lost it. Offer to pay for it right away, or replace it somehow. For friendship, honesty is always the best route, I say. I guess it depends how valuable that thing is that you lost, but on the average, I would think that a true friend would understand and at the very least, would appreciate it if you offered to pay for it.
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
yeah I definitely agree with you if she really trust you and your her friend asking for apology won't be that hard.
• India
3 Apr 07
yes man i would repay what i lost and will try not to borrow again.
@ryanphil01 (4185)
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
i will tell my friend right away if i lost something i borrowed from him.it's my mistake so i have to ask apology from him. i will ask him if he wants a replacement or just pay him back.
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
Of course, I will just confess to my friend that I lost the stuff that I borrowed from him. I wanted to be honest to her. If she got mad at me, I have no choice at least I told her the truth. I will offer her to change the thing that I've lost.
@valmiki9 (1171)
• India
3 Apr 07
The best way is to cofess in plain words and ask her if she is willing to accept anew one in its place or take monetary compensation for the full cost of it. Naturally you will get lambasted a little but a mistake has to be paid its price.
• India
3 Apr 07
I had borrowed a book from someone and lost it while moving house. I couldn't confess for a long time and in the meantime kept searching for the book to buy and return, but couldn't find it. In the end, I told that person and well i was forgiven but it was a rare book and he did say that it was an irrepairable loss.
@babykay (2133)
• Ireland
3 Apr 07
It all depends on what it is that you have lost. If it something fairly impersonal like a map or a book, you just go and buy a new one. Chances are that the new one will be in better condition than the old so if the person who lent you the thing in the first place is in any way reasonable, there should be no problem. They will appreciate your honesty and willingness to correct a mistake and that should be the end of it. Also, at least you can ask them for a loan of something again! If the object you lost is more personal, it will be harder to replace, you have got to use your imagination and try your hardest. Again, be honest and willing to give an amount of money to compensate. You have to try and make reparations for what you have lost.
• United States
3 Apr 07
I would let the person know I have missed placed the item. Please give me some time to look for it. If it is not found by xyz,I'll replace it for you. if it is jewelery I would go price it 3 places before even saying anything.
@SatoNa (247)
• Indonesia
2 Apr 07
I have lost my friend's dvd now.. I am very confuse.. coz I thought it was somewhere in my desk.. but until now, I couldn't find it.. ""