if you don't understand,just ask
April 2, 2007 12:18am CST
if you don't understand,don't hesitate to ask.some chinese seem to feel that it is impolite to ask questions even when they don't quite understand.however,it is much better to say that you don't understand than to pretend you understand and answer very vagely.when you don't understand or haven't caught what was said,you may ask by saying any of the following: "i beg your pardon?" "i'm not clear on what you said." "i am afraid i don't understand you,would you mind saying it again?" "i'm sorry i don't follow you." "could you repeat that?" "i didn't get it." you will improve your understanding and the speaker will be happy to make his point again!
3 Apr 07
Thank you for your advice. I think this will be very helpful for many Chinese who is learning English. I frequently have an absurd idea that why i am not a westerner when i am learning English. Most westerners both speake with 2 or 3 languages. Of course if i am a westerner and while i am learning Chinese i will ponder why i am not a Chinese. :oD
5 Apr 07
hey, your analyse is quite right, and it's my thought when i can not understand otherone's opinion. i just think it is impolite,because i have not listen to the speaker clear. if i ask him to repeat, maybe he will become angry with me. so, i always afraid to ask the speaker to repeat what he said..
5 May 07
I want to ask noce I don't understand anything.But sometimes I cannot.Before asking questions,you have to judge if the people would like to answer your question.If one would not like to,his/her answer will not be likely to help you.It just is a nonsense.
7 Apr 07
I usually ask for help while I don't understand for a long time or I have no enough time to think about it. In my opinion, Some questions There is no need to waste time. you need do just ask and then you will understand, but some not. I always ask many questions while the speaker is free, I don't ask when thay are busy. Ever before, my superviser told me you should don't hesitate to ask when you can't understand a question for ten minutes. I think he is right.
19 May 07
thank you for your advice ! your words are very friendly and warm.first of all,i would like to introduce myselef to you,i am a chinese graduate student,i am interested in English ,i really hope i can grab english one day . i got to know this site by searching the internet,and i believe this site will help me a lot and i will be very happy to join certain discussions within this site.thank you again!
16 May 07
Thank you for you telling that chinese people is shy.but it is not only chinese,and You are also a chinese.ok?Perhaps this is culture in our country,Maybe everyone has the same idea that fear losing face in public,Have you even been confromted that times ever? I belive that I have pass over that feeling, I have take it into practice,I have learn that if you don't know anything the only way is to ask but fear losing face.
6 May 07
Quite agree with you.I like asking for help when i have any problem,but before that i will have a deep thinking about the question.I have got a lot by asking others. Everday, I have a word in my heart:Enjoying losing face,you will get everything! but i find that i cannot remember the new words.Anybody could help me for some advices?
5 May 07
Yeah, as you said I am just that type of guy don't wanna bother teacher and seldom ask unsolved problems. But in some light to see the issue,maybe it's not that bad coz during the process I work hard by myself to rack my brains finding out the key to that question,which cultivating a capacity to study and think independently and self-reliantly.
10 Apr 07
feel exact the same way~ hehe, guess we Chinese think it is a tradition virtue to be modest or implicit... Share a joke with all of u (guess only Chinese will undersatand the esstial meaning of it~): One American guy went to his Chinese friends wedding,we he saw the beatiful bride,he can't help to say:wow,your bride is so elegant and beautiful... Guess what the groom said? Out of the habit we Chinese have,he smiled and said:where,where...(in Chinese it means ????,the behavior of the bride doesn't mean he denied the bride's beauty,just out of modest) and the American friend said:everywhere,the nose,the eyes,the skin... I met this joke long long ago,but still I remember it as I saw it yesterday 'cuz it is so impressive!