How can I make Daddy take up the role of a father?

United States
April 2, 2007 9:42pm CST
My husband plays with my son, buys him expensive toys and watches television with him. But at times like "sleepy time", "bath time", "lunch time" or "dinner time", my son clings to me and would not eat, sleep or take a bath with or from his daddy. Sometimes I have some other chores to do or maybe I need to use the bathroom very badly, but because of my son's stubbornness, I can't leave him with daddy. What can daddy do to help here? Please suggest. thanks in advance.
5 responses
@KrisNY (7592)
• United States
3 Apr 07
How about- the 3 of you doing these things-- bath time, sleep time, dinner time.. Then slowly pull yourself away and let your husband have this time alone. Also you can try to go out for the day or a few hours and let daddy do it alone- If he is the only one there he will be forced to take care of your son. Your son needs to see your husband taking on more roles than the fun one- So I say try working together and see how that works.
@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
3 Apr 07
I had the same issue when my son was younger too. He would always want me to do everything when it came to him having a bath, feeding time, going to bed, reading stories etc., only because I was the primary caregiver. My husband is not good at that sort of thing, only when it comes to play time. No matter how much I tried, this never really changed and I still do it to this day. He does help out from time to time, however, my son prefers that I assist him instead of his father. I hope it works for you!
@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
3 Apr 07
Your son sees you as primary care giver. It would be good to have your husband participate in these activities, so your son will see him as a caregiver too. Then slowly work him into having daddy take care of him as well. he won't be so stubborn and may enjoy dad putting him to bed that way you can have some time to do other things.
• United States
3 Apr 07
Try having all three of you doing those things he does not want to do with with daddy. Eventually, try again to have daddy do it by himself. See how that goes.
@limosonia1 (1560)
• United States
3 Apr 07
Sounds like your son looks at his dad like fun time only and does not see a that he has a nuturing side to him also...You need to take a step back and let your husband handle it even if your son crys..It won't be forever and slowly he will accept your husband as a caregiver also. As long as you son knows you will give in to him he will continue to do it. At this stage they are testing their boundries and if they aren't placed it can really become a big chore. Hope it works out for you..Remember with patience anything can be done.