Feeling quilty after punishing your child.

United States
April 2, 2007 10:28pm CST
Ok we all have been there. You punish your child then they mope and although you don't show it we feel quilty. Why as parents do we second guess our selves. Mind you it won't make me change the punishment but I always feel like such a heel. My son and I are close but he is almost 15 and thinks he knows it all and just got punished so he isn't talking to me, How many parents give in if the feel quilty? Do you stay strong? I always think that if I give in they will walk all over me,
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@mjsdls (1841)
• United States
3 Apr 07
My son does the same thing. He tries and make me feel bad for punishing him. Sometimes it works and sometimes it don't. I always try and explain to him why he is being punished. I try and explain also that I love him and I punish him because I love him and that he did something wrong and has to be corrected. I tell him sometimes that if I didn't love him I would not care how he acts. But I do love him and want him to do better and become a good and decent person. Well I do not go into all that, but he understands why is being punished after his punishment is over. I try and ask him again after he is punished if he understands why he was punished. If he says no I try and explain it to him again.
• United States
3 Apr 07
I think communication is a big deal..I try and talk to him when he calms down. I love my children dearly. Which is why I want them to learn and be able to function in society and they have to learn that some of there actions are just unacceptable.