I need some serious relationship advice!!!!

United States
April 2, 2007 11:25pm CST
I am totally in love with my ex. The problem is when we were together I just left him alone and told him I needed space. He was really hurt by the breakup but we still remained friends. We tried once before to start over but my job got in the way because I worked all day. Now I have a better job and I am able to spend more time with him. but he keeps on saying that he feels like I wiil break his heart again. I know this is the man I want to marry but how do I gain his trust back or should I just let it go?
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@debshie (392)
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
i think you should show him that you really want him back rather thatn just tell him. you need to understand that he's gone through a lot of pain and that you really hurt him. give him time, be patient with him and he is really inlove with you and wants to give your relationship another shot, he will learn to trust you again. And if it does happen make sure that you learn to value what you have for it if will be lost again.. who knows what will happen.Ü
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• Philippines
3 Apr 07
Reassures him that you wont leave him this time. And tell him that he is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with. Say things to him that deep down you know to be true. Remember what Julia Roberts told Richard Gere in the movie "Runaway Bride". Richard Gere no longer wants Julia back but she persisted and say the right words at the right time. And Richard Gere took her back. I'm not saying that you copy every word. Just show genuine care and love for the guy. Guys are softy too when they hear the right words.
@amaine (2027)
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
First of all, I think you should ask your ex about his feelings. If he still loves you. If yes, about time to ask yourself. Do you still love him? Are you willing to prove to him that what he is thinking right now is wrong? If your answers are yes, then there must be no questions asked. You both love each other,and it must be kinda stupid between two loving people not to have a commitment, and every relationship needs a chance. No matter how many chances you already blew, you still have to prove your ex that you have changed. You must show him all the love that you were not able to give him in the past. Why would you let go? If you really love him, and he still loves you, then go. Because, I believe that no matter what the problems might occur, as long as you two love each other, you will be able to surpass them. ;) Of course, you should fight for your love for him. Unless he doesn't feel the same for you. This is just my opinion of course. The decision is still yours. It's up to you. But make sure, you can only make decisions like this only once. So better make sure about your decision. (--,)