How to propose to my boyfriend ?

@diablouk (600)
April 3, 2007 2:52pm CST
Today, My boyfriend finally said he will marry me. We've had some ups and downs, he lives 250 miles away now and I wasn't sure we'd ever get there but he finally said yes. The only thing he has asked is that, when I see him again in 10 days time, he wants me to propose properly with a ring etc. I want to make the proposal special so I'm asking for your views How do you think I should propose?
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• India
4 Apr 07
Hey girl you are lucky atlast your boyfriend said he will propose you.All you need to do is were a good dress and ask him to come somewhere .
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@diablouk (600)
4 Apr 07
I'm a guy, so is he - if I wore a dress to propose, he'd run a mile LOL
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• United States
3 Apr 07
Well I guess I would do the whole romantic meal thing, then the whole on the knee thing with the ring and blah blah. Sounds like a good idea, but I will not be marrying for some time if ever. The idea of marrage is scary but power to you.
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@diablouk (600)
3 Apr 07
I want it to be totally special and a little unique if I can. Thanks for the response
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@cyntrow (8525)
• United States
14 Apr 07
So did you do it yet? Keep us posted.
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@diablouk (600)
14 Apr 07
To quote Rod Stewart - "Tonight's the Night"! It's a little after 5am here and I'm heading off to London shortly. Going down on the coach so it'll be lunchtime before I get there. I've booked a 5* hotel for the weekend; it's somewhere we have stayed once before and I know he really loved the place. Meeting him at 2pm and have planned the entire afternoon and evening so that he won't have a clue exactly where or when anything will happen. Not back until late on Monday so you'll have to wait with baited breath to see if everything goes to plan and if I managed to surprise him. Fingers crossed (",)
@diablouk (600)
16 Apr 07
Well it happened :-) He kinda beat me to it slightly though. Saturday evening we went to a bar, they had a system up where you could send an sms and they would display it - and he sent a message asking me to marry him. I think he was kinda worried that I wouldn't do it so I deliberately waited for the right moment. We went out Sunday evening to the cinema, had a meal and then walked back to the hotel in the moonlight. We took the long way back, walking along the Thames embankment; I waited til I found a lovely spot close to the water, moon reflecting off it, then took the ring I had carried round for two days, got on one knee and asked him then. We plan to wait a while now before we marry but obviously he said yes
@diablouk (600)
16 Apr 07
Thank you. Feeling a bit sad tonight because I have had to leave him again and come home. Could be another 4 weeks before I see him again but at least that time, we will be flying out to Spain for a holiday together :-)
@breepeace (3027)
• Canada
4 Apr 07
First off, congratulations! Without knowing you two personally, I'm not sure if there's something that has a great amount of significance for both of you, maybe a common interest or activity? My personal dream is to be proposed to outdoors at sunset, but that's me. Maybe if you give us some idea of what you're both into we could help tailor a proposal that would be special and memorable?
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@diablouk (600)
4 Apr 07
He loves shopping partying, good food, holidays - the nice life We both do like theatre so I did think of taking him to see a show and trying to arrange to get on stage to propose but might embarrass him that way
@breepeace (3027)
• Canada
4 Apr 07
Hmm.. maybe take him out for a night -- go out for a beautiful dinner, take in a show and then go for a walk together in a park, where you then get down on one knee and tell him you'd be honored if he would spend the rest of his life with you? If he's easily embarrassed, it might be advisable to do it someplace in private, and besides, then it was a personal moment between the 2 of you. No pomp and circumstance.
@4cuteboys (4103)
• United States
3 Apr 07
Hmm.. I'd say make it sort of traditional! I am a sucker for traditional things :) Maybe dinner at a great place, sort of dark and quiet. I don't know! When my hubby proposed we were lying in bed together and I thought that was sweet too. I say go with romantic dinner unless there is something special you can do together like a weekend at a hotel like with a hot tub or something. Hope this helps :)) good luck!!!
@diablouk (600)
3 Apr 07
Thank you We will be staying in a hotel so I'm looking for somewhere really special anyway. He flat shares with someone right now and that weekend is an opportunity for us to go flat hunting together.
@4cuteboys (4103)
• United States
3 Apr 07
Well even home hunting is sweet to do together! I hope it goes well!!
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• United States
4 Apr 07
Sorry..Call me old fashioned, but if this relationship is to be a healthy everlasting healhy one, I believe since you are in the marriage mood...If he truely is, that he should do the proposing and cough up the cash for the rings...that would show he is in this at least for now...
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@diablouk (600)
4 Apr 07
maybe I wasn't clear - He's 21, I'm 42 and we are both men! Hence why I proposed
@cyntrow (8525)
• United States
4 Apr 07
Oh and make sure he stays of the computer for the next 10 days.
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@diablouk (600)
4 Apr 07
He's way too busy looking for new flats for us to want to come on here LOL
@cyntrow (8525)
• United States
4 Apr 07
I think, a candlelight picnic supper, either on a boat or somewhere near the water, with the moon reflecting off the glassy surface, soft music playing in the background. "Dance with Me" by Orleans is the song that comes to mind. Although "Dancing in the Moonlight" is another good one. I dig a good old 70's soft rock tune. Oh, oh. NO. "Always and Forever." That's the song. "Every day, love me your own special way, melt all my heart away, with your smile, Take time to tell me, you really care, And we'll share tomorrow, together." And drop the ring in a glass of champagne. Just make sure the candles are bright enough. If he choked on the ring, it would just ruin the mood. LOL. Congratulations. I wish you all the best.
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@diablouk (600)
4 Apr 07
Many thanks
@angel68 (138)
• United States
3 Apr 07
Excuse me for being the bad apple here but in your lines you wrote"he asked that when i see him again he wants me to propose properly".If he wants the traditional get on your knees thing then why isnt he proposing? Why is he expecting you to do something.What happens if you dont do it the way he wants you to? He wont marry you? Im sorry for being like this but when someone ask someone to marry them then it shouldnt be about how one does it and whether its the right or wrong way..its about the heart and the meaning. Putting all this aside... what about a romantic sunset to ask him by.
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@diablouk (600)
4 Apr 07
Because we don't live together or close to one another, because we have had certain difficulties in our relationship and because we are two men, its not up to now been a traditional proposal. All he is asking for when he asks for a proper proposal is the down on one knee, romantic gesture
3 Apr 07
Congratulations (",) I'd like someone to take me somewhere really romantic and do the whole getting down on one knee thing. It makes it more difficult now because he will be expecting you to do something now so maybe you could take him to a restaurant he likes and get the waiter to bring the ring with dessert so he doesn't guess you will do it there
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@diablouk (600)
3 Apr 07
Thanks. We do have a restaurant we both like but I think he would expect it to happen there and I'd like to really surprise him when I actually do get on my knee
4 Apr 07
well if you have to propose your boyfreind then you have to finally end up saying it to him right on his face.which probably you dare at times.But that is the best way that you can get to a mans heart, as i strongly feel that men are emotional fools, so they would get serious about it in time.
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• United States
4 Apr 07
Oh and PS... Letting him make this move, is feedback that your relationship is healthy
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