Deciding to Stay At Home

United States
April 3, 2007 3:28pm CST
I have been going back and forth with the idea of staying at home with my 9 month old for, well, 9 months now and I just can't decide. I would LOVE to spend every day with her, and I don't particularly love my job and would not miss it AT ALL, but it would make us tight on money. What were your reasons for staying at home or continuing to work? THANKS!
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@makingpots (11922)
• United States
12 Apr 07
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• United States
7 Apr 07
I stay at home, but I am finishing up my degree in special education. After that i would love to still stay at home and homeschool my children, but then how would I pay my debt? If dh were on board, and I didn't love my job then i would absolutely stay home forever. I don't think you would regret it, and if you did there are always more jobs out there.
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@jmathen (112)
• India
5 Apr 07
I dont have a child yet, but I would like to say something since you are going back and forth ! Well, there are certain choices you make in your life, right? You have a choice of staying home or going to work.. Now, you dont seem interested in your work, but then again, you will be tight in money if you dont go.. Why dont you try to look for something that you can do from home and at the same time, earn some money? In other words, look out there for some other options to bring in the earnings..Or stay home till your child gets to a certain age and then, look out for a job.. Whatever choice you make, you have to keep in mind, Huge responsiblities are coming up on your way when the child grows up..Wouldnt it be great if you can do something at the earliest and save up something for your child????
@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
3 Apr 07
Well we just moved from Samoa to USA and I was previously working and my son was taken care of by family members. We never really talked about whether I should of stayed home, but because my job was only 5-10 minutes away and I had constant contact with my son several times a day, we didn't even think about it. Only until we moved to the USA (my hubbys job brought us here), we decided it was best for me to stay home because 1) Preschool/Daycare in our area is very expensive and we cannot afford it 2) I didn't know much about the place we are living in to put my son into daycare 3) It was the right time for me to stay home to take care of him 4) My husband has a good job and even though things are a little tight, my son is so much happier (and I am too) and we get to do lots of things together everyday 5) Its the best thing we ever did for our son! Even though sometimes I do miss working, I am much happier that I am home with my son.
@pumpkinjam (5774)
• United Kingdom
6 Apr 07
I stayed at home with my kids because I believe it is the best thing for them. To me, it's much better to have a little less money and less luxuries and have that all important time with your children than it is to have to leave them just so you don't have to miss out on holidays, cars, whatever else it would be that the extra money would pay for. It has been proven (not that people should need proof) that children who have been looked after by their mum generally fare better than those who are left in full time care.(I have always looked after my own children and they are happy, intelligent, thoughtful and polite. Not that children left with carers couldn't be like that but I can honestly tell, when fetching my oldest son from school, which children have been looked after by their parents. If you can live comfortably, even at a push, without you working then it will be better for you and your baby. If you can't do that then could you limit your work to part time? If it's adult company you will miss by not working, there are probably playgroups where you could take your baby and you could both make friends there. Good luck with whatever you decide.