Are you still inlove with your husband/wife/significant other?
April 3, 2007 5:38pm CST
Time passess by and the question about still being inlove with the person you chose to spend your life hangs like an axe. But is love only an emotion? Or is it a firm decision that even when the feeling is gone, you've decided to continue to love the person no matter what. What do you think?
4 Apr 07
yes, i am.. still so much in love.. but when i start to think of the reality that it would be painful for both of us to move on to the next level of our relationship i'm sort of trying to fall out of love for it to be less painful.. does it work that way? i've read once, i think that was reader's digest, that emotions like love would last for about six months only, and after that it would be the mind working for the relationship.. i would sometimes think it's true. most people would regard love as feeling of affection, but i think true love is a mixture of the heart and the mind.. it is a firm decision that you would decide to love the person no matter what and "no matter what" would always seem to be easier than loosing the person..
4 Apr 07
i very much agree with you. :) love is not just looking into each other's eyes; it's not just holding each other's hands; not just saying "i love you". Love is looking at the same direction too, and knowing that, you can expect rough roads. One may fall out of emotion-love. When that happens, people tend to completely fall out of love with the person. Love is not just a commitment. It's a firm decision to bind yourself to the commitment you made. When the feeling is gone, then it's the everyday decision to love the person that matters most, no matter what. :)
4 Apr 07
I am still very much in love with my husband . We have been through a lot over the years and have had some trying times but have managed to get through all of them togehter . Love is an emotion but it is an incredibly strong emotion . You will feel no stronger emotion in life than love and hate . My husband and I have been together since we were still in high school and it is now seventeen years later and I still love him as I did back then . In some ways I love him even more :)
4 Apr 07
It is a tricky question to answer. Mine was a love marriage and i used to be madly in love with this e person. Yes I do not feel the same kind of love now. But that does not mean that i am attrated to other guys. No I am not. I miss him when we are appart for longer interwals. But I do not feel the same kind of maddness and love for him now. That feeling is somewhere lost. We have our differences but still I want to live with him. What I think is that we have grown in our relationship and are used to each other now. (We know each other for the ;ast 9 years). But yes I do miss that same magical feeling of being in love. Yearning for his company, melting with his touch and loosing myself in his arms.