pregnancy

@msqtech (15226)
United States
April 4, 2007 7:54am CST
I keep reading posts about "Accidental Pregnancy" Could someone please explain how a pregnancy occurs accidentally? I really think this may be part of the problem in our society.
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@lifeis2good (1183)
• United States
4 Apr 07
Hey there - you are so right on!!! There are no accidental pregnancies!!!! You either used protection or you didn't!!! And I have to agree with you that it is a huge part of the problem in our society - alas so many people try to come up with lame excuses for their behaviour and don't take responsibility for it!!!
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@craftwave (1338)
• United States
6 Apr 07
Not really, because even when you use birth control, correctly or not, you do so with the knowledge that they are not 100% safe. Only abstinence is 100% safe way of not getting pregnant. You can't call it an accident if you know there is a chance of getting pregnant.
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@bhawnam (1436)
• India
7 Apr 07
yes one does that with full knowledge but maybe accidental pregnancy here means that when you have not planned a pregnancy and it just happens.. even after taking all precautions... thats what i feel :)
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@riyasam (16571)
• India
11 Apr 07
i am not so sure whether accidental pregnancy means that.
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@nicolec (2673)
• United States
4 Apr 07
Thank you so much for saying that. My boyfriend has a son that was 'an accidental' preganancy. The mother of his son was divorced with three kids already. Now I ask you. How does a woman in her late 30's who already has 3 kids 'accidently' get pregnant! Does she not know how this works? Is she that slow? And yes, I blame it on the woman. As a woman I find it is my responsibility to protect my own body and to keep it healthy. I trust no one else. this is my body. Not even the doctors. How many times have you heard the story about a medicine some woman was taking and it caused the birth control not to work. I know of at least two pregnancies like that. Apparently the doctor never said 'hey, this medicine will cause you to be unprotected'. Oh no. I would be sending the diaper bill to the doctor. Ok, don't mean to rant. I just get so tired of people getting knocked up all over the place. It's irresponsible.
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@msqtech (15226)
• United States
4 Apr 07
I think we need to love the child and be very careful with our acts.
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@deebomb (15322)
• United States
15 May 07
nicolec If a MAN or woman play with the tools they are bound to build something sooner or later. It take two so you really can't blame the woman alone.
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@makingpots (11922)
• United States
4 Apr 07
Thank you for this post. My husband and I tried for about 10 years to get pregnant. We couldn't and couldn't identify the reason why. It seemed I was always hearing about accidental pregnancies everytime I turned around. It was heart wrenching. We later finally conceived after we quit trying. We had resolved to life with no children. We were on a lovely, totally relaxing beach vacation and when conception happened. It was unplanned but trust me it was NO ACCIDENT. We now have the most wonderful 2.5 yr old little boy.
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@nicolec (2673)
• United States
4 Apr 07
I would call that a miracle baby!
• Canada
6 Apr 07
tears i say, tears in my eyes. a lovely happening for you, congrats
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
4 Apr 07
That is an interesting question - since they know what causes that now. I know there are failure rates with every kind of birth control. Some of the methods, IE spermicide alone, run as high as 50%. Ouch! For more info read this - http://www.fda.gov/Fdac/features/1997/babytabl.html I don't think people fully understand the risks they take with these types of contraceptions, and obviously we won't see it in magazines or TV commercials. a 50% failure rate should not be considered as a means of birth control unless it is used with another form of birth control. The american people certainly need an education. THanks for this question, I learned from it.
@msqtech (15226)
• United States
4 Apr 07
I think civilized society needs an education to remain civil.
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• United States
6 Apr 07
Oh my god! No one ever told me is less effective in 200-pound women! And no one ever told me wbout the Lunelle injection! I need to get back to the doctor!
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• United States
4 Apr 07
I know exactly what you're saying, but let me tell you what happened to us. My husband and I had been dating for 3 months, and I was on the pill, when I started getting recurrent UTI's. Within 2 months I had been treated 6 times for a UTI with different antibiotics each time. During this time, and you can believe me or not but I'm telling the truth, I took my daily pill 100% of the time, each and every day. 2 months later I started feeling weird, took a home pregnancy test, just because I had a gut feeling, and found out that I was pregnant. I was still on the pill. Called my OB-GYN and scheduled an appointment for the same day. When she asked if we had been using birth control, and I told her that yes, I had been on the pill the whole time, the first question out of her mouth was, "have you been on any antibiotics recently?". She told me that when you are on antibiotics, the pill is not effective and another birth control method must be used. Why didn't any of the doctors I saw tell me this??? I have no idea, but since having my daughter I have talked to 2 other women who had the exact same thing happen. I do not know if you would classify ours as an "accidental pregnancy" or not, certainly it was an unplanned one, but having my daughter is the best thing that's ever happened to me and I wouldn't have wanted things any other way, so I definately don't consider her an "accident".
@mgmagana (3621)
• United States
4 Apr 07
my mom in law had the same thing happen to her with my husband, she was on the pill, got sick and took antibiotics she was not warned about the pill not being as effective when taken with antibiotics and got prego with my hubby. So fortunately for me she had him! So I'd classify it as an accident.
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• United States
5 Apr 07
Wow what a term! Th only way is if both people were out of teir metal gourds and were walking down a street naked and then one of them fell on the other and yeah I don't think so ok well I tried but really its just another excuse to be irrisponsible yet again, maybe some of the aborted babies had the answer and well just never know!
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@carlaabt (3505)
• United States
5 Apr 07
I hate that when people say they had an accidental pregnancy. We weren't planning on having a baby as soon as we had our son (he was conceived either on our wedding day or the following day) but I would never say he was an "accident." He is a beautiful little blessing that we were fortunate to receive. I think the only time I would consider a baby an accident was if rape was involved. Just because you are careless or your bc doesn't work, does not mean that the baby is an accident. People know what creates babies, if they don't want them, they should be more careful.
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
4 Apr 07
the only ways in my opinion that accidental pregnancies can still happen is when someone either refuses to use contraception or it fails for one reason or another. I think the resistance to use contaception is one of the biggest problems facing our society blessed be
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@Grandmaof2 (7603)
• Canada
4 Apr 07
Yes I have to say I think society needs an evaluation. I was once a foster parent and in good standing, I did very well and I'm glad I was there for my foster kids. I won't but I could tell you things that would make you sick, make you cry and make you think that I'm nothing sort of exaggerating but children are the target for hurt of not being wanted, neglect and all as result of the parents either being too young, too immature and whatever. With the means and ways of birth control there should be no need for accidental pregnancy except for the obvious which of course is rape.
@lightningMD (5932)
• United States
4 Apr 07
i have always thought of an accidental pregnancy as when someone becomes pregnant in spite of using birth control methods...if you read the small print it will tell 90% effective or 80% etc...all birth contols have some failure rate...hence yoy could become pregnant on accident...
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
15 Apr 07
The only way I would call a Pregnancy an accident is if the Protection they where using did not work which does happen But the majority call it an accident now when really they have been careless that is not an accident that is carelessness
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• India
14 Apr 07
An accident is an accident. But being cautious one can easily avert such embarrasing and totally unwanted things. Sometimes the sperm-child feel so very affinity towards their eggies destined to meet them....that they just jump out of the male scrotum-box to meet their lovers.
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• India
13 Apr 07
You are perfectly right in what you say about the problem in the society. Most youngsters today don't seem to take any responsibility about their actions. I recently read about a man in Britain who is collecting unemployment benefit, but has fathered nearly twenty children from about five different women! This is the level of irresponsibility that seems to be in the society. According to me, that man deserves to be thrown into prison, but as a legal eagle would rush to point out, under what charge? If women allow him to sleep with them and don't even bother to use protection, whose fault is it really, anyway? Ultimately it is the state that is impoverished in the process.
@magnel (2263)
• India
12 Apr 07
Accidental pregnancy occurs when you don't pay much of attention to safety...
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• United States
11 Apr 07
Protection is never 100% therefore accidental pregnancy can occur, also rape is a very high rated accidental pregnancy factor. Stupidity is probably the highest, for those that think the calender is a form of birth control you may get accidentally pregnant.
@riyasam (16571)
• India
11 Apr 07
i think a pregnancy which when one is not prepared 4 it is accidental pregnancy
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@Dolcerina (3379)
• Hungary
10 Apr 07
Well, I think there are accidental pregnancies that members alredy mentioned in your discussion, but you probably mean that there are people who use this expression for those occasions when there were not any kinds of protection. I think for these occasions we should use the "human-stupidness". Anyway my husband believed also that my pregnancy was "Accidental", but it was only his stupidness :) and my secret :)
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@romel_ece (1290)
• Philippines
10 Apr 07
It is only considered accidental pregnancy when both partner or either one partner were not doing it with love.Thus in the event when the girl got pregnant and the boy is not ready for the responsibility and will neglect the girl instead it would result to accidental pregnancy.On the other hand when the girl got pregnant and she was just doing it for fun on her partner then the accidental pregnancy would result to abortion.I would recommend to have a seminar about how to handle a relationship especially on the youth sector.
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@karen_24 (320)
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
i think in accidental pregnancy.....when they are doing withdrawal there is the capacity that they will have the accidental pregnancy....now a days they are a lot of cases are like that.....even the younger people.....having that accidental pregnancy
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@missyd79 (3438)
• United States
9 Apr 07
my son was an accidental blessing in my life. My fault was uneducated on birth control pills. I was not aware at the time that if you take antibiotics while on the pill that you are at risk to getting pregnant. So I will have to say is that alot of people are uneducated about birth control.
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