Do you feel secure in your marriage?
April 4, 2007 11:25am CST
Or are you always wondering whether or not it's going to work and if he/she REALLY loves you as much as you do them? My husband and I are young, and didn't know each other long before getting married and having a baby. Now that the baby is almost 6 months old and we've been married for a little while, I find myself riddled with self-doubt, wondering if I made the right decisions. Part of it is my own insecurity. I've always had low self-esteem but before the baby came I was a size 6 and very petite. Now I'm a size 12 and I just feel so awful about myself all the time! I know that eventually I'll lose the weight and feel attractive again but, in the meantime, I worry ALL THE TIME about my marriage and whether or not it's going to work. I don't think he finds me attractive anymore, even though he says he does. What can I do to feel more secure in my marriage???
• United States
4 Apr 07
My husband and I were in the same boat a couple of months ago. We got married about a year ago and decided to try and have a baby. I got pregnant and lost the baby at 5 and1/2 weeks. I was tiny and then due to getting pregnant and the prenatal vitamins I gained 30 lbs. I thought my husband didn't find me attractive anymore but most guys now think that if you have more meat they like it. I dont know why because it makes us feel like crap but they love it. If you feel that insecure make him sit down and talk with you. Maybe you can get him to help you lose the weight, that is what my husband is doing. He knows that being the size I was before made me really happy and if I need to be tiny to be happy then he is willing to help out.