Do you go out of your way to make people feel better?

@bkfuels (1606)
Canada
April 4, 2007 11:33pm CST
I am a real sucker for discussions where someone has been made to feel bad here on mylot, I feel it is my responsibility to try to make them feel better. I get really angry when I hear someone has gone out of their way to criticize and even email someone to make them feel bad. These people I hope are not my friends.I think I have chosen some really good ones,that would not do this to me or others. Why do some people have to be mean? I really do not like mean people.
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@Grandmaof2 (7603)
• Canada
5 Apr 07
I guess I'm one of the lucky ones here because as far as I know no one has been mean to me and I know I have done my level best to be nice. One of the reasons I like myLot so much is because people do seem to be helpful. I think I picked good friends and good people have also asked to be friends. I love my myLot friends a lot. Take Care and thank you for being on my friends list.
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• United States
5 Apr 07
As far as that goes, you will not get a mean response or get a personal attack as long as your posts are always cheery. I have found that if you post to unpopular discussions that you leave yourself open to attack. Or a mean response. I will be true to my nature as we all should be. I also have a fantastic group of friends. But I like to step out of the comfort zone, and give my opinions on various topics. Sometimes as soon as you do, you are berated with a visage of ideas you did not mean to invoke.
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• Philippines
5 Apr 07
Hi. I tend to help people who are downtrodden coz I have been there too. I would indeed go out of my way to make a person feel better even if I myself am not feeling so good. It is just so mean to get a kick out of making people miserable. Something must be really wrong with the person and it would make me think that they must have had little love in their life. Maybe they are mean because they never have felt what it was like to be otherwise. They could have been brought up that way. On the other hand, maybe it's an acquired trait. Whatever the reason, I think it boils down to lack of understanding and love. Thank you for this post. Have a great day and happy posting.
@1983tyler (508)
• United States
5 Apr 07
I think people who are mean all the time must live miserable lives. I think they must be very sad people if they get their kicks putting other people down. I like to do my best to help other people especially if someone has been mean to them. Sometimes it seems that no matter how happy and sweet you are, someone has to try to bring you down. You are a sweet person, and I'm glad you are one of my friends.
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@naty1941 (2336)
• United States
5 Apr 07
Some mean people are actually neurotic or have some type of mental disorder. Others are just plain mean. I know what you mean as I also read the discussions and find unneccasary meanness in some replies.
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@minnie_98214 (10574)
• United States
5 Apr 07
Im with you mean people suck. Some people really have nothing better to do. Sometimes my humor can be taken wrong but if so I will usually explain myself I never want someone to think im being mean.
• China
5 Apr 07
Firstly, i appreicate you what persist in supporting mylot website.. i have to study to you. this is my thrid day that come into it. Hope we can become good friend. In addition to, you don't care these mean guys' thinking, so as you do wonderfully everday, that prove you are successful
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• United States
5 Apr 07
Bk yes I will take the time if I find a discussion where someone is being dissed on a upscale level. If you are one of my friends then I bend over backwards to make it right. I am not a sucker but I do get drawn in, by certain topics. Before I go over board if I do not know that person well I will take a look at the profile and see if what i want to say is justified. "Mean" can sometimes be perspective. You can give a decent argument without personal attack. It's how you present it that makes all the difference.
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@kming52 (280)
• China
5 Apr 07
I appreciate your thought on making people feel better but bad.I support you!
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• Canada
5 Apr 07
hi you are very nice women. i dont get it either. some people feel the need to make others feel bad to make them selves feel better. watch live tv and sell your stuff for free on www.globaleflyer.com
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• Philippines
5 Apr 07
same here, i do not like mean people. and going back to the topic, yes, i go out of my way to make people feel better. i hate to see people mistreated, oppressed, judged, especially those who are not able to stand up and fight for themselves. i hate people who deliberately hurt other people. even the simplest thing like making fond of other people's appearance and difficult situations. that's really mean.
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• United States
5 Apr 07
Yes I try to go out of my way to make others feel better. At times I could be angry and might start to be a little mean to people who annoy me, but most of the time when I'm with some of my good friends, I am cool to hang out with, and I never really start trouble with anyone that is close to me.
@User10 (82)
• United States
6 Apr 07
I have had people be horribly mean to me at times for no reason. I know what that can feel like. I think that's very sad to make someone hurt when they have done nothing to deserve it. Maybe people who do this really feel bad themselves and just want to make someone else as miserable as they are. I would never intentionally try to hurt another person who has not done anything to me, what would I get out of it. I think it's a little sick, and I try and stay away from those kinds of people.
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• United States
6 Apr 07
Many times when I go out of my way to make others happy, the people aren't grateful. It seems they like the people who are mean to them versus me who I do many favors for them except lend them money. I guess its true people generally prefer to be around mean people as opposed to nice ones,.
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• Philippines
6 Apr 07
Mylot is one way to reach out to people, not financially but emotionally and mentally. If I read a discussion asking for some advice I will give my sincerest advice to help that specific person. But if I think some discussions are not really worth answering or for me non-sense then instead of giving some negative comments or becoming mean I rather not respond to those discussions. I guess some people don't understand that when they answer they are reaching out to the starter those who would read this and it reflects their negative qualities when they do become mean.
@kurtbiewald (2628)
• United States
6 Apr 07
I try to sometimes if I feel sad, then I can't do much to help anyone yeah,I don't like mean people either. its usually just from them being beaten up or being mistreated as kids or something. we aren't born mean
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@dbeast (1499)
• India
5 Apr 07
we dont really have to go out of our way to help someone or make them feel better.as long as you dont intentionally do anything to harm a person ,i think that is good enough according to me.i have indeed been a victim of abuse before.i did feel bad in the beginning but i later learnt to ignore bad things.i have once read that when a person abuses you and if you do not take it the abuse goes back to the person who said them.i follow that policy to the poeple who are mean.
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@weemam (13378)
5 Apr 07
I agree with you my friend , I do not like mean or nasty people whether here on My Lot or in my every day life , I am always polite and courteous to people and I expect them to treat me the same , but sadly that doesn't always happen ,even when driving if someone has been courteous to me I acknowledge it with a wave but I get annoyed with their ignorance if the don't do the same thing for me , I think people are forgetting what good manners are sometimes xx
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
5 Apr 07
I do the same thing. I think its good to try and make people feel better when they are feeling down. I usually stay away from the nasty people but every once in awhile I will attack them if Im in a bad mood.LOL I just cant help it. If they want to be nasty then the should expect for someone to be nasty back to them.
@thefuture (1751)
• Nigeria
5 Apr 07
Yes I do. That is one of my priority, to encourage people and make them feel better about themselves. Most especially here in Africa where people are struggling to make something out of life. Thanks
@Lavera1 (897)
• United States
5 Apr 07
No I don't go out of my way to make people feel better. We all have to grow up and we shouldn't be looking for a pacifier when our feelings are hurt. It says in the Bible to pray for those who have persecuted you. When you pray for those persons you are forgiving them. You just might be saving them from eminent destruction. You just don't know, Bkfuels. So next time one of your friends get hurt, pray for them and the wrong doer also.
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