Will you forgive your spouse if they cheat on you?

What do you think? - What should be done ??
United States
April 5, 2007 7:03am CST
You are happily married and then out of a blue moon, you realise that your spouse cheated on you. Will you forgive him/her?? Will you abhore him/her. What is your limit for saving a relationship??
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7 responses
@catbvq (364)
• Philippines
5 Apr 07
Yes, I would forgive him eventually but it will take a long time. He should also work hard to win me back and he should be very sorry and promise that he would never do it again as long as he lives. But after the incident, I think I would live separately from him until I feel that we can move back together again.
• United States
5 Apr 07
hmm nice move!!
@Phlamingho (7831)
• Denmark
5 Apr 07
Hard to say when you haven't tried it, but I think I would try, but I'm not sure I could.
• United States
5 Apr 07
Thxx You have not tried "cheating" or " forgiving" ?
@jmathen (112)
• India
5 Apr 07
I will forgive him but it will hard for me to trust him as before ! We will have to definitely build up that trust from scratch..Its hard to walk away from someone you love so dearly.. we will do whatever it takes to bring our lives back to normal...
• United States
5 Apr 07
gr88!!!
5 Apr 07
I would find it very difficult to forgive cheating. Our marriage is built on trust. Once that is gone, it is gone forever. I would be stuck here though. I wouldn't have any money to go back home to the States. I have no support system here. I would not want to stay but I may be forced to. Everytime he is late, you would ask yourself, is he seeing her? I couldn't handle the stress.
• United States
5 Apr 07
thxxxx...but dont you think trust can be rebuilded with mutual efforts ?? Dont you think that there must be something empty in your relationship that makes want from somewhere else ?? I do agree that its really tough .
@4cuteboys (4102)
• United States
5 Apr 07
I would stay but it would be very very hard for me to trust him ever again. He would have to work his butt off to earn bits and pieces of my trust back on a daily basis. However that being said I love my husband and couldn't imagine my life without him. So if he cheated and realized he made a mistake and was communicating about it and it was obvious it wouldn't happen again, I would forgive him and try my best to move on, things wouldn't be easy, but I would hope that we could come out on top, even over something as devastating as that.
• United States
5 Apr 07
thxxx....its gr8 ....and do you believe your husband would respond in same manner if roles were switched??
• United States
4 May 07
This is really hard because I love my husband so much and if I found out he cheated I would be devastated. I really wouldn't know what to do. I say I would leave him and so on but if it came down to it I probably would work it out because I love him but there would be a lot of working together. I would never let him know this though.
• United States
29 Apr 07
I would forgive my husband if he cheated on me but it wouldn't be the same because I would probably never forget. However,1 Corinthians 13 (a chapter about what REAL LOVE is) is a key tool to help anyone make that type of decision. I don't think you understand love until you read and comprehend those verses. Here are some of them:Love is patient and kind;love is not jealous or boastful;it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way;it is not irritable or resentful. Love bears all things,believes all things, hopes all things,ENDURES ALL THINGS. Feel free to look up the rest but those are power statements in the bible to try and live up to. I believe alot of marriages would still be together if they looked at Love the Real way.