Suggestions for waking up

@sunshine4 (8709)
United States
April 5, 2007 9:50am CST
I have an 18 yr old son who works nights 4pm-3am. He sets 3 alarms to wake himself up, but sleeps right threw them. He always leaves me a note asking to wake him at a certain time, usually around 1. I go down to his room, turn on the lights and tell him it is 1 oclock. He sits up talks to me and then I go upstairs. All the time I think he is awake, he usually goes right back to sleep. I go threw trying to wake him up for usually more than an hour every day. Do you have any suggestions on what he can do to wake himself up. I am worried that when we go on vacation, he won't get up. He keeps saying he wants to get his own place, but I tell him he can't until he can figure out a good sleep schedule.
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@Drakhan (241)
• United States
5 Apr 07
He should try changing the time he's trying to get up ... or the time he goes to bed by half an hour or so. Human's follow a 90-minute sleep cycle that repeats itself over and over. So it's very easy to wake up every 90 minutes. However, if your alarm is going off in the middle of the cycle when you're in deep REM sleep, you'll have a hard time waking up and you'll feel like a zombie all day. I'm betting that 1 p.m. wake-up call is coming right in the middle of son's sleep cycle. So, let's say he goes to sleep at 5 a.m. He'd be easy to wake at 6:30 a.m., 9 a.m. 10:30 a.m., noon and 1:30 p.m.
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@sunshine4 (8709)
• United States
5 Apr 07
wow, i didn't realize that with sleep cycles. thanks for the information. i am going to figure this out.
@taymouse (585)
• United States
5 Apr 07
Hi Drakhan, I also wanted to thank you for posting this. I never knew this before either and your information was even very helpful for me. Even if I get the perfect amount of sleep I wake up sleepy, so with what you've said I sort of figured out a better sleep schedule for me, also. :)
@faythlyn (94)
• United States
5 Apr 07
Could he be oversleeping? Most adults need 8 hours of sleep a night, but if you sleep longer than that you will feel tired again. My husband always sleeps through the alarm clock and it drives me nuts. Sometimes I consider just letting him sleep through it and hopefully he will realize that he cant just count on me!
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@sunshine4 (8709)
• United States
5 Apr 07
I dont think that he is oversleeping. he has a hard time getting to sleep when home from work. he usually goes to bed around 6am and wants up at 1 or 2.
• United States
5 Apr 07
Go to a truck stop and purchase an alarm called a 'screaming mimi' or something similar. My cousin is a truck driver, and apparently, they are notorious for sleeping through alarms even though they MUST wake up to get going again to meet their deadlines. The loudest, most obnoxious alarms can be found in truck stop stores. Alternatively, you might look into alarms for the hard of hearing. Some of them come with components that shake the bed or lights that come on while a super-loud alarm goes off. There's one I just saw online called the Sonic Boom at http://www.activeforever.com and it comes with a bed shaker.
@sunshine4 (8709)
• United States
5 Apr 07
Great advice. We have a truck stop not too far from here. I will go and see what I can find. If it doesn't work I will check out the web site.
• United States
5 Apr 07
My husband does this (he works 2 jobs) which means he MUST get up that next morning by a certain time. Ideas: - try opening the blinds, if that doesn't work open the actual window to let in the air. - Pull the covers off him and say you plan on washing them today. - Turn a fan on, so it blows at him. - If he has a cell phone try calling him, it seems no matter what you will always answer the phone. - if none of these work try throwing water on him and RUN.
@sunshine4 (8709)
• United States
5 Apr 07
I have tried all but the water. And if I did that I'd better run fast! Thanks
@Talha22 (384)
• Pakistan
5 Apr 07
it also happens with my brother he is a real time sleeper we even shout to wake him up but it doesent work then i figured it out that try something of his interest like my brother is fond of cricket and wants to watch 92 Cricket world cup final so we just shake him and tell him that 92 world cup is being telecasted try something like that and if it doesent work then a bucket of water on him.
@sunshine4 (8709)
• United States
5 Apr 07
another good idea. thanks i'll try it.
@aretha (2538)
• United States
5 Apr 07
LOL! i did the same thing with my husband for 4 years before i figured out how to make him get up. i would have to fight with him forever and he still wounldn't get up so i decided one day to set the to alarms at different times and set them to go off at the time he was supposed to get up but the clock would say like a half an hour later and the other an hour. after a couple days of this he got used to it so one day i would change it the next i wouldn't and for about 2 weeks i messed with the clocks and his watch until he got tired of it. he now gets up all by himself. i told him i am not getting you up anymore if you don't get up with the clocks then to bad. so when the clock went off he would see it said the time he needed to be at work and didn't really no what time it was and would get up.
@sunshine4 (8709)
• United States
5 Apr 07
that is so funny. you are a sneaky little thing!
• India
5 Apr 07
It is a matter of mind control and practice. If he can control his mind, and can practice getting up at the scheduled time, then everything will go right. There is one more thing he can do. Tell him to sleep sufficient hours anyhow, so that he doesn't feels sleepy when he has to wake up.
@sunshine4 (8709)
• United States
5 Apr 07
You are right. It will take control and practice. We will keep at it and hopefully the control will come into place.
@youdontsay (3503)
• United States
6 Apr 07
I had a daughter like that. I got pretty tired of using my time and energy to get her out the door to school. Finally I decided she just had to take responsibility for herself. I told her I would not be getting her up and out. If she didn't get herself out, that was her problem. She was late a couple of times, but then realized she was going to have to take care of getting herself up and she did. Tell him he has to figure out the solution to this problem. It isn't your problem, afterall. It sounds harsh, but they have to take care of themselves and they won't do it if we continue to take care of them. The way we teach children is to give them the natural consequences of their actions. If he goes to sleep earlier he will be ready to wake up on time.
@thefuture (1750)
• Nigeria
6 Apr 07
I think he should be get an alarm and set it so that whenever he want to wake up, the alarm will help wake him. I also think you should tell him that if he really want to make up his mind to be waking up every morning on time, then whenever you wake him up, should just wake up at once without staying on the bed, because when he stay on the bed, that's how he'l get back to sleep. He can also make sure whenever you wake him up, he should get up immediatly and have a little excercise, then wash his face with water, it'l help. Thanks and have a nice day.
@gelotan (107)
• Philippines
6 Apr 07
maybe u can let him drink more green tea for him able not to be sleepy too much...
• United States
6 Apr 07
Make him get up and move right away. Not just sit up in bed, actually GET OUT of bed and move. If he moves, he is less likely to lay back down and go to sleep. If he really has trouble waking up, he might have sleep apnia. You might want to get him checked up on.
@lisado (1230)
• United States
6 Apr 07
Growing up, my mom did this to me all of the time. Wanted me to make sure she got up before I left for school and every time I went in to tell her it was time (the alarm was going off forever) she'd get mad, tell me she was awake and I'd leave the room. Nine times out of ten she was asleep again and then late for work, which I would get yelled at for. My husband is also the same way and after the crap with my mom I don't tolerate it. I am nice the first time or two but then I get ticked. I generally yank the covers off and in a firm voice (it usually startles him awake) tell him it's time to get up and that his alarm is going off (which is on the other side of the room so he HAS to get up and at least hit snooze). That is generally all it takes now. After him getting grouchy for getting up late I laid into him that I repeatedly tried to wake him and he wouldn't get up. After that it hardly ever happened again. He felt bad that I was trying to help him out and he wasn't cooperating. I'll bet that if you DID throw cold water on him you wouldn't have to do it a second time! lol If he doesn't want it to happen again, he'll get his backside out of bed! Just tell him that he's an adult now. You don't mind telling him once but it isn't your job to babysit him and make sure that he gets up. You'll tell him once and that's it. He'd better get up. The first time he's late will make him understand that he needs to pay attention to the alarm clock. My husband slept thru it all of the time until I got mad and then it was like he made himself listen for it from them on.
@nickli (8)
• China
6 Apr 07
maybe your clarms are not loudly enough. but the best way is he can adjust the time difference.
@rubypatson (1842)
• India
6 Apr 07
I face this eternal problem with my husband and i tried everything posible it does not seem to work, sometimes i think i let him sleep and not go to work, maybe that will teach him a lesson
• Philippines
6 Apr 07
i think waking up is his own responsibility I don't see why you have to deal with it. Yeah I know he is your son and you want him to be able to goto work on time but if he will depend on you by waking him up then he will never learn to control himself and be responsible for his own. I think the best thing you can do is to tell him that he should be the one dealing with this kind of problem and if not have a self control then he just have to see the consequences.
• United States
6 Apr 07
I over sleep on occasion. SUCKS! I'd advice two alarms for him. Hide one. Or get one louder?? There are some that get light as they get louder if its dark out. But you are talking about working at 4pm which would be harder. Hum. I'd say get something loud to wake up. Or nothing else KEEP checking on him. Make sure he KNOWS its time to get up. Maybe stick a phone in his room and call him? :)) I'm sorry its hard to say since it usually takes an earth shaking to wake me if I am tired!
• United States
6 Apr 07
Its difficult to wake someone up if they wont get up with an alarm clock. You can try and spray him with water to get him up, but it wont always work. I've asked my family to use icewater, but they complain it'll ruin the bed and pillow.
@deeeky (3667)
• Edinburgh, Scotland
6 Apr 07
There was a good way that we did in the army when we were in barracks. We were given one chance to get out of bed or else the bed was tipped up and all the bed clothes were thrown out of the window. And if you still persisted then a bucket of water was the order of the day. Have a nice day from Deeeky.
• Philippines
6 Apr 07
Try using his cellphone as his alarm clock. Put it under his pillow which is nearest to his ears. Set it in the loudest volume if needed. Then choose the best ringing tone that would wake him up. Or he might want to record the voice of his boss to wake him up. Well, I am suggesting this because my brother uses this to wake him up because he has the same schedule as your son does. Hope this helps.
@SpitFire179 (2536)
• Canada
5 Apr 07
my hubby used to have this problem, and then he got this alarm clock that sounded like a fog horn.... He said after a few days of that he's not had a problem since, maybe you should go out looking for those types of alarms, it might help him out some.