Should I end it with my fiancee?

Going CRAZY!!!! - stressed
United States
April 5, 2007 3:24pm CST
We have been together probably a little over 3 years. we have spent probably over half of that arguing. I have 3 children, one of them is our child together. we argue so much that its hard to even stand to be in the same room with each other too long. part of me says to end it because I am sick and tired of living my life this way. I am stressed beyond the max and just had all that I can take from anyone. its not like this all the time, we have our good times but then it go's right back to this bull crap again. I feel like lately he has started being disrespectful to me, if I say something he dont like he will tell me to shut up and I HATE that. I am not a child!!! I know I do things too. I purposely say things to piss him off because of crap he says to me... one minute I am like ok forget it, its over! and the next I think maybe we should just get our crap together and act right. I dont know what to do.. I know I cant stay like this anymore but I also dont want to end something just because its bad right now.. it hasnt always been so bad, just the last month or so has been worse. I dont want to go through this but yet I dont want to end it. and I dont want my son to not have his father here but I dont want them to hear us going at it all the time either.. any advice would be appreciated.. Im ready to rip my hair out so the sooner the better!;)
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@mslena75 (562)
• United States
5 Apr 07
Unfortunately, you are the only one who knows the answer to this question. I will tell you this...every couple will disagree and have arguments at times...but nothing should EVER be that difficult! You might stop and see what the REAL reason is behind all of the arguing. I notice that you mention it has only gotten worse over the last month or so. Usually there is an underlying reason or stressor that may contribute. I understand you not wanting to give up so easily, because you have invested 3 years of your life...but also you have to think about yourself and your happiness as well as that of your children. You don't want them to grow up believing that it is normal for you to constanlty argue or belittle the person you are in a relationship with. I'm sorry, but if he is telling you to shut up, that points to immaturity on his part...who the hell is he to tell you to shut up!? You are absolutely right, you are NOT a child.
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@4cuteboys (4103)
• United States
5 Apr 07
If you don't feel it's fixable, it probably isn't. I have found that listening to your gut instinct is usually the best one, and is usually right. Fighting in front of children is never good, granted everyone probably has a squabble in front of their children at some point, if it's a constant thing it isn't good for the children to see. They say children learn relationship skills from their parents. So if they see you fighting and being unhappy there is a chance similar things may happen in their lives. If you can't stand to be in the same room as him, I would say its time to end it. Even when I am angry with my husband I still like to be around him and want things to work out. good luck!
• United States
6 Apr 07
both of you take some time out for yourself and I know that it is not easy but try to see a marriage couseler
• United States
5 Apr 07
I don't know how anyone can live, or stay, with a man such as you have described. How could you want your son and the other children to live in in such a home. There has been so much said about how damaging it is to children living in such an atmosphere. Even very young children are affected by how the adults behave.