How LONG would you LIVE WITH someone BEFORE wanting to get MARRIED??

United States
April 5, 2007 3:39pm CST
Do you know live with your mate? are you married? have you lived with your mate for years? with no intention of being married? I have lived with a few men in my life, but always before I wanted to marry them. So how long would you live with someone before wanting to move to the next step of getting married?
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• United States
7 Apr 07
My now husband and I lived together four years before we got married. I feel more comfortable living with someone before taking that next step cause you never know you might just not mesh well living together at all. It could be really bad. Its better, in my opinion, to test the waters before taking the plunge. As for how long to live together...probably at least two years. Then if you haven't killed each other, you should get married lol - - if you want :)
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@gberlin (3836)
6 Apr 07
I got married when I was 20 and I have been married 30 years. My wife and I did not live together before we got married because of the way we were brought up. I do not regret not living with each other before marriage. So my answer would be that I would not live with someone before marriage. I would wait until we got married to live together.
• Philippines
6 Apr 07
I didnt live in with my husband before we got married.. But we were together almost everyday of the whole 6 months we've been dating before we got married..
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@SachseMom (449)
• United States
6 Apr 07
I lived with one man and we lived together for 3 yrs to the date! We didn't get married and after being with him I knew that I didn't want to marry him or want him in my life. My now husband would come and stay the night with me sometimes. He had his apartment and I had mine! When we decided to get married my lease was going to be up in November and we were getting married in December. So I moved in with him for a month and then we got married. I didn't want to live with anyone else! I didn't think it was right or worth it.
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@SpitFire179 (2536)
• Canada
6 Apr 07
my hubby and i have kinda always wanted to get married, but when i moved in with him, it was about 4 years ago, we got married in august, last year, so like just about 8 months married. I'm glad for the time that we had together before we decided fully on such a commitment, because it insures that i knew him as well as one could before marriage, it gives me no opening to say now - i don't like this, i want a divorce, too many people do this, and I'm not going to be one of them. I had time to get to know the things i like about him, love about him, think is kinda cute, don't really like, despise and more about him, but every one of those things, i live with, plus, i think everything i even despise about him (The only one i can think of is him leaving dirty socks on the living room floor) i kinda think is cute too. I have no reason to ever sit there and say, well i can't live with this. Because i had lots of time to see if i could before we decided on the commitment.
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• United States
6 Apr 07
I lived my ex-fiance for 2 years, but I knew in my heart that there would be no wedding and was grateful when it was over. I lived with my husband for around 6 months before we ran off and eloped. We'll celebrate our 14th anniversary in December :)
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@Tsferrets (421)
• United States
6 Apr 07
My husband and I lived together for 12 years before we got married.. No real reason we waited so long just didn't get around to it and then one day he said we should get married and 3 days later we went to Vegas and did it. That was 8 years ago.. I felt married about 3 years into the relationship so the rest was natural for me.. He had been thru a bad divorce and it took him longer to come around I guess.. But we both wouldn't have it any other way now.. And it feels like we've been together for always.. Gotta love em!! I don't know what I'd do without him now.. I would be truelly lost and heartbroken.. Tammy
@brokentia (10396)
• United States
5 Apr 07
Honestly, I don't think I will ever be married again. I was married once....for 7 years. And strangely...I am still with my ex-husband. We got back together not long after the divorce. And we have been together for 10 years. Now, there has been some on and off again times. ha ha But for the most part, we have been together for 10 years and have no plans of getting married.
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@jennysp8 (855)
• United States
5 Apr 07
I am married and have been for the past 1.5 years. We actualy lived together for just 6 months before getting married. We had known each other for 10 years though...so that makes a difference there. I had lived with someone before him whom I was engaged to. We had gotten engaged and then a month later moved in together. We lived together for about a year unmarried still undecided on a date and then we broke up. Good thing we didn't get married!
@Denmarkguy (1845)
• United States
9 Apr 07
I lived with my ex for about three years before we got married-- 10 years later we got divorced. At a later point, I lived with someone for 10 years, and we never got married-- neither of us had any particular interest in it, as we weren't intending to have kids, and we both had "complications" of businesses and real estate we still co-owned with exes. As i sit and contemplate your question, today, I am coming to the conclusion that being married is not ever a "goal" for me, but having a great relationship IS. Not sure exactly what that MEANS, but there you have it....