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@jnetkris (213)
United States
April 5, 2007 3:45pm CST
Hopefully, most of us experienced to be in a relationship. Now, Can i ask you this? When or in what situation are you going to give up to someone you think you love (or shall i say special to you)? or when do you think you'll give up in a relationship? *take note i just use "you think you love'* because as for myself, true love means both person feels love, it maybe one feels more love than the other. They are also comitted with each other (so it means, no cheats/lies). So if I say I Love someone, it does equate that we do love each other and no chance of giving up. Because if you give up, it only means you don't really love the person. You just think you did...
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@pengqing (218)
• China
6 Apr 07
Now,more and more people no longer believe in love .As full of lies and utilitarian.
@jnetkris (213)
• United States
6 Apr 07
If they lie (especially bad lies). Don't believe that's love =).
• Philippines
5 Apr 07
I think love is not only limited to loving the other person. It also means loving yourself enough for you to liberate yourself from a loving relationship that is about to die. Last month, I gave up on a 2-year relationship with someone who apparently cares more about himself than other people. In a way, I still do love him but I couldn't imagine myself spending a lifetime with a guy like that who, most of the time, treats me like a crap.
@jnetkris (213)
• United States
6 Apr 07
good decision =). Someday you'll find someone you truly loves and loves you back and you'll just say to yourself "this is what really love is"
• United States
5 Apr 07
You can love a person and not be with them. "love is all you need" is just a song. In reality sometimes the person you love most, isn't good for you. Say you are with someone who has an addiction, and you've been together for years, and they keep trying to get better, but they always go back, no matter how hard you try to help them. Then you have a child together, and they go back to their destructive behavior. Would you stay with them, and put your child in danger, or deprive your child of whatever, because you love your spouse?
@jnetkris (213)
• United States
6 Apr 07
i'll put him in rehab =), and nourish my kids away from him the time he is recovering =). But I will still be there for him (in that way you're helping him to recover). Maybe If i won't be there for him, it only means I don't loev him truely. In the first place why was he addicted? *maybe along the way he felt no one cares or love him at all =) Thanks for the response. Appreciated it so much.
@anjigs04 (37)
• Philippines
7 Apr 07
It`s very hard to give up on a relationship especially if you`ve been together for years now. But you must also put it mind that brain should also be taken into consideration and not all the will of your heart. If you think it is affecting your job, your health etc... then you should think about it for a while.. you should also talk it over with her/him and see what`s in store for the both of you in the future. if you both agree to separate for the best of the two of you, then I think that`s a wise decision. If you`re really ment for each other, no matter how far away from each other. it will find a way to get you back together.
@quartz (20)
• Philippines
6 Apr 07
when you say love or true love, it's not just about feelings, yes, feeling are good but love, love isnt just about feelings, when you love someone make sure that you love him/her as he/she make sure that your number 1 reason for loving or marrying that person is NOT to make youself happy but to make your love happy, when you see your true love happy isn't that enough for you to be happy?? Especially when you're the reason why your true love is happy.. _Love does NOT give_ Even the scripture says that...
@anjigs04 (37)
• Philippines
6 Apr 07
To love is to place our happiness in the happines of the another and it is better to have loved and lost than not to have love at all!
@kurtbiewald (2628)
• United States
6 Apr 07
no cheats or lies !!!!!!!!! thats the first thing all of it depends on that I think also, people should use their own names when starting a relationship, and it should be done in person, not involving money exchange when or if people decide to work at life together, then pull together, all the problems are shared ones not 'till then
@mansha (6301)
• India
6 Apr 07
I love my hubby and new him prior to my marriage too. we courted for seven years. So you can say we have a twenty one year old relationship and we have been through a lot of ups and downs. We never thought of parting ever and we have made a lot of adjustments too for each other. Only thing that would have made me part ways ever would be if he had hit me. I would not have tolerated it -even a single slap. I guess he knows that where the line is and he is a gentle man so never crossed that. He gives me my space and my respect. I do that too and that has just added to the bond. when we started our life together we diodn't even had a spoon in our home. he had his family to take care of, his brothers were young and studying and his parents needed support. Due to that we were in debt of around 3500 INR rupees. we slowly paid that off ove in three years. Made a rule that we would never borrow come what may. Now after so many yeqars today we have just given the token money for our own home. Its just one BHK but we have come a long way since we started our journey togehter. Today is a new start for our lives.
• Philippines
6 Apr 07
i will set her free if she is no longer happy with our relationship.
@icequeen (2843)
• Canada
6 Apr 07
For me it would take a lot for me to give up in a relationship, but that is just how I am. I think if there was abuse...or if there was cheating...that would make me want to give it up....It would have to be serious.
@icequeen (2843)
• Canada
6 Apr 07
For me it would take a lot for me to give up in a relationship, but that is just how I am. I think if there was abuse...or if there was cheating...that would make me want to give it up....
@amadis (44)
• India
6 Apr 07
no not in any kind of relationship i think its too early
@Norstar (695)
• India
6 Apr 07
Often, the love begins from one side only. It is rare that it starts from both the sides at the same time. This means, it is very likely that it would, at least initially, have negative response from the other side. And, it is in this context that your question acquires lot of importance in the kind of relationship you have talked about. Well, a simple answer to this would be: as long as you could tolerate the negative response from the other side, or when you see no hope of the tide turning to your favour.
@mukokj01 (11)
6 Apr 07
many people have different targets as they begin their relationships. but on my side,if i found mygirl lover in relationship with another person that is only enough to terminate thew relationship.
@Ed_Quis (36)
• Philippines
6 Apr 07
there are various kinds of relationships, yet on love and intimacy, this would require maturity. LOVE is a difficult word to fit to everyone... simply put, if you love someone, you think of the happiness of that someone so much so that you also check it out if you're have more compatibilities or not... if you think you're now mature enough to dwell in a relationship - a mature one, then its very different situation if you're still having a crush on the opposite, then, just enjoy and take extra careful coz relationships are far more serious since you will now be going into bigger and many responsibilities especially if you're going to contemplate on marriage!
• Philippines
6 Apr 07
I had a relationship before that took me long before I could ever let go of him and the relationship. I was so crazy in love then that even his marriage to another girl won't stop me from loving him. Even having his first child won't get me into realization that he's not the one for me. The only time I let go was when the other girl called me and threaten me that she would tell to everyone, including my family, everything between me and his husband. I got pretty scared that my family would know about it. Then I realize that it's my family whom I truly respect and love that this crazy love for this guy could not equal. I treasure my family too much that I would exchange anything for them.
@vikki_p (257)
• Philippines
6 Apr 07
i am committed with someone for almost 2 years now, and we are inlove with each other, we also talked about future plans together. but i can say that i will give "us" up or give him up when i can feel that our relationship is sinking and can't do anything about it no more, because it would be hard for the both of us. and i'd rather end our relationship if i find out that he's playin' around or seeing another woman 'cause i can't bear feeling paranoid most of the time when we are not together.. and the trust will be lost and hard to gain again.. trust is very important in a relationship.. and fighting always, will only put our love to waste when both gets tired.. loving someone is not easy, and harder keeping it.. *wink*
• Malaysia
5 Apr 07
for me i will find out whether the person i think i love is that one i really love. if i do really love her the for sure i will not giving up the relationship of us. unless she wanna leave me for a better life or future. i love her and i will not force her to be with me but also will sincerely wishing her all the best and good luck in future.