when is the right time to get pregnant

Philippines
October 19, 2006 5:34am CST
does age matter,financial suport,maybe partner's approval or depends upon your health.. what do you think?
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13 responses
@ilse72 (1454)
• United States
20 Oct 06
The right time is different for everyone and, truth be told, if most people wait for the "right" time, it will never happen. As long as you and your partner want a baby, then the time is right. Things always work out. It is like everything in life...you have to work at it.
@ilse72 (1454)
• United States
20 Oct 06
Sorry, you left all the info out of your question and I was basing my answer on the typical hypothetical situation that you see on these sites. Of course, you can be too young and never finishing school lets you get stuck in a hard rut to get out of. You were both too young and I have to commend you for being responsible and raising your children. Lack of material things for your kids probably made them strong. I grew up in a not well to do family. We got one toy and two clothing outfits for Christmas. We all grew up well-balanced. Material things aren't everything but love is. I'm sure your children knew you love them. You did the best you could do with what you had...there are some wealthy parents that don't give their children what they need...love and security. Let me tell you too that, if you are not happy, it is time to more on. Life is too short and you should not spend it in unhappiness or misery. You deserve some happiness in your lifetime! Please do what is right for you! I already have kids...now adults at 24 and 22.5. Due to infertility, I was in my early 30s before I had children.
@ilse72 (1454)
• United States
20 Oct 06
Sounds to me like you were a great parent. The important thing is you talked to your kids...now you have to let them make their own choices and hope that they did learn. Good luck to you! I hope you find some happiness and contentment.
@Tanya8 (1734)
• Canada
20 Oct 06
Hi there, My husband and I waited for the right time, and it worked out well for us. He was still in university and I was just starting out in my career when we got married. After he graduated, we worked hard on saving up for a home, and when we felt that we had some financial security, we started a family in our 30s. This has given us the luxury of being able to have one parent home while the children are young. I know that there are advantages to having kids in one's 20s, and that even if we had been surprised by one, we would have managed, but I'm quite glad that everything went according to plan.
• United States
20 Oct 06
9:37
• United States
20 Oct 06
cute.
• United States
20 Oct 06
No I aint. I'm sorry I shouldn't make fun.
@bocknoy (32)
• Philippines
29 Jul 12
It's not always the material things that determine whether or not it is the right time to get pregnant. It is of utmost importance that both partners agree to have a child, and that they are financially capable of bringing up a baby. The age of the woman also matters, but when she is mature enough to handle such a great responsibility, then it should not be that much of a problem--unless of course, she is past the birthing age. Just remember that a baby is a human being that needs to be fed, clothed, sheltered, educated, and loved, and if you know for sure that you and your partner can give all these to the baby, this could be the right time to get pregnant. Read more on http://www.infobarrel.com/The_Perfect_Time_to_Get_Pregnant_What_to_Expect_as_a_Mom
@stori1 (331)
• United States
20 Oct 06
i agree with ilse72 I feel that is a very good answer
@nishdan01 (3055)
• Singapore
20 Oct 06
The right time is when the couple is prepared mentally and financially.For women ,it is better to have children before 35 to avoid complications. Calm mind and keeping your mind away from fear helps to build a fearless future generation.
@all_n_one (2005)
• United States
20 Oct 06
I say at 25 or 26 to make sure you have a chance to go to college if you want and finish it then find a decent job. If you don't wanna go to college then just get a job and save up by the time your 25 or 26 you might have enough saved up to move on to something esle. Also try to make sure your married or have a good boyfreind or girlfriend because rasing a child on your own is tough very tough. So to sum it yes i think age matters and finacial support health is just one thing but you need alot more if you wanna rasie a kid.
@xvandyx (121)
• United States
20 Oct 06
This is a tough one because I have always seen myself as being a young mom and raising my child with energy and not be playing with my son/daughter while using a cane. That is my opinion of pregnancy. However, I want to be finacially stable and have a home, food to provide. I am pregnant right now and I am 20, happily married with my husband that is about 9 yrs older than me. I know it's a bit of an age gap but we love each other and have been together 4 years. He would talk about kids a lot obviously because of his age and he felt ready but I wasn't. After long thoughts we finally decided to try. I am still in college and graduate in 2008 as an LVN. I stay with my mom because my husband works out of state and has a great paying job. I hate being alone and I am glad I have a lot of SUPPORT. If you have a husband/boyfriend that cares for you and you both think that you can handle the pressure of taking care of a child finacially and emotionally then you may be ready. I am glad I have such a supportive husband that rather me finish college first so that later he can finish his college and we will both eventually have careers that will last forever. Just think about how much support your partner has for you and your family. Those are STRONG influences.
• India
20 Oct 06
after getting married is the right time to get pregnant.. that also when u hav money in hand and ur health condition supports u...............
@bhchy1 (6052)
• United States
20 Oct 06
Partners approval comes first..but money, health and all that matter too..you need to be able to care for the baby.
@busybee (384)
• India
20 Oct 06
Of course, you should reach a stage, that every thing else is done and you have good and prosper life and you have time to take care of that childere,, most important..
• United States
20 Oct 06
Medical experts say that the best age to try and concieve is before 35, after that you fertility goes down and you increase risks of certain birth defects. It is also important to be in the right place for YOU and you spouse or partner financially and emotionally. Healthwise, I do not know too much about. I guess that people will take the chances that they feel they need to take if they want to have children.
• United States
20 Oct 06
This is a very personal decision and the "right" time is going to be different for everyone. We weren't planning on having any children until after we got married and I was through college, but we had an unexpected pregnancy. Our son has changed our lives in a good way and we wouldn't go back. You should be at least somewhat financially stable in order to support your child and you should definately have your partner's approval otherwise the child can create a strain on the relationship. Age isn't much of an issue except if you have a baby before you're 18, your parents have to claim guardianship of your child until you turn 18. I'm 23 years old and think I'm young to have kids, but I know a lot of women younger than myself with kids who are doing just fine.
@raghavibm (544)
• India
20 Oct 06
Definitely after marriage,.. to be more precise, after two years of marriage afer completely getting the mutuall understanding bet ween tow of you..