how do you say NO?

India
April 6, 2007 5:57am CST
Many times ..we say "Yes" when we want to say "NO" and afterwards cry. Then how do say No?....to friends,strangers,general public.
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7 responses
6 Apr 07
I have lost count of the number of times people persuade me to say yes when I really want to say no. I get fed up sometimes, as there are times when I really don't want to get involved but inevitably I end up saying yes
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• India
6 Apr 07
That is the problem.To say "No" smartly is a strength and we must learn it, otherwise people make use of us and we get in trouble. Thanks for response.
@ssh123 (31073)
• India
25 Jun 07
There are people who are straightforward and able to sense the implications of YES or NO, say it correctly. Some people for the sake of retaining the relationship (friendship too) say YES for NO or vice versa and get into trouble. It requires a maturity to say YES or NO and many a times, it is better to say whatever you want to say, say it and stick to it. IF you say NO and after a few days if you say YES, it looses the gracious of first order.
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@hinrichas (395)
• Spain
14 Jun 07
Everytime when I have to say NO, I say. I don't wanna lie my friends, family. Everyone have to say NO and don't lie. I think this is best way. However Have a nice day everyone. And don't be scary to say NO !
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@Tetchie (2932)
• Australia
6 Apr 07
Just say it. NO. It is so liberating, seriously. Practice it. At some point you have to honor yourself and not be swayed by everyone else's demands, it's very tiring! If you think you are going to be swayed, say NO, then walk away and stick to your decision. It gets easier the more you do it and you feel good.
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• India
6 Apr 07
I also face this kind of a problem really often. Where i think that i should have said NO. But, i cant do that. In such a situation i just find a suitable excuse to say NO. Or you can try this technique i use it very often and it really works. Whenever a friend asks for something and you want to say NO to him. Trust me say it directly on his face in such a tone that he understands that you are saying NO and at the same time you are not being rude. Also put up a strange smile on your face. This trick really works for me. Hope it does for you also.....lols
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@yanstill (1490)
• China
6 Apr 07
i have that same question too before. now i have an idea.first,list how many times and how many people you say yes to but you want to say no,you dont save any time for yourself and the people who are important to you.so when you are saying no to person you are really saying yes to yourself. i think we should know our limits,we dont have that much time to say yes to every one,and people wont care if we say no,they will resort to another person,they really wont think about you.so yes to yourself and the important people to you.:)
@yanstill (1490)
• China
13 Apr 07
thanks for your BR.it's a surprise for me.
• Australia
6 Apr 07
I think the crying afterwards just comes from all the stress laid on you, people ask me to do stuff all the time, i find it hard to say no.