Marriage - what is it good for?
By Dolcerina
@Dolcerina (3376)
Hungary
April 6, 2007 12:56pm CST
One of my best friend phoned me yesterday to say to her newest decision about her life: She is going to be married. My reaction, and comment was: "oooooh, why?!!! fck (can not be translated :) what the hell for?!"
She knows me very well, so she took as if I congratulated to her :) But she knows I asked seriously.
She apologized, and explained why she decided in this way. But the fact is it is only a financial decision for them. They intend 2 children in this way they would receive some aid from the government, and in this way they can buy a flat, so she should not hire another one for her work after (she is a private teacher).
Anyway they love each other, but it is not a love-marriage, I think.
And I have to say it is very typical in my country now. The people try to survive from day by day, and they make too big decisions, just to get a little breath to live another day.
I am sure if my friend could earn enough with her hard work she would not marry to her boyfriend and she would not undertake in a contract (with the government)to give birth to 2 children... It is amazing, but in my country it is working like this.
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6 responses
@FrancyDafne (2047)
• Italy
23 Apr 07
I'm married, but if I could go back I wouldn't marry, and yet I'm not against marriage, why? Everybody is free to choose, if your friend decided to marry what's the problem? Yes, they decided to marry for a financial reason, and yet you say that they love each other, so.... the most important thing is that they love each other, every other thing is of secondary importance.
Unfortunately my country (Italia) and yours have at least one thing in common: it's very hard to live in an expensive country. We have the same problem, this is the reason why Italian families have a few children or are childless.
@Dolcerina (3376)
• Hungary
23 Apr 07
I do not like their decision, because they relationship will not be free afterwards. Their relatonship will be depending on the agreement and money.
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@grazell1986 (34)
• Philippines
11 Apr 07
I think your bestfriend decided to marry that man because she love him. Getting into a marriage life is very hard but when there is love, it conquers all the trials of the marriage couple. For me, its not the finacial problem that decided her to get married. Maybe, she just want to settle-down and start a family of her own.
@Dolcerina (3376)
• Hungary
11 Apr 07
The proof that their marriage is only a tactical decision- they do not invite anybody for the wedding ceremony. Only the parents, her brother and the boy's sister will be there.
@polachicago (18716)
• United States
9 Apr 07
in general, I don't believe in marriage. it may work for some people, but it doesn't for many....having good friends is much better....I have seen many people getting married just for financial reason and they are divorced now........people are getting life wrong way...
@lucy02 (5016)
• United States
7 Apr 07
That's a shame. Marriage is such a big decision. Nobody should be forced into it just to live. If they love each other that will help. Sometimes people can love each other though as still not live together. Hopefully their love will grow.
@adidas7878 (1891)
• United States
9 Apr 07
i cant not tell you my friend, if they dont love each other there is not point of getting marry specialy they talking about bring childern to their loveless marriage, i think it is wrong, but they want to do that there is nothing anyone can stop them i guess, but i think it is wrong
@Dolcerina (3376)
• Hungary
9 Apr 07
They love each other,but I think they are wrong now. But that is their decision.
