If you were able, would you have hired a nanny for your newborn?

@kynni204 (2032)
United States
April 6, 2007 8:20pm CST
That first day home from the hospital we all just want to sleep. The first three months of your baby's life can be exhausting. Did you enjoy getting up in the middle of the night sometimes for hours. Some nights I just wanted to let her butt cry. Do you cherish that experience or would you employ a nanny to assure you get your proper rest. Would you keep the bonding experience or your rest? Which is more important?
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@cyntrow (8527)
• United States
7 Apr 07
Maybe during the toddler years and definately now, during the school aged years, if I could afford it, but not for the newborn. During those important bonding periods, it is most important that the baby get to know who his/her mom is and feel that comfort and security. Yeah, I was exhausted, through all five of my kids. And there were some nights I did let my oldest cry. but I didn't nurse him so it wasn't as much an issue. He didn't depend on me getting up every 2 hours to make sure he was fed. My kids range in age from 20 to 5. I've just now started sleeping through the night. But you know what, it is all worth it. My oldest son is getting married in the summer. All of my kids are happy and healthy and they know that I love them. There is no better reward and loss of sleep isn't a horrid sacrifice when you look back.
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@kynni204 (2032)
• United States
7 Apr 07
Not a horrid sacrifice if you don't have to get up and go to work in the morning..smile. Thank u
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@cyntrow (8527)
• United States
7 Apr 07
LOL. You know, I would go to work with spit up on my clothes, dark circles under my eyes and shoes that didn't match. LMAO. My co workers still laugh about that. Too funny. And GOd forbid a daiper should leak as I was walking out the door.
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@kynni204 (2032)
• United States
8 Apr 07
o boy, not the stinky diaper smell
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@bad1981 (799)
• United States
7 Apr 07
I cherished it even though I was extremely tired and worn out. Some times I miss the days when my son was that young and we did that. My daughter is 3 months old and has been sleeping the night now for about 2 months. If she does wake in the night, it doesnt bother me.
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@kynni204 (2032)
• United States
7 Apr 07
That's how you know that u love being mommy. It dosen't bother you
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@mememama (3077)
• United States
7 Apr 07
I think I would rather hire a housekeeper or a chef. As a lactating mom, I couldn't just sleep through the night ;) I didn't enjoy it, but it had to be done for my baby to eat. I think it's important for a child to be with it's mother if it's possible, I know that can't always happen.
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@kynni204 (2032)
• United States
7 Apr 07
A chef and housekeeper would definitely free up on time to be able to cater to baby.
@34momma (13918)
• United States
7 Apr 07
no, as a mother of three, i loved every minute of being with my children. with my last child i could have use some help only because i had a c-section and to recover was hard. other than that, i loved being there for my new born children
@4cuteboys (4103)
• United States
7 Apr 07
Spending time with my child has always been more important than anything else. Now I might not like getting up various hours of the night and morning, but that's what being a parent is about. Either me or my husband gets up, we don't let our kids cry we like to comfort them.
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@kynni204 (2032)
• United States
7 Apr 07
Yeah I think if I would have had a nanny for my baby I would have regreted it as time went on. You can never get that experience back. They are only a baby once.
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• United States
7 Apr 07
I think if you're someone who gets pregnant, you should take care of your child. Obviously, getting pregnant in the beginning, you think you're responsible enough, so follow through. It may suck and it may be tiring, but that stage will pass and seeing the outcome of how you raised your child will be worth all those tiring nights. If you hire a nanny to raise your baby in some of the crucial periods of growing up, than they will become more of a parent than you...doesn't sound too good to me.
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@kynni204 (2032)
• United States
7 Apr 07
Yeah that's true. Children with nannys consider the nanny more of a mom than the biological mom.
• Philippines
7 Apr 07
It is still better if you cherished the days caring your own child. You will develop an intimate relationship with your baby. When the child grows up you will always remember the days you took care of him/her. It's an experienced that you cannot be traded to other things. If you think that being the only one to take care of the baby is hard task then you definitely hire a nanny. Just always remember that person you are going to hire can be trusted and has a good experienced taking care of baby. You don't need to suffer caring with the child if you can think of a better way.
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@kynni204 (2032)
• United States
8 Apr 07
good answer thank you
@charms88 (7546)
• Philippines
7 Apr 07
Hiring nanny is pretty common here in my country and the salary range from $50 to $100 a month. I hired a nanny when I gave birth to my eldest girl. 90% of the time, I was the one taking care of my baby. The 10% will either be I was eating, taking a bath or needed to catch a few hours of sleep. I know of some few friends who left their babies in the care of the nannies almost 24 hours a day. I don't like this kind of set up though. I still prefer to raise my girl by myself as we all know, we can be a baby for one time only.
@kynni204 (2032)
• United States
9 Apr 07
100 dollars a month?!! What is your country? We are would employ one at that rate
@mnflower (1305)
• United States
7 Apr 07
wow spending the first year with your child is the most important years of the child lifes and if you missed that by letting someone else raise your child I think that you would be lose and disappointed in yourself. there is noway i would let a nanny raise my kids at any age, I had them it is my responsibility
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@kynni204 (2032)
• United States
7 Apr 07
No one else is going to provide the love that mom does.
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@breezie (1249)
• Canada
7 Apr 07
I would not have hired a nanny when my kids were babies. I love spending time with them and wouldn't want to miss it for anything. I naturally run on very little sleep (usually only a few hours a night) so I didn't find it too bad. I want to spend as much time with my kids as possible.
@kynni204 (2032)
• United States
7 Apr 07
A nanny would take the meaning of motherhood away
@_hope_ (3917)
• Australia
7 Apr 07
There is no way i would ever give up any time with any of my babies.They are so precious i looked after mine every moment i could i have never missed out on any of their growing up and those sleepless nights were all part of that many an hour i would just sit and cuddle the babies and watched then as they slept.
@gabesmom (1246)
• United States
7 Apr 07
I remember how painful it was. I had a Caesarian section and was alone with my baby for a couple of weeks. My husband was away and my baby came early. I wish I had somebody with me at that time. I don't think you would be sacrificing bonding to have some help taking care of a baby. You need rest and proper nutrition to recover quickly from childbirth. The pain's gone now and I just feel the greatest joy and satisfaction now whenever I look at my 15-month old son.
@kynni204 (2032)
• United States
9 Apr 07
I agree, I those cases where you are hurting you definetly need some major help with the babies
• United States
7 Apr 07
I had three girls and nursed all of them for at least their first 2 months. My first one was nursed for 7 months. I was worn out most of the time, but would not have missed that experience for all the money in the world. My husband would go get her sometimes and would offer to sit up with me while I fed them, but there was no point in both of us missing sleep...and I kinda had to be up. I always took the advice of others and while on maternity leave, I slept when they slept. Some nights would get so frustrating when they wouldn't go back to sleep right away, but still I'm glad it was me they saw in the middle of the night. Great discussion.
@kynni204 (2032)
• United States
7 Apr 07
Thank you, children appreciate the fact that their actual parents cared enough to be there.
@shannon76 (1234)
• United States
7 Apr 07
In some ways I would say yes, only because it was very tiring. But thank GOD I had my mother and my sister here to help me for the first two weeks. I had a c-section so I had to have help in order to heal. But a nanny? I don't know. I still don't trust anyone but my childs family and VERY close friends to watch my son - I don't know about allowing a total stranger come into my home soley based on creditianls to look after my son....
@kynni204 (2032)
• United States
7 Apr 07
I agree, babies know when strangers are holding them.
• United States
7 Apr 07
I loved being with Holly when she was an infant and a baby, and really, she was no trouble at all, just the sweetest child. But now that she's a 4-year-old toddler, and a special needs child as well (Down syndrome), I would love to have the means to hire someone to share in her care, she has feeding difficulties, and is getting to where she never wants to sleep (stays awake most of the night), plus I wouldn't mind some help with potty-training. Just having another adult on the same page, for moral support and feedback, would be great, my husband is so busy working all the time that he's not really emotionally involved as I am with her, though he is a good provider for us. So yes, at this point, I'd love to hire a part-time nanny, I'd still share in the care of Holly, however.
@kynni204 (2032)
• United States
1 May 07
O yeah you need some help. In those cases definitely help is in order.
• Brazil
7 Apr 07
This depends very much on the person who is mother. Well, in our case, we have two little babies, now 2 and 1 year old. This was very hard in hte beginning, especially, because we had no fmaily to help us, so for us this meant, 2 babyes, 24 hours, 7 days a week. This was really too much for my wife and i had to take a main part of the work with the babies. Our two children are really not easy, and we have another one, already older. We both had time for nothing but just look foir the babies, and i had big problems to combine this with my job. My wife got depressive and i had to do even more.I dont say that having babies is not a pleasure, I still do, but its also very, very hard, if you have no help at all. So in our case we would have been more than thankful to have a nanny. I dont think our relation qwith our children with have suffered fro mthis, in contrary, they would have seen us more fine and not that stressed and all the time just exhausted.
@kynni204 (2032)
• United States
8 Apr 07
Yes it aounds like you could have used a nanny. Many of us say we would not hire a nanny but think of all of the superstars that have several nannies. I think if we had superstardum and extremely busy schedules we would have nannies.
• Philippines
7 Apr 07
I did hire a nanny when I gave birth to my second son but still I cannot afford to just let her took care of the baby all by herself at night. During the first 2 months, I took care of my baby all by myself. My nanny was just there to do the cleaning of the feeding bottles, do our laundry and some cleaning in the house. Then when I felt like it was time to let her carry my baby I let her. She's still with me up to this time when my baby is already 2 years old. She's really a great help for me. She's now on vacation for two weeks and I can't wait to see her again.
@kynni204 (2032)
• United States
7 Apr 07
That extra help is priceless
• China
7 Apr 07
It is really a tough time for the young mothers who have their newborn babys. The bay will cry all night and you can not go alseep which would drive the young mothers mad. But I will not hire a nanny for my newborn baby. Because I think looking after my baby is my resposibility. Moreover, I think only I and my husband will look after our baby sincerely. I may hire a nanny to do some housework for me. But I can not let her look after my baby. If I am too tired to take care of it, I may let my husband take care of it instead of me.
@kynni204 (2032)
• United States
7 Apr 07
Husbands make great nannies, the light sleepers
• United States
7 Apr 07
I did -- called "grandma."
@kynni204 (2032)
• United States
7 Apr 07
Good deal.. She was free. Thast what I did for my son years ago. My mom told me I was on my own with my daughter.
@maddysmommy (16243)
• United States
7 Apr 07
I would be missing out a lot on my childs life and development if I didnt take care of him from when he was born. Yes the first 6 months can be tough, but what an experience that is for not only my son but for me. It also prepares me for if and when I have more children. I was lucky that I did have help from family, but I did bulk of the work and didn't mind getting up during the night. My son was actually quite good and once I got into a routine, I rarely had any trouble through the night.
@kynni204 (2032)
• United States
7 Apr 07
Your son was good? That is rare!!