How Dare Me?

@Rozie37 (15503)
Turkmenistan
April 7, 2007 2:35am CST
I will never forget it. I was in the second grade and on this particular day, we had a substitute teacher. I had to go to the restroom, so I went up to the teacher and asked her if I could go and she said no. So, I went back to my seat, sat down, and peed on myself. I don't remember what happened immediately after that, I just recall a lot of people coming down really hard on me. At the time, I remember saying that I really needed to go and what else was I suppose to do. I mean they were really, really unset with me. My mom brought my a change of clothes, but I don't remember her fussing at me. There was another time, at home. I woke up to go to the restroom and saw my mother's white dress hanging over the closet. I was so scared to get out of the bed, that I just sat there and peed and went back to sleep. I was about the same age, seven years old. Again, I don't remember my mother getting upset, but from then on, she left the hall light on for me. When I tell people these stories now, they say that I was a brat. I just don't get how they see it that way. I mean I admit, being the baby, I was a little spoiled, but on these two occasions, I was doing what I had to do.
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• United States
8 Apr 07
When I was around 3 or 4 I was made to go to a ballet class (I'm so not a ballet girl) it petrified me so much, that while standing in the corner of the studio I peed my pants. There were so many mirrors and people bustling about I was terrified. I felt so alone. Then I was alone and wet. I still had to go to ballet for another year but luckily we moved and the pirouets ceased. So did the peeing in my pants.....mostly.
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
8 Apr 07
I am sorry to hear about your experience. When you are a child it is hard sometimes to live up to the expectations of the adults in our lives. I just hope that we are all able to pull from these mishaps, while raising our own children, so that we don't make the same mistakes. You never know which experience is going to have an impact on your childs life.
• Canada
7 Apr 07
You weren't being a brat... you were a young child. As far as teachers not allowing students bathroom privileges, this REALLY upsets me. My daughters are in a school that has now decided that there will be no more hall passes and that students will not be allowed out of class to use the bathroom. I have told both of them (and they are older now... 13 and 16) that, if they truly need to use the bathroom and are told no, they are to leave anyway. If they are given detention or other punishment, I will deal with the school myself. I know there are kids who abuse the system and go to the bathroom just to get out of class... but the teachers KNOW who these kids are. When there is a kid who has never asked to go and then suddenly they do, I see no valid reason to hold them back. I especially think it's unfair to stop young ladies, who may be menstruating, from going to the bathroom at any time. They run the risk, too, of a major embarrassment in front of their classmates and I think allowing that to happen is inexcusable. My older daughter told me that a boy asked to be excused from her class last week and the teacher said no. He told the teacher if he wasn't allowed to go, he would use the class trash can instead. She still said no - so he marched right over to the trash can, undoing his pants on the way. The teacher finally relented and he was allowed to go. None of these things should have to happen.
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
7 Apr 07
I know what you mean, teachers should know who the goof offs are and if she doesn't, then maybe she is in the wrong line of work. If you don't know the child, sometimes you have to give them the benefit of the doubt. If they mess up, then you don't do it again. I had a history teacher in Junnior High School tell us on the first day of class, that if we needed to use the restroom, don't even ask just go. One of her prior students had asked to go to the restroom and while he was asking, he threw up all over her.
@lightningMD (5932)
• United States
7 Apr 07
it weas the teachers fault not yours..you should have sat on her lap..i was the youngest and spoiled too...if the teacher would have told me know i would have left anyways...told her you can send to the peincipal as soon as i'm done wiping...i was in the hall quite often as a child...
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@mrsturner (519)
• Canada
7 Apr 07
I don't think you were spoiled or a brat. I understand being afraid of the dark and I understand needing to pee so bad that you can hardly hold it. The fact that the teacher told you "no" is horrible. Not letting a child go pee is child abuse and shouldn't be tolerated. When one of my sisters was little, she had a small bladder and when she had to go, she had to go. One time a teacher told her "no" and she peed herself. I have never seen my mother so angry. She told my sister that to be polite she had to ask permission, but that she was to go regardless of the teachers answered. Then my mother had a talk with the teacher and I doubt that teacher EVER said "no" to another student ever!
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• United States
7 Apr 07
Sometimes substitute teachers are rough on girls because they tend to be the ones to meet up in the bathrooms. In my high school, there were teachers that gave you four bathroom passes for the semester. If you didn't use any, you could trade them in for extra credit. Some kids would go to the extreme of asking other kids if they could borrow a pass. I never lent mine since I never needed to use the bathroom that badly. Its like we were being punished for having active bladders. I hope that the teacher who said no to your bathroom break apologized to at least you and your mother. That was an unkind thing to do.
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@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
7 Apr 07
You just gave me some memories and I had forgot about it. That has happened to me too adn I was in the second grade, I couldnt hold it any longer but she said no and the time passed I try to ask her again she said no then all of suden it happened I was so embarrassed no one made fun of me because the kids know that I had asked, the teach wasnt upset my mother came and brought me some clean clothes she wasn't upset but she did talk to the teacher. I think the techer felt bad ever since that day on she let everybody go to the restrrom breaks at a certian time.
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@sunshine4 (8709)
• United States
7 Apr 07
I wouldn't say that you were a brat. In the first instance, you had to go to the bathroom. A child at age 7 has a hard time holding it. The teacher didn't let you go , so what else were you suppose to do? I don't understand how teachers can tell children that they can't go to the bathroom! In the second instance, you were scared. That is probably why you peed. I think that many kids in your situation would do the same thing. Don't worry about it...it is in the past.
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@calderon (40)
• United States
7 Apr 07
Children do have accidents....I'm a little confused as to why you didn't try to hold it in class?? Did you do it because your teacher simply said no? As far as kids having to pee...I don't think it a reason to get upset with a child, unless it's intentional. And I think your mom did the right thing.
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@KissThis (3006)
• United States
7 Apr 07
Children have accidents. I don't feel that anyone should get angry or upset when someone has one. I don't think you were a brat I think that you were just a scared and confused child.
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@horsesrule (1960)
• United States
7 Apr 07
I guess I don't understand why you would get in trouble. The teacher should have said yes when you asked. As you say, what else were you supposed to do? I don't think it makes you a brat or spoiled at all. And being scared of mom's white dress, not unusual for a little kid. If you did that kind of thing as an adult, then, that's a little odd.
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• Romania
11 Apr 07
I once had such an accident and i was way older (I was about 11 years old) but it wasn't quite my fault. My dad came to pick me up from school and he took me all over the town because he had to solve all sorts of problems (bills, shopping, etc.) so I held on and I held on... and enough was enough exactly when we got home. i remember my mom started yelling at me asking me "How could you??!! At your age????". I guess that really became a trauma for me...although I wasn't that guilty...
@miaka13 (65)
• Philippines
8 Apr 07
You were a child then. It's not your fault. All of us have embarassing experiences. It's part of life.
@wishangel (225)
• Malaysia
8 Apr 07
yeah,this is quite embarassing,but since you are still young so this is just a memory for you, this will be happen in all people while we are baby,so this is nothing to you,but i admit this is quite embarassing.
• China
8 Apr 07
aha it is interesting. when we was young,something funny would happen. but it is not serious. the parents would think you are a brat. now you remember it ,you must be feeling joking.
• China
8 Apr 07
A lot of us had this kind of thing like you when we were just in our childhood.I thought it is ok,after all it was past away,don't need to pay attention to it now,just learn to forget.