How to tell someone you don't want them around your children.

United States
April 7, 2007 3:51pm CST
I have a friend who is having problems with her bf. she comes to visit all the time, but she has a problem with smoking. plus she wont stop saying bad words in front of my children, there are at a age were they will repeat anything u say. I have talk to her about it, but she wont stop. she says that she has problems at her home and when she comes to visit, she gets yelled at by me. She is my dear friend and I don't want to lose her as one. yet I have two wonderful girls who don't need to be hearing such language. How do I tell her to stop saying such bad language, but keep her has a friend?
3 responses
• United States
7 Apr 07
I would simply say that as much as you love her as a friend your children come first, and you'd rather not have them involved or in ear shot of her domestic problems. Tell her that you'd be willing to talk to her about them outside of your home, but you do not want your children to be witness to her drama.
@KissThis (3006)
• United States
7 Apr 07
I had a family member who use to be the same way.I decided that I would have more problems later if I didn't say anything now so I asked him if we could have a private conversation. Once we were alone I explained my issues I explained that I felt that his smoking and cursing would have a negative effect on my children and that I would like for him not to use such behavior around my children. He doesn't come around my children as much but we do have a relationship away from the kids.He does do better now. Talk to her about what is bothering you and ask her what does she think she could do to help the situation.
@lightningMD (5932)
• United States
7 Apr 07
be firm tell her to knock it off around your kids or she isnt welcome inside your home anymore...that you will be happy to meet her when you have free time to yourself and stick to your word