long hard divorce

United States
October 19, 2006 10:27am CST
My divorce has been long and hard. The judge still hasnt signed the papers. My ex has had people call social services for over 3 weeks constantly trying to get my children from me. They have come to my house talked to my boys and will come back one more time. This is very upsetting not only to me but to my boys. They even say its their dad. I dont even know what to do anymore to help the boys thru this. Divorce is hard enough on children but to put them thru all this is crazy. Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can help the boys cope with this situation?
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@jade17901 (597)
• United States
22 Nov 06
Thats a tough situation! Im sure its hard on all of you, I respect you for hanging in there. I think the best thing to do is be honest with them. It is hard on all of you so there is no need to cover it up, feal free to say to them " hey guys, this sucks"! The best thing for them is to see that you are still going good and strong so maybe you want to remind them once in awhile that things will get better and can only look up! Its also my personal belief not to talk bad about their father to them or infront of them, take time for yourself and curse him out in your mind, lol. Keep your head up though, im sure your doing a great job
• United States
22 Nov 06
Thank you. Im doing all I can. Our papers are signed now and Im trying to refinance the house. Financially its hard but we will make it. I would never talk about their dad. I see what it does to the boys when they hear about me. Things will get better in the future. Im determined to make it.
@Justme2007 (1848)
• United States
20 Nov 06
Pray because men and their new women do some crazy things my ex tried it with me, but I let him know you messing with the wrong moma and her kids. I will pray for you and your god bless
• United States
22 Nov 06
Thank you for all your prayers they are much needed. He will get his due thats why I dont say much of anything. I will pray for you also.
@birthlady (5613)
• United States
20 Nov 06
Get family counseling with your boys and request counseling for the boys through school or church or other social services if you can't afford private counseling costs. Document your sons' reactions. How old are they?
• United States
22 Nov 06
My boys and I are in counseling now. They are 13,10 and 6. Financially it is a struggle but we will get there. Thanks for your help