family time

Grandparents have a way of spoiling their grandkids more than us parents do. I'm kind of in a similar situation but don't want my kids to "not know" their grandparents, the problem between me and my parents is not between my kids and the grandparents. And don't want my kids someday to do the same thing to me, so I let them see their grandparents on occasion. The only solution I can think of for you at this point? Ask grandma to meet you at the zoo an hour after you're there....that will give you time with your daughter and your mother will get a little time with her also. Explain to your mother that this is you and your daughters tradition (spending time together at the zoo) if she would like to join you two, she's welcome to. This is a public place, where a fight or scene would be less likely to happen than in your mothers home or yours. And if things do happen to go sour, you can tell your daughter.....honey, it's time to go home, tell grandma bye. Funny thing though, I have found my parents tend to spoil my kids in a situation like that. So it may not be fun to have your mother by your side, but your daughter might like it and have fun, memories and pictures that she cherishes. Good luck! Hope something works out for you! Happy Birthday to your daughter!

I guess it all depend on how much you would like your mother in your daughter's life. You and your mother may have differences. But, are you willing to let your daughter to be without a grandmother. I don't know you or your grandmother, but I'm just think how your daughter might feel. Hope all works out for you.

i think you should make the time for your mother to visit your child. and cant you maby try to get along while you are there? I just lost my mother and although we didnt always see eye to eye I wish to God I had more time to spend with her and to share my children with her.

Well i'm the same but different, whenever my daughter has a first event, my family think they'll be coming along - unfortunately they wont be so it's easier for us if we just don't tell them. Already they all think they deserve all the time with her on holidays & such but it'll change - coz i'm sick of not having ANY family time with just my partner & daughter! How about you ask your mum if you can meet her somewhere - neutral territory - for a coffee or something but only for a short while, then it wont interfere with YOUR zoo day but she'll still get to see her Granddaughter? Good Luck, sorry it's such a difficult situation!