I'm in trouble...again!!

@soccermom (3200)
United States
April 8, 2007 9:00pm CST
We had Easter at my moms house. My inlaws as well as my sisters inlaws were invited. My sisters inlaws are pretty laid back people, and let's say my parents are "young at heart". My inlaws are pretty straight laced. The wine was flowing, and since hubby was driving and the kids were taken care of I figured I'd indulge a little. Okay, maybe more than a little, and I tied on a decent buzz with my mom and sister. I don't think my MIL was impressed. I drunk dialed my grandma in Florida and left her a message, which sent my mom and sister into hysterics, and truth be told I think Gma will find it funny too. At least I hope she does. Well, we were all hanging out after dinner, the kids were off playing and we started telling stories about when my sister was in college. So mom is telling my MIL about some of the shenanigans we pulled. A time was brought up when my mom, dad, some of there friends and I went to Whitewater bar hopping and hoping to run into my sis as a "surprise". We didn't find her and broke into her and her roommates apartment, drank all the beer in her fridge and were just messing around. My sister came home to find my dad in her backyard yelling at the apartment behind hers(who was partying on their own patio) "Come on girls! Show me some skin!" The stories could go on forever, but my MIL turned to me and said "you and your parents did this?" and the look on her face said it all. My parents are like night and day compared to my hubby's, and I have a feeling when I drop the kids off tomorrow so I can go to work she's gonna say something. Okay, my family is a little over the top, but we always have a good time, and I really don't feel I should have to apologize for things we have done in the past or for the way my parents behave. I'm kind of proud they are 55 going on 21! Good thing I stopped my sister before she started talking about the night we all stayed at my parents (and our kids were with my MIL) and we got drunk and teepee'd the cops house behind my parents!(My FIL is a retired officer and takes that stuff seriously). Anyway, should I apologize for my crazy family just to save face?
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@SpitFire179 (2536)
• Canada
9 Apr 07
I would never apologize about that, that's awesome that you and your parents are so close and have so much fun together. You deserve it, and hell, you can't be just a mother all the time, you have to be you, have fun, relax, take a breather, get drunk, whatever you want. If their that tight butted, then tell them the way it is, don't change for anyone, and you don't need to resent anyone one day. So be yourself, be happy, and have fun!
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@soccermom (3200)
• United States
10 Apr 07
My mom and I weren't close when I was a kid, but now that I'm an adult and not such a burden on her lifestyle we're cool. They're the ones I go to when I need to let off steam, they don't expect me to be "supermom", although they think I am, where as my MIL thinks there's always something more I could or should be doing for my kids. It's funny you said "tight butted" after the way this weekend went ! LOL
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• Canada
9 Apr 07
There is NO way I would apologize for my crazy family just to save face!! Why the hell should you?? I think it's wonderful that your parents are so easy going and laid back, and I think truth be told, your husband must be glad he married into your family, even if it's secretly glad LOL. His family does not sound like they know how to have fun. I wonder what they were like on your Wedding Day lol.
@soccermom (3200)
• United States
10 Apr 07
We eloped. But when my sister got married it was out of town so we paid for their trip to come with and help with the kids since the weekend was so hectic. They were a great help, but they were also back at the hotel by 8pm when the reception started at 5pm. We were hitting Taco Bell about 4am and they were calling our room at 7:30 to see if we were up yet. Ummm...hello? Did you think we invited you to watch the kids so WE could leave early? I'll tell ya...
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• United States
9 Apr 07
Not no but hell no! I bet your husband was glad to have married into your family, his certainly do not sound as if they enjoy life.
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@soccermom (3200)
• United States
9 Apr 07
I don't think I should either, but I would kind of like to save face, if that makes sense. My MIL was looking at my hubby like "and you wanted to marry into this?" and worse yet "you do this kind of stuff?" I guess I shouldn't tell her about the night we went to a strip club and ran into my parents! LOL!
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
9 Apr 07
oh no soccermom dont tell that one lol
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@jchampany (1131)
• United States
9 Apr 07
Now I see where you get it!!! That is pretty funny. Who cares what the MIL and FIL think. Unless they are giving your hubby a headache with complaints. Then I would say maybe tone it down a little around them. Anyway, nothing wrong with families having fun together. Also, at least your kids aren't there watching you. Now if your young ones went teepeeing with you that might not be so good. Sounds like fun to me though!
• Canada
9 Apr 07
Hell, NO! Sounds like your mom and dad are really fun to be with! And they're probably my age too...hey! wait a second here...they do sound like some buddies of mine from way back or at least their behaviour rings a bell....oooops! ;-} No apologies are needed for being who you really are and for acting the way you truly feel. Make sure you invite me for your next party! I might even bring the karaoke machine if you ask nice...hahahaha!
@SageMother (2277)
• United States
9 Apr 07
WOW!..I LOVE your parents....LOL. It is wonderful to just be rowdy human beings and it seems you all aren't really dangerous as long as you don't start playing truth or dare....LOL. It could be a lot worse with you not being able to be in the same room without a fight breaking out over old wounds. Your MIL should be thankful that you have this outlet. Don't apologize. Next time one of your parents should ask your MIL why her glass hasn't been refilled yet and to "hop to it"!....LOL ***For all of you who are going to have a seizure over that "hop to it", chill out.***
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• United States
9 Apr 07
This is exactly why me and my husband do not invite his parents anywhere his dad is ok but my MIL is totally uptight everything has to be proper. She wonders why we moved 3,000 miles away from her!
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@creematee (2810)
• United States
9 Apr 07
First of all, SoccerMom, is LOL!!! Not that I'm laughing at YOU, but that I've been in the same situation. MY MIL seems to be very well, for lack of a better word, prudish. I've blurted out some of the things that I've done in my college days & laughing about it. She felt very uncomfortable with my actions, and started having very different feelings towards me. Well, I wised up... I did NOT apologize for my actions. There was no need to. What is done, is done. I DID, however, apologize for making her feel uncomfortable. That was my fault. She accepted, I've behaved (sigh!) and we've been very close ever since. I guess I'm saying do as your heart tells you to do. What does your husband say about this? Does he feel that you need to "save face?" Good luck with your dilema!!
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
9 Apr 07
Absolutely not! You are who you are! So what if your in-laws are fuddy duddys! My parents are sticks in the mud. I wish my parents were as fun as yours. Me and my fiance are much more fun than my parents and his parents are, and my daughter decided to spend Easter break with us instead of running off to her friends house. I was impressed. It feels good to know your kids choose to spend time with you because your more fun than their friends, LOL! Do not ever apologize for who you are. You did nothing wrong, you didn't insult them in anyway and they have to realize that not everyone is like them. I hope that my fiance and I are like your parents in our 50's. Although, I don't think I will be TP'ing anyones houses in the near future, LOL. We will be living on a military base and they don't look to kindly on that sort of thing, LOL!
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• New Zealand
9 Apr 07
Forget it! Your family sounds awesome! Theres no need to apologise, they should be apologising.
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@Writerbob (572)
• United States
9 Apr 07
Why should you ever apologize for who you are? Is anyone asking them to apologize for being stiff and strait-laced? Why do we assume that the default of behavior in life is rule-bound and serious? I could go on and on, but the bottom line is you, like all human beings, are a work of art. Don't cover your canvas just because someone might get their panties in a wad.
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@Stiletto (4597)
9 Apr 07
No absolutely not! Why should you apologise? Your family doesn't sound crazy at all - they just know how to enjoy themselves. If your MIL makes any comments about it then just try to ignore them (it sounds as if you basically get on ok with your in-laws and it would be a shame to spoil that) but NEVER apologise for who you are and where you came from.
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@kurtbiewald (2629)
• United States
9 Apr 07
yeah apologies cost nothing they let the person know that you at least care what they think if you don't care what they think, no apology needed then
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@seamonkey (1982)
• Ireland
9 Apr 07
I wouldn't apologize, but if you feel you need to smooththings over you could just say you hope they weren't too uncomfortable, as you are aware your family is more lively than most.
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• United States
9 Apr 07
No way, you shouldn't have to apologize for having a good time with your family! I would just see if your MIL brings anything up, or maybe ask her if she had a good time yesterday. She'd be rude to criticize your family, especially after they invited her into their home (which is very impressive to me, by the way-- I NEVER "mix" families,LOL). Don't ever feel that you have to apologize for being yourself!
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
9 Apr 07
No you should not apologise at all there is nothing to apologise for, it just sounds like your MIL is a snob and does not know or understand what a bit fun is. So no I do not believe that you should apologise at all you have no reason to apologise
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@Gemmygirl1 (2871)
• Australia
9 Apr 07
Well i think it's good you can have a good time with your folks, i'm not overly keen on the people that are too straight laced! I have a similar situation within my family but my parents are the normal ones & my partner's Mum is kind of trying to relive her youth after having kids so young. It's good she can let loose but the way she does it is a little sad! I say, if you can have a blast with your parents then it's all good! Have Fun!
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• Bulgaria
9 Apr 07
No, you shouldn't be ashamed of who you are and try to hide somewhere when a truth comes out. You can't change your parents nor can your mother in law. Your hubby's parents are really laid back and serious as I understood and that makes your situation a little more complicated. The only problem I see here is that your MIL would think you're all crazy when the truth is that you just like to have some fun, although that she might think that this is not the right way of having fun. But sometimes we all need to break the barier and do sth idiotic. Even if she tells your husband about this story you can always explain that it's not something serious and it's a past event - it doesn't matter anymore and it shouldn't. So why care?
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• United States
9 Apr 07
I would say so what! Just because you and your family like to have fun doesn't mean that your husband's family should look down on you and yours. Have you talked this over with you hubby? Will he do the talking for you and tell his mother that not all people are the same and if they were it would be one boring life? I say party on soccermom! From your I hate Monday post it sounds like you deserve to let your hair down and have fun on the weekends!
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
9 Apr 07
NO! I dont think one is needed If they cant take it thats their fault not yours or your parents and who really cares what ya did earlier in life
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