Can love really last a lifetime?

Philippines
April 8, 2007 10:38pm CST
This was a text message from a friend and i wanted to share it with you..Scientist found out that romantic love involves chemical changes in the brain that last 12-18 months. After that, you and your partner are on your own. Love can absolutely last for a lifetime as desired to be maintained. Meaning it's both your choice. Bottom line, it will last if both of you wants to commit..What do you think of it? Thanks in advance..:)
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@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
9 Apr 07
I agree. While the feelings may change, hopefully it will be replaced by a deeper love that grows more so over the years. My husband and I have been married 6 yrs now and I love him more each day.
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• Philippines
9 Apr 07
i love is true and if God is in the Center of your relationship Love will surely last...
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• United States
10 Apr 07
I agree, I just got baptised and confirmed into the catholic church and me and my fiance are praying every night that we can and trying to keep God as the Center of our relationship and after we are married.
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@MsTickle (24983)
• Australia
9 Apr 07
That makes a lot of sense. Things always get a bit tricky for me around that time. So I guess if either one of the couple doesn't have there heart in it, is not committed th the other as well as the relationship then it's a no go. Gee, you know, that explains a whole lot. Thanks for this info, I'll take it on board.
@myhope (4)
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
This could probably be true since our body (not only our brain) consists of chemicals.. *LOL* But we also have to bear in mind that loving also involves the heart not just our brain. Love will last as long as the two person looks ahead in the same direction, understands, respects and sees each other's flaws as perfection.
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• India
9 Apr 07
of course a true love will last for lifetime until it is returned because when u not loved a normal man wont try for his whole life,he will naturally leave it but surely he will try a lot.but if it is love it true and it returned it will be there for the lifetime.even though we might not show that we still cant leave without them.definitely it will not come down.so if u think u dont love someone anymore jus try not speaking to them just for one day and then u will know how much u miss them.u will know u cannot leave,not even leave just be without them.
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@delaney36 (817)
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
Love is a decision to love somebody. It will surely last a lifetime if both of you are committed to do just that.
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@diillu (5128)
9 Apr 07
......there are mony stories....real stories where poeple have spend together more than 20 years and they are together..my mom and dad they are already married for 25 years and they are the most cutest couple ihab ever seen and for me im in a relationship for like 3 years and..i love him so dearly...love can last fro a life itimeee...its upon ourselves to make it last longer... forgiving the mistakes...and trusting even more...
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@bindishah (2062)
• India
9 Apr 07
wow..really? I was with my last bf for 4 years and the love did last for even longer than that. So im not sure if i would believe what these scientists are saying. Anyways theres never really any gurantee to these studies - they are based on science and love is not all science.
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@healwell (1268)
• Ahmedabad, India
10 Apr 07
The love itself is important to or to achieve love is very different kind of thing as we go for that! Love is not simply the atraction, or not in between two lover only! What scientists are saying has a significance of our body chemical and it is related with our basic instinct as well as emotional element and tendencies! But love as an real ideal or the capacity of love is not limited and not in the area we are using mostly! Love is an expansion of our real capacity to give and share the things we have as an emotional being, to understand others by loving is related with that!
@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
9 Apr 07
I agree. It is up to you and partner to make the relationship work after those euphoric feelings are gone. Most often you become comfortable with each other and find new ways to love each other. It is very important to keep the passion and newness alive in a relationship, but it takes effort. It won't just happen on it's own. Too often many couples don't try hard after the initial feelings of love and the newness of the relationship has worn off. That is why we have so many divorces I think. They are seeking that feeling again and unfortunately most often with someone else. Relationships are hard work. My parents have been married for 35 years and they have their ups and downs, but they are comfortable together. My mom once told me she doesn't have a passionate love for my father, but she wouldn't know what she would do without him. They are more companions/friends now than anything else, and sometimes that is good enough.
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@winky73 (1396)
• United States
9 Apr 07
The initial attraction we feel for someone does fade after time....but hopefuly by then you will have formed a bond that goes a bit deeper than that.If you really can connect with someone on many different levels...I would say it can last a lifetime.
@cdparazo (5768)
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
I really think that love can really last for a lifetime and that it is a matter of decision and acceptance of the other person, faults and all. Both parties have to commit and really work things out no matter what happens.
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@ayushi (224)
• India
9 Apr 07
well of course love can last for life time..i have myself seen many examples...its nothing that feelings go weak or something ...it is just that it needs a renovation every 12-18 months...and it lasts for lifetime...and even after it.. just do not let your love feel that something has changed....surprise her the same way as ypu did before...go on candle light dinners...go on a outing...and just see how your love blooms..!!!!
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@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
9 Apr 07
I don't have any doubts that true love can last a life time. There are times when we may think it has slipped some, and there are times when we have to work on it, but there are many people who are just as much in love in their seventies as they were in their twenties.
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• Philippines
9 Apr 07
yeah, I agree. Love depends on both parties, if you want it to last. Your partner may love you so much, but if you lost your love for him/her, then that won't do any good for both of you. It takes two to tango. The relationship relies on both of you.
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@chavezrmc (5766)
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
Difinitely yes, love can go a long long way. It depends on both of the partners. It takes two to tango. Real love has no limits, no boundaries, it goes on forever.
@winterose (39918)
• Canada
9 Apr 07
yes I do believe love can last a lifetime I have seen it with my own eyes. It is just not the romantic young love it is a more mature and stable love.
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• United States
9 Apr 07
I have been married for 27 years now this June and I believe it can last as long as someone wants it too. I could not be without my partner and lover at all. He is my life. People just don't know what they want anymore now adays. Love can be in front of there face and then hardships come along and they don't want to face them and there lives go separate ways. When you have kids that is a big test of your love because you have to make decisions together and sometimes they don't always work out so well. We have raised two children and know it is not easy. I do not want to be alone in life and choose to stay in love with my partner.
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@romel_ece (1290)
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
Love is a commitment to both partners involved.Thus without committing oneself to your love ones then that would be the case that the love is fading and eventually will lead to break up.Thus it could be better to love unconditionally and commit our own self to our love ones.
@jshekar (86)
• India
10 Apr 07
It entirely depends on the couple and thier intreset. If they trust each other and want to be together till the end, then it can be long lasting