I used to be stupid....
April 9, 2007 1:39am CST
If you read my discussion before this is what trigger my mind since i was a child. How do i know i'm stupid because i have trouble in reading that include speaking. my siblings were all brilliant. 1 of them even have the IQ more than 130. Most of my cousin were also bright,not like me. My parents like to compare me with my cousin and anyone else. My parents also tired to teach me every night and sometimes they become so furious and given up with me. I always like sports since i was a kid, but my movement coordination was not good. if a play tennis or soccer or something (i also fell so easily), it's very rare that i hit the ball. Beside of that i have the passion of playing. in my 8th grade finally my mom say something that really hurts me. "if you can't enter a national senior high school, you better find a job". from there i have no passion in life and start looking around (only watching) what can i do to earn money. But suddenly in my 9th grade (still junior high) i got so smart. i begin to understand math,physics and everything seems so simple and also my movement coordination become so good. I can hit the ball, i can direct it. it's like i have done this for a long time. Then i went to senior high school surpassing my sisters grade so easily. But still since i was a kid until i finished my bachelor, i always looking for the answer of the reason why i'm a live. it's been 20 years and now i enjoy my life because i have found it and i always never give up on trying and also i know my future will be even better than this. last saturday i went to this training and what i saw my journey for this 20 years. i just smile all the way because all i saw just me in my quest.;)
10 Apr 07
It's not right to call any child stupid,same is for you too.Don't say you was stupid just because you wasn't so good student or good at sports as a kid.You never know about the future.Did you thing ever that exactly because they pushed you so hard and the worse of all they compared you with other members of your family maybe you was as you was.You don't need to be stupid for you feel like stupid....I don't thing you be suddenly so smart you always was just you be bigger enough to *take of*the oppression of comparison. About your mother I'll say to you something from my life even if I don't use to do here .She told me same thing when I was at the beginning of the high school for the college ....What I did?The next year I finish my class as the second best student of all the school ,I was good student but not so good ,I did just to proof to her that I can.The next year after I took the congratulation paper from the principal I left the school for I go for work.I find job and I quiet the school without I ever looked back.I don't regret I love my job but I regret for the reason I did... That's all and I hope I don't make you tired with my babble....
11 Apr 07
Thanks big sis,Well i like listening someone telling about their experience.;) When i was a kid it's not easy to think,it really hard to do anything (i don't want to call anyone stupid because i know when i was so hard to think). i even often fell down so easily. there are so many scar in my leg. strangely there are only few scar that i can see now
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18 Apr 07
It sounds as if your Mother tried to use some kind of fear based psychology on the two of you hoping that you would continue your education.....at any rate you both know that you are NOT stupid.....were never stupid, just needed time to find your feet and do your best. It isn't right to call your child stupid, they may grow up to believe it and not even try to do well in school or in life. I'm happy to see that you both know your Mother was wrong when she said that and I'm sorry that both of you grew up being spoken too in that manner. Hugs.
9 Apr 07
Don't you just hated when parents compare. I was fortunate that my parents didn't really compare, but I knew that they wanted their son to be either a doctor or someone successful. At times, I felt really bad. Then one day, I found out that I'm happy to be living my life and that I was responsible for my own happiness. Now, I'm happy, I have a great wife, great job and a great future. Confidence is really important in beng happy. I'm glad you overcame your problems. Congrats!
9 Apr 07
I don't hate them because something they had done to me. I will never hate them and i'll always forgive them, because i know they have have done the best thing they could do to raise me. I live for more than 25 years and this is the best years in my life, because i could enjoy my life without complaining anything that ever happen in my life. i know my life ahead from now will be even much better because i can enjoy and excited to face the future.;)
9 Apr 07
You're a late bloomer that's why. I'm a late bloomer too. I used to get ridiculed by my family and peers because I didn't do well in school. To those who only know me when I was a kid, no doubt they would still think of me as dumb and stupid. When I reached Highschool, everything seemed so easy for me to handle. My grades escalated and everyone around me seemed stupid and wondered why they couldn't figure math or physics. My brain continues to grow big and here I am enjoying my life because I can easily learn and put the things I've learned into good use. You can say, no one can underestimate me now. lol...
9 Apr 07
Waaaaaaa. I never heard about bloomer before. Well don't say no one understand you, but understand others. like in spiderman, the bigger power you have, the bigger responsibility you carry. although it's heavy and it's going to be heavier but i really enjoy having this responsibility.