kids fighting

my kids - here is my 5 year old girl she is so gute smiling,, here is my 2 year old boy smiling he is so handsome, why cant they just get alo0ng and smile like this all the time.
United States
April 9, 2007 2:46am CST
i need help i am going to go insane. my two kids ages 5 and 2 just dont getalong 90 percent of the time. they are always fighting. they hurt each other all the time by hitting. please i need advice how can i get them to get along. i cant take the yelling and screaming no more. why cant they get along
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• United States
9 Apr 07
I think all kids go through this with their siblings. It's a very common power struggle as they try to establish their place in the family and their 'territory' in the home. If they are hurting each other, send each one to corner, the further apart the better. I used one corner in the living room and one in the kitchen. Then they can't turn around and make faces at each other! About 3 minutes was the starting point, then if they insisted on continuing to hurt each other, they got to stand there for five minutes. They weren't allowed to look around, they weren't allowed to fidget. They had to stand there and just cool off, and hopefully think about ways to be nice rather than methods of revenge (you can -tell- them to think about how to be nice, but it's not very enforceable). Parenthood is largely just trying to get through it all without losing your sanity! Good luck!
• United States
12 Apr 07
my sanity i done lost that, lol but your right as a kid i fought with mybrothers all the time but i was never this bad heck my girl at then 10 hit my son then7 over the head with an iron bat yes this has been going on for a long time and i have beat there butss for it but like i said nothing is working for me.
@lightningMD (5932)
• United States
9 Apr 07
well this worked for a friend of mine who had 3 boys...whenever they fought she would make them sit on the couch beside each..no tv no radio just silence they had to sit there and hold hands until they stopped pulling each others arms and squeezing each others fingers ..they had to sit quietly holding hands nicely and gentle for 5 minutes before they could get up...next time in the same day 10 mins...they hated holding hands and soon learned how to get along...
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• United States
12 Apr 07
thanks for the advice but that didnt work either i tryed it, they just sit there and torment each other so i am yelling at them even more. i have put themin there rooms and they just scream back and forth.
@lucy67 (819)
• China
9 Apr 07
now i only have one kid so i don't have your experience. but when i was young, i often fought and quarrelled with my brothers. my parents would have talks with us every few days and tell us which of our behaviours during the few days were good and which were bad. i think by talking with your kid can solve the problem to a certain extent.
• United States
12 Apr 07
i have talked to themtill my face was blue, i told themi cant live with the fighting and screaming no more its got to stop, talking doesnt work, i have even taken the cell phones and computer and games away i am at a loss with them.
@jsae29 (1122)
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
We have the same problem. My kids are aged 8 and 4 and they do often fight. Be it at home, church, school or even at the park, they fight. Sometimes I get embarrassed by their fighting. I often talk to them before going to any place, like brief them and remind them not to fight but still they fight and do lots of naughty things. How I wish too that they stop this kind of behavior.
• United States
12 Apr 07
yes my kids are the same i hate taking themplacing cause they always have to fight even in public they scream i ahte you get away from me and everyone will look at you, EMBARASSING!!
@bobkimcc (25)
• China
9 Apr 07
some time, give them what they are intresting so they will get along. and if they hit each other, keep them along in a darkness room, and tell them, he won't do that again.
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• United States
9 Apr 07
oooppppssss i mean they are 15 and 12 and they dont fight cause they are bored. they have every thing possable to play with fromgameboys to gamecube to playstation computers and bikes and basketball hoop out side they have stuff to do they are just mean to each other.
@jyksnow (45)
• China
9 Apr 07
I have the same problem as you.My cousin and my daughter live in my parent's home.They fight each other each day.My daughter often cry.Because she was fighted.I told them much more times:don't fighting.They repied :ok.But after a while,they are fighting again.This is a problem that difficult to settled.
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