Apologize three times for the same thing---Will you forgive that?

@yanstill (1491)
China
April 9, 2007 4:26am CST
some people are too easy to say sorry,and they forget quickly,next time they will make the same mistake,and apologize to you once again,maybe i can stand that once or twice,but that is the limitation,saying sorry for too many times on the same thing make me feel that person is not sincere,or maybe it's just a kind of transition of responsibility.they seems like apologizing for the weather,there's nothing to do with them,and none of their business. i dont want to be a mean person,but what can i do? maybe all i can do is just keeping silence,coz nothing will change.
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@bluewings (3857)
9 Apr 07
Yes,some people find it hard to learn from their past mistakes and tend to repeat it so much so that their apology loses worth.People around them get the impression that they use the word too casually to make a sincere effort to rectify themselves. Perhaps it's the lack of responsibility in life or lack of self respect that makes them say sorry when they don't truly feel it.It's unfortunate but such people change their ways only after a big loss.If a close friend does that to me,I will try to alert him or her of consequences that life might throw towards them if they don't transform themselves.
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@yanstill (1491)
• China
10 Apr 07
yes,you are right.maybe that's the reason why i like the song 'sorry seems to be the hardest word'.sometimes it is the sorry itself make me annoyed,not that thing they say sorry about.
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@bluewings (3857)
10 Apr 07
If only they knew ,they'd stop saying sorry,lol.Yes,that song is a soulful one and so true that almost everyone can relate to it.
@bluewings (3857)
26 Apr 07
Thanks,Yanstill!:-D
@Mickie30 (2633)
13 Apr 07
An honest apology can mend relationships, dissolve anger, soothe shattered pride or heal a broken heart. The thing is people do tend to say it too easily then do the same mistake again like in your case the person has said sorry too many times on the same thing. It may be worth sitting down and talking to them that might help. Tell them how you really feel when they say sorry and do the same thing again.
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@yanstill (1491)
• China
13 Apr 07
yes,you are right,it a good choice to tell them what i really feel.thanks.
@pinokkio (352)
• Bahrain
9 Apr 07
It seems like that person doesn't really know what an apology means. Cause if he/she continues to say sorry and then do the same thing over and over again, then their apology is worth nothing. They probably think it's just a word. Someone like that not only has respect for you, but probably isn't liked by many people. If a friend does always hurt you on purpose, then he doesn't deserve to be your friend. Sorry or not.
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@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
2 May 07
This type of apology does not carry any significance at all and it’s not meaningful so we can ignore it and treat it as laughter. If you can really take this you will feel more relaxed as you come upon this type of person. It’s similar to the story of a shepherd who shouted wolf…wolf …( langlaile…langlaile…… ) lol:)
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@yanstill (1491)
• China
7 May 07
that story...lol,you know so much.yeah,it's an excellent recite,ignore it and treat it as laughter,i'll do it as you said. :)
@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
8 May 07
Gal, don’t totally treat the shepherd’s crying as laughter. A real wolf may appear too. It’s kidding lol.
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@yanstill (1491)
• China
8 May 07
lol,it's difficult to tell right from wrong...i use my instinct,many times it worked...you are humorous.
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@dll006 (17)
• China
27 Apr 07
just fire them,I can not stand such person in my company,I dont want to waste my time listening carefully :"i'm sorry"
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@yanstill (1491)
• China
28 Apr 07
fire them? lol,i dont know how to do it.
@dixielol (1581)
• United States
11 Apr 07
Humm, Im not sure if I understand what you mean or not but I think I got it. Like if someone just keeps doin the same thing & sayin "Oh Im sorry" then turns around & does it again? I hate that. Its like they just say it but it has no meaning to them. My boyfriend is the worst about it. Everytime he messes something up, he blames me. I'll finally get mad & go off about it. Then he says he's sorry & he wont do it again. Then a few hours later, vow la, does the same thing again! I just want to smack him upside the head for it. I have just told him "Look, if you was sorry then why are you doing it again?" Theres not much you can do other then point out that they are still doing the same thing even after apologising about it.
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@yanstill (1491)
• China
11 Apr 07
yes,it is about that.and i still have no idea why they did that,if they want to continue doing it,then why they apologize?lol,for me it's better not to apologize,do what they have done,i will consider it's the nature of them.
@maucute (980)
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
Maybe they just don't mean it when they say it, it would also depend on the person but that's how I see it.. It's ok to say what's on your mind, speak it out but in a soft way that it could not offend anybody, I can forgive people because I can't take the grief I will feel by not forgiving them. I would only hurt myself more if I keep it longer, for me 3 times is the last.. :)
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@samson1967 (7422)
• India
9 Apr 07
First time is exception, second time it is coencidence, third time it will be a enemy action.
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• United States
13 May 07
its harder to accept the apology if the occurence happens more than once
@seamonkey (1981)
• Ireland
13 Apr 07
I don't have a lot of patience with that and find it pretty irritating when people apologize but keep repeating the mistake. It doesn't seem genuine. If you are generally a calm, nice person going ballisitic the next time they do it would probably get their attention and might stop the behavior.