Do you respond to your responses?

United States
April 9, 2007 5:47am CST
I find I do out of respect. I heard there are some people who do it just to get their posts at the top of the list. Now, I hope you know I do not do this for this purpose. I just enjoy a good conversation, and that is why I am at mylot to begin with. Good people, good conversations. But, how many of you, find yourself doing this frequently? And, why do you do it? Is it respectful, or do people not read them anyways, so why waste the time? What do you think?
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@Asylum (48355)
• Manchester, England
9 Apr 07
Yes, I always try to maintain my discussions, otherwise they simply become a list of opinions on a notice board. It can sometimes be difficult to actually keep up with a discussion, especially if a lot of members respond within a short time, but I try to reply to them when I get the time. There are always the odd responses that do not really qualify for any reply, which are usually the pointless 4 or 5 word comments that are posted. Nevertheless, I agree with you that simply posting a discussion and then abandoning it is very disrespectful to those who have responded. I also try to check out the responses that I have made to other members' discussions, just in case their reply solicits a further comment or answer.
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@Asylum (48355)
• Manchester, England
9 Apr 07
It can also be a problem if you respond to a discussion with a lot of responses, because it can take ages to sift through the pages to find your own response.
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• United States
9 Apr 07
Yeah, no kidding. I just responded to one with 125 responses... that one will take sometime to shift through :)
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@Calais (10905)
• Australia
9 Apr 07
I respond to all of my responses, it sometimes will not be straight away but I definantly do respond. And like you I definantly do it out of respect. Someone had taken the time to read and respond to my discussion, so the least I could do is respond back.
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• United States
10 Apr 07
Indeed. Just sometimes, I am afraid people think I am just "bumping" then again it has never been proven that responding to your responses does this. I know if someone else responds to your topic or a response under your topic it gets bumped. Hmmmm.... either way, I totally agree. It is only respectful to respond to as many of your responses as possible. That is why they call it a discussion :)
• United States
9 Apr 07
Yes I respond back frequently but not all of the time. If I read something that would trigger a response if I were talking than I say it. Even if it is just "Thank You". Everything I have posted have been questions that I truly would like answers/opinions/ideas for. I am grateful to get a response because it helps. I would say thank you or discuss it further with you if I was standing next to you so why not here? That's my take. :)
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• United States
10 Apr 07
Very well said. I was just saying that to someone next to me. The site labels it as "discussions" if I wanted answers for something rather than conversating with people. I would go to a forum. I come here, because I enjoy the "discussions". As you said, if I was talking to someone next to me, I would respond to what they said, I wouldn't just leave them with a blank look lol. Good to hear I am not the only who thinks of this site a chat site, not a forum.
• Canada
9 Apr 07
I too like to respond to the responses I get, even though Admin say we shouldn't. I find it's a way of acknowledging that we appreciate the time and effort that people put into responding to our posts. I may not respond to ALL of them, bit most of them I do. Even the ones I don't respond to I rate +. I figure it's the least we can do
• United States
10 Apr 07
Indeed. I don't understand why they discourage responding to response. I thought this was a discussion board, not a forum. Shows what I know lol. You also brought up another question I was wondering lately. Do they discourage rating every single post. I know some are so short and simple that a rating isn't diserved. But I know I get atleast 20 responses a day, that diserve a good rating. Hmmmm.... I think I might ask this question in a topic see if I get any good responses. Than I will rate them :)
@charms88 (7546)
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
Yes my lord, I do comment back to all who responded to my threads. No matter how much time it will take me. I may not be able to comment back right away but you can see from my previous threads that I did. I only leave it blank if the responders are not making any sense. I admit though, it can be tiresome at times with so many responses I got. But hey, I'm happy anyway. :P
• United States
9 Apr 07
Indeed. The only times I don't respond are, as you said, the response makes no sense, or when, they are too short. I find sometimes if the response is too short, I can't really make a response worth posting. I don't like to post "Yep" or something like that. I am afraid of getting a bad reputation of putting up short comments.
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@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
9 Apr 07
I had a discussion with roughly 88 responses now, and I am proud to say I answered each reply individually, even just to say "thanks for your response" I find it rude when people only comment one or two replies, it makes the others feel not worthy. I have found through replying to my responses I have formed certain bonds with certain people that I hold in very high regard. I don't do it to get back to the top of the list nor for the money. I have made roughly $25 so far in the month I have been a member. I like to think it's for quality, not quantity.
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• United States
9 Apr 07
I totally agree with quality not quantity. I find that just from giving my friends and anyone for that matter a quality response, they are more willing to give me a good quality response. Very well put :)
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@chloe9013 (532)
9 Apr 07
I actually thought topics didnt go to the top of the list if you are just responding. I do it because i respect that people have replyed and i like to let them know that i enjoyed their post, and usually, made me think more about my origional topic. I will not reply to everything single one, just ones that i find make a different point or that make me laugh and such. Id like to think that even if i didnt find i had enough to respond to their post, i most certainly read it.
• United States
9 Apr 07
Indeed. I am the same way. I find that some responses don't give me enough to respond to 'em. Not that I don't appreciate your response, or didn't enjoy it. I just have nothing to say about it :) I am truely glad to here I am not the only one who does this out of respect. Thank you.
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@MsJessi (423)
• United States
9 Apr 07
I try to. Especially if it's a really good response. But sometimes, depending on the discussion, you'll get a lot of similar responses, so I don't respond to all of them, considering I probably just made a similar resonse to the first one. lol. Also, depending on how many responses I get, it can be hard to keep up with them. I only wish I had that kind of time! lol.
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@aidonia (4210)
• Greece
9 Apr 07
I always try add comments to my responses and I say try because sometimes even if I want the response didn't help me to write something but fortunately this didn't happen often.I did this because is a way to show the people come and response to me that I respect them and them opinion,I don't start a discussion just for I start one..this is the reason I don't start many discussions. Also I go back t my responses and read the comment from the person who start the discussion and many times I add comment to him comment.I like do the things with this way.....
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@Melody1 (968)
• India
9 Apr 07
i generally try to respond to as many responses as i can.It is my way of showing my appreciation and acknowledgement to the members who respond to my post.
@blueyes (56)
• Canada
9 Apr 07
hi i am new and responding to the discussion. Well i do it just to let the other person know that i have read their answer.i do it to show respect to the person or people who responded to my discussion.
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@wachit14 (3601)
• United States
9 Apr 07
I read over all the responses to the topics I've started. I usually answer when the member's post strikes a chord within me and I will respond at that point. Although I do think it is good manners to respond as much as possible, anyone reiterating my own opinions would just require a thanks on my part and I think Mylot frowns on those comments as they are always looking for substance. I do agree though that the back and forth exchange of ideas really is the essence of good conversation.
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@feralwoman (2199)
• Australia
9 Apr 07
Hi there Lord Gregor - I always respond to my responses, even though it is discouraged by myLot. I feel that it's only polite to do this - after all, someone has bothered to post a reply to my topic of discussion, so i'll thank them for doing so and answer any questions they may have asked or have a bit of a chat or whatever. I don't really care if they read them or not, at least I have a clear conscience! LOL
@fliffy555 (1045)
10 Apr 07
Although sometimes it takes me a while to respond to reponses as i know one of my discussions has over 110 responses and i still havent responded to the last 20 or 30 but that is because when that one was sitting doing nothing i started another couple now that one has whizzed past them with responses but i havent got round to replying to them yet. I only respond to the odd one. People who dont seem to understand my discussion or those who give me a bit of lip... i respond to those who ask me to give my answer to my question to. Out of curtisy. I never respond just to get my discussions back up. I didnt know they did that. On my screen mine do not go back up. They just keep sinking. Lol. You learn something new each day.I know some people read what I put because sometimes they come back and respond to what i said to their response (does that make any sense lol) so I know I am not wasting my time ALL the time. Some of the time I do think why bother? Then I think. Its nice. I shouldn't just start a discussion and leave it. I feel it is like my duty to the mylot community to reply to them
• United States
10 Apr 07
Indeed. It can really take a while to respond to a lot of your responses. I logged off today for a couple hours, and when I left this discussion was at 11, when I got back it was up to 23. It has taken me around an hour and a half to respond to all of them. Thing is I have gotten more responses as I have been responding to them lol. I will always try to keep up with the responses. As you said, it is our duty as posters :)
• Australia
10 Apr 07
I reply to all responses, because its respectful. You can't start a conversation and then turn your back on it. Thats just not dignified.
• United States
10 Apr 07
True, which is why I don't really start that many topics. Just putting up two a day, that generate 20 responses will keep me typing for a couple hours. Then I go and respond to topics my friends started if I feel I can give some good input. THEN I post some pictures, try to make a few friends. All that jazz. In the end, mylot can keep me occupied for a good 4 hours some days.
9 Apr 07
Wherever possible I do try to reply to responses, it's polite and friendly and shows that I value the people who do actually respond to my discussions. It can be difficult sometimes, when time is short, to reply to all but I do make the effort to rate them too.
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• United States
10 Apr 07
I like how you said "value" that is awesome. I would hope that more than half the people hear value their friends opinions. For informational and conversational purposes. Not actual "value" considering you do get paid :) I do agree it is only respectful. For me, I normally try to respond to the responses that catch my attention. I can't really get to everyone, and for that I am sorry. As you said. I will atleast rate you for your time :)
• United States
9 Apr 07
I'm just learning the ropes here, but after reading other people's posts where there were responses I can see that there's so much more give and take there. So I went back to my started discussions and replied to posts that had something to say, not just a few word answers or answers that were difficult to understand. It made my discussions more active then! I'd say even more interesting. Some people even replied to my replies. I'm seeing that some people start discussions then don't reply to the responses. When that happens to me, it feels like I"m talking to the wind ;)
• United States
9 Apr 07
Indeed. Makes you feel like "Why did I even respond to that?" I normally won't even respond to a post unless I see that person is pretty active about responding to his topics. Someone, also told me that, mylot doesn't recommend you to respond to responses. Why? I thought the whole point in this was to have "discussions" with people. I guess that wasn't the soul purpose of mylot, but I see slowly I think people are making it that. I, also noticed, they really don't care if you do anyways. I normally try to stick to conversating with the people on my friends list. It helps me in "keeping up" with my topics and responses.
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• United States
9 Apr 07
I started a discussion similar to this right after you did. I have been replying to every response on all my discussions, but often found myself repeating the same things over and over again. I am trying a new experiment for me, I'm responding to the ones that I can give a good response to keep the discussion going. I have always felt it rude not to acknowledge someone's response. But, it seems from the responses that I've gotten on my discussion, that most people don't see it that way. I will still respond to many, if not most, of them.
• Singapore
9 Apr 07
It depends on what the person is asking and whether i know the person or not. If i find it an offensive question i may just delete it away. No point wasting my time answering to this sort of questions. My time is precious you know.
@mdarma (868)
• Singapore
11 Apr 07
I will try to respond whenever I can. Meaning, if the reply is relevant to the topic of discussion and when the party takes trouble in giving good reply (In my opinion). I usually ignore, one liner, or if the respond is similar to my earlier respond.
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• United States
11 Apr 07
I agree, sadly, I see "one liners" are becoming more and more popular. Do not get me wrong I understand that some people have an opinion on something, just less than others. So, no disrespect to ALL people. Just the ones that really are a one line response to make a quick buck, you can tell which ones are an opinion and which ones are for a "quick buck" .. Good point. Thank you.