Family
By Gemmygirl1
@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
Australia
April 9, 2007 8:52am CST
I want my daughter to socialise with other kids, she loves kids & gets so excited when she sees them.
All her cousins are from my partner's side of the family but unfortunately they're all kind of feral. They have bad mouths, they fight, they're always sick or dirty & none of them have any manners or know how to behave.
We would both rather she didn't socialise too much with them coz we don't want her to pick up the bad language, yukky habits & such that all her cousins have.
Is it wrong that we don't want her to have too much contact with her cousins or is the fact they're all feral make it ok? I know they're family but we don't want our daughter to end up like them.
We rarely visit (she's 10 months old now & has only been there once) coz their houses are always filthy - i'm not a clean freak or anything but i keep my home looking fairly respectable.
Help, adivse please:)
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3 responses
@lightningMD (5931)
• United States
9 Apr 07
i wouldnt feel guilty about trying to keep your child clean and safe ever...if you want her to play with other kids look for a mops group in your area...these are often held at local churches..or any type of play group..that will help her socialization skills and help prepare her for pre-school...
@KissThis (3003)
• United States
9 Apr 07
I think you have the right to raise your child as you see fit. I believe that if the rest of the family is a bad influence on your child then limit the amount of time spent near them.
My situation is similar to yours. I have a couple of siblings that live close by that have children the same ages as my own. I try to limit the amount of time they spend with my children because I feel that their kids lack dislpine. You have to do what you feel is in the best interest of your child.
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@4cuteboys (4099)
• United States
9 Apr 07
I think you are making the RIGHT choice. If those kids are out of control, or the house is dirty, why expose your baby to it? I wouldnt, family or not! I wouldn't want my kids to have contact with them if I were in your situation, reguardless of if they are family are not.
You guys are doing a good job, and making a good choice. I would suggest talking to the mother, if you havent already and maybe give her a chance to clean up and have a talk with the kids that way you can say you've really tried everything you could.
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