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@Caila611 (992)
United States
April 9, 2007 1:00pm CST
people joke about not liking cats and what they wish they could do to them? My daughter and I are cat lovers and my husband and family are not. Even though my mom has a cat that lives outside they continue to laugh and joke about hurting our cats. I don't find this funny and it makes my daughter very upset but they continue to do this even thought they can see it on our faces that we are hurt by there statements. What can we do?
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@nicolec (2673)
• United States
9 Apr 07
I absolutely hate that! I have heard it to. People joke about what they would like to do to cats. I think, how can some one even joke about hurting a living thing like that!?! If I was you, I would be straight forward about it. You find it offensive. It upsets your daughter. And it shows just what kind of people they really are. They must stop. Especially around your daughter. If they don't stop, you can even hint that your husbands family might find themselve losing privilages of seeing your daughter. You didn't say how old she is, but that is no way to behave around a child.
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@Caila611 (992)
• United States
9 Apr 07
She is ten and even volenteers at the animal shelter where we live! They know this about her and still continue to do it. My huband does it all the time. I have yelled at him, given him the "LOOK", walked off in the middle of a conversation when he starts this, and even my daughter has yelled at him. He always so "I'm only joking" Well the his jokes aren't funny .
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@nicolec (2673)
• United States
9 Apr 07
Hmmm, if you have said something to him then it's time for higher action! Sometimes people just don't listen, but if you make him listen, he will. let's see....how about not making him dinner one night. Then when he gets mad about it, just tell him 'you were only joking'. Well, it's an idea at least. You need to make him see!
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• Canada
10 Apr 07
I have heard this myself and it makes me SO angry! I have a cat and if anyone even joked about what they'd like to do to her, I would hurt them before they had the chance! This has to stop. You might hint that if they don't then they would lose privileges of seeing your daughter, because what they are doing isn't right. Keep telling them till it sinks in, and if they refuse to listen then follow through on your threat. If you stop your daughter going to see them, it might just make them realize what they're doing.
• United States
10 Apr 07
It used to bother me but I take it with a grain of salt anymore. I figure if I don't actually have reason to think they'd truly hurt an animal I know it's just talk. For some reason THEY think it's funny! I don't!
@meljessxena (2317)
• Australia
10 Apr 07
yes i know where your coming from, i only have one cat, but they dont joke about him, its my dogs they joke about and it really upsets me since my dogs are like my children and part of my family. my partner feels the same he thinks of them as his kids. and other people joke about stuff like that, or how they look and like i even hear a person say hitting my dog over the head and putting him 6 ft under. that really made me mad.
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10 Apr 07
Jokes like that are not funny and very hurtful. I wonder about people sometimes, how on earth they can laugh about hurting any animal is completely inhuman. I wonder if they would laugh so much if they themselves were hurt.
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• United States
10 Apr 07
Yes, I hate this when people talk badly about my cats or say horrible cat jokes, I usually express my concern and not to do it around me. I love my cats as though they are my children and I wouldn't want anyone to talk badly about my children or my cats.
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• Philippines
10 Apr 07
i do have the same problem. But it is with my neighbors. I think that cats or other domestic pets are created by God so we have to appreciate them and not to make fun of them. They have also right to be cared by human beings. i just pray for the people who did not realized the part of animals in our lives. I lay on God the decision.
@SpitFire179 (2536)
• Canada
10 Apr 07
I'm an animal lover, Cats in particular, and i thank god my hubby is too.. When i was growing up, my father would make jokes about Chinese food, made with cats, and blah blah blah. He never stopped, i hated it, and it was the cause for some pretty nasty fights... Though there were many other reasons, but cats are my babies. I don't really know if there's anything you can do, except maybe you sitting down with those that make the jokes and setting down some rules so that it doesn't make your daughter resent them.... That's all i can say, sorry i couldn't help much hun...
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• United States
10 Apr 07
I have 4 cats myself, but I could care less when people make jokes about it. Still they should keep their mouths shut if it is really upsetting you and your daughter. How old is your daughter? If she is really young that kind of thing could stick with her especially if she has a cat and something happens to it. Tell those people to shut the hell up about cats when you and your daughter are around.
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@carlaabt (3505)
• United States
10 Apr 07
Oh that drives me crazy! Recently I accidently let my cat out when I was letting the dogs in. She was outside for like 8 hours before I realized it. I thought she was down in the basement hiding. Well, when I couldn't find her that night, my husband went outside looking for her. She was sitting on the neighbor's window cover and was perfectly fine, just a little cold. I was talking to my sister online that night and told her about it. She laughed and said it was too bad that the neighbor's rottweiler didn't eat her! I was sooo upset! I was already mad at myself for letting her out. I kept thinking about how small and defenseless she is out there against all the dogs in the neighborhood. And then my sister said she wished the dog would have ate her. I think that was the longest I've ever gone without talking to my sister, was after she said that!
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@seamonkey (1981)
• Ireland
9 Apr 07
Yes, I find it a tad dsgusting and utterly rude when they are guests. As the last seven (!) of them I found making these comments were my own family, in my own kitchen, i felt I had to consider no harm was really meant and consider the bigger picure. I think the phrase they were using was 'swing a cat' and talking about what they might hit with it. I have heard these colloquialisms, but when it comes to living beings, think it is about as funny as whoever thinks about the most rascist slur visited upon them. It's just not acceptable.
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@Carrie26 (1587)
• United States
10 Apr 07
People are mean and hurtful these days.Especailly even about when it comes tio animals.I for one could never wish a animal to get hurt because I like animals.I get upset when I hear about people hurting animals.I think to myself how would they feel if they were in the animals place and was being hurt.?I would tell your husband that the comments upset and hurt you an your child.I would also tell his family members as well.Tell them that would be like you saying you would like stuff to happen to them or saying to bad it didnt happen to them.I would also tell them if they would like to see their granchildren then to stop the hurtful comments or keep them to themselves because it hurts your daughters feelings.But some people are just cruel and insinsitive to animals and about hurting peoples feelings.I would tell your husband that if one of your cats get hurt they will be the first prime suspect of the cat(s) getting hurt.Since they chose to joke around and cause it to make it like the would.I would just refrain form going over to their house.
@Maggiepie (7821)
• United States
11 May 08
It bothers me for ALL animals, but especially for cats. When I even THINK of a cat in pain or hungry or afraid, I feel it! If you were me, you'd give them SUCH a lecture! Especially since it shows a lack of love & concern on their part. And shame on them for disturbing a CHILD like that! Few things get my dander up faster than abuse to animals or children, & here, you have BOTH! Grrrr! Maggiepie
@jdeforge (224)
• United States
5 Dec 07
Amazing I read this topic today. I had an arguement with a coworker about this very topic. He continusly tells me he wants to use my cats as "target practice" I completely went off and said that some people need to respect peoples likes and dislikes and its horrid to say such awful things. I never make fun or comment about his likes. I also told him its like me saying I want to beat up his kids. He shut up after that.
@wiccania (3360)
• United States
5 Dec 07
Express your feelings to these people, let them know how you feel. Just because you have a hurt or upset expression on your face doesn't mean that they know how badly it makes you feel. Be thankful that they dont' actually DO anything to hurt the cats. I knew someone awhile back who hated his girlfriends cat so much that he duct taped it to the ceiling fan.
• Philippines
14 Apr 07
i would defend my cat that's for sure... and i surely don't like people like that... you know, you can tell alot about the person's personality by just the way it treats an animal or a pet?... its really hurting and i won't listen to it so that i won't be pissed.