Divorce

Philippines
April 10, 2007 9:43am CST
What is the most main reason that you can think of, for a husband to divorce his wife or vice versa?
9 responses
• Philippines
11 Apr 07
I think the only reason why a married couple should get divorced is when despite trying hard to find ways to solve or save their marriage, all efforts fail. If im not mistaken, i think there are some provisions in the law that a husband or wife should commit before they can file for a divorce like adultery,or if wife is incapable of giving birth for her husband, or if husband is not capable to provide for his wife physically,mentally or emotionally. It's really sad to think that in some countries where divorce is legal, married couples who encounter problems in their marriagge usually resort to divorce without even trying to solve the problem.
• Philippines
11 Apr 07
Adultery as the reason for divorce is accepted than the other reasons that you mention. Let me share you the exact word of GOD regarding divorce. "Matthew 5:32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery." An exact word of GOD that we can not deny, meaning if you divorce your wife or husband other than infidelity then you causeth her to commit adultery. Other reasons therefore are not accepted in divorce in GOD's exact word.
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
I am sorry but i dont quite understand the verse you quoted.Are you implying that in God's words, or in the Bible,divorce is actually allowed?
• Philippines
22 Apr 07
Above verse is in King James version. Let me site the New International version of the Bible which is more clearer. Matthew 5:32 But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfullness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.
• India
10 Apr 07
Yes this is a very delicate and important issue in today's world. The number of divorces are increasing day by day. Actually excess workload is a main cause of it. In today's families, both husband and wife have a busy schedule, and they can't take out time to talk to the family and each other privately, in a relaxed mood. This creates gap between the two, and slowly this gap gets filled by another extramarital relation. They find this extramarital relation in their workplace, because they spend more time there, and gets slowly more attached to their workplace. And, then the story is same everywhere........Frequent quarrels, blaming each other for the damaged and loose relation, and then they get divorced one day.
• Philippines
10 Apr 07
But extra marital relationship won't resolve the issue. It is just starting from the beginning and issues will still be there. Is there any way to really save the marriage?
@jyksnow (45)
• China
10 Apr 07
For a husband to divorce his wife,maybe he have had another lover.Maybe he had tired to the war they struggled between each other in each day.Maybe intense imotion had been withdrawn.Maybe he had been bored his wife and not will to live she.
• Philippines
10 Apr 07
Can we really find a perfect combination? I am married for 29 years and I can not count the uncommon things but I can count the things we both have in common and it is not more than 10. I am sure it will not reach the zero level...
@adelss (2)
• Nigeria
12 Apr 07
I think the main reason a divorce should happen in a family is when there is infidelity involved else any other thing should be sorted out by the couple so long as there is love.
@jcgbrains (139)
• United States
11 Apr 07
To say that there is a main reason people divorce is oversimplifying it. People have as many reasons for getting divorced as they do for getting married. Divorce happens for different reasons depending on the length of the marriage at the time. Most divorces that happen in the first year of marriage happen because the two of them never should have married in the first place. In general the reasons continue to change the longer a couple has been married. The number one reason divorces happen is communication, the two people have stopped full, complete, and honest communication. Unless you are planning something special for them, or have a job that requires it, you should not be hidding anything from your them. Generally speaking I think that is the main reason, a complete breakdown in communication between the two.
• Pakistan
11 Apr 07
diamond cuts by diamond
@mykykko (424)
• Philippines
11 Apr 07
maybe the guy feel that it might be better to have separate lives than to be together.we all know that there are women who nags as much as they can wherever they are as long as they want.maybe that's one of the reason.another sometimes, we woman prioritizes our children and sometimes we forgot that we also have something to do for the marriage to be stand still.respect is another factor.
• China
11 Apr 07
The most main reason for divorce may result from couples.They cannot understand each other.
@xcellen (204)
• Indonesia
10 Apr 07
there is also a posibility of a third party, especially when the family had a problem (e.g a fight), this third party can be anyone, like a mother in law, friend, or relatives, women tends to get vulnerable, so if there is a problem in the family i think its best not to let it go outside, try to discuss the problems, if it really need to ask to a third party better try to find someone whos on the neutral zone, but i think it would be better not to let it out, since basically married is about understanding :)