Jealousy over online contacts

Ok....maybe he's not as mature as the world may want him to be...but he may feel left out?...Do u show him as much attention?...maybe a kind word from you would put him at ease....remind him (nicely) that your with him and if you still do...love him...a few words go along way...and you being a writer should b able to fanagle a few for the dumba**...lol

Well I think the best way round it is that you tell him if he does not believe you why does he not get to know them and talk to them online, or sit with you while you talk to them so he can see what is being said. I would personally say that ias the only option you have there I hope you can get this sorted I really do

You can only tell him the truth. It's up to him to accept it. Does he try to limit your "in person" friendships? Maybe he feels left out, perhaps he doesn't know how to use the computer or write as well as you do. Jealousy and possessiveness are NOT just another part of relationships. You have the right to acquaintances!

For one thing, you are with him and not the others. The problem is basically his if he is feeling insecure or jealous. I don't see how he feels threatened since the contacts are online and likely a great distance away. Does he allow you to have both male and female friends other than online? As long as you have explained the situation to him, it is up to him to understand where you are coming from. As long as you are still living with him, he should feel comfortable with that fact.

Might it be that you are not showing your boyfriend enough concern? This may be the reason why he is feeling unloved and jealous. Take time to let him know that he is your boyfriend - no other, and any online male friend you have is just an acquaintance.

I don't know, the window things sounds good to me ;-) But seriously, communicate, which is pretty much what a lot of your responses have been. I have a unique view on this. I have been on both sides of the spectrum. Yes, I have females and males I communicate with on the internet and have had an ex boyfriend who was extremely jelous, even knowing exactly what I was writing (standing over my shoulder watching) of course he ended up being very controlling in every aspect and had to go. Same boyfriend, a girl that was both our friends on MySpace forwarded me some extremely suggestive and almost exploitive emails he had sent her and I went into his MySpace (nope not ashamed a bit) and found that he was doing that with loads of women. He said "Baby, it's just words". Ack! Talk about irony. So my suggestion is to keep an eye on his behavior all around because this could be a sign of something more. Not saying it is, but better to be wary than to be put throught he ringer later. Good luck!

i am sorry to say why you have a boyfriend who is not mature and cant understand you,through him out off the window.

Just sit him down and talk with him,l describe what u get out of this and that there is nothing romantically going on., Assure him that u love HIM. and also like someone else said, maybe he wants more attention than u are giving him..

Don't worry, have an open talk with your boyfriend. Tell him the entire situation, and reason why you have such aquaintainces. Tell him that it is completely natural with the type of job you are doing. Remember he is just possessed about you, and possession and insecurity are just another sides of a loving relationship. But if you can't persuade him in any way, then get off the relation to find someone of a more matured thinking.

hm ,yes i was in your situation,but now is starting to piss me off the fact i use yahoo for few of my best importants friends and relatives,and because i hear when i get an answer from mylot ,and someone buzz me...is is annpying,because they are not in my friend list ...and when i ask"who give you my id" they say something about directory...lol... my boyfriend is kinda jealous also,but still will understand that situation,the only one which will be in fire and will "eat him" it is me!!!lol,i am kinda on special level of jealousy...ha ha augusta

I am having the same feelings nowadays like your boyfriend. My friend has just created her profile on Orkut & is busy writing messages to persons she doesn't knows, but has not written any mail to me & is spending more time with Orkut. I am also having the feeling that I am being jealous, & that she should give some time to me as well.

Don't worry,.... I think he loves u so much,... thats y he behave like this...u try to explain the actual situation what u are? or try to be more closer to him than before...............

Somehow, I can relate to your boyfriend's feelings. My husband loves to chat online. Just recently we had a confrontation because I caught him chatting online. I am an immature, insecure wife up to the deepest part of my bones, but I just can't help it. I get hurt everytime I see him do that. Should I just keep it myself? No, I dont think so. So I confronted him and tell him Im hurting. And then my husband understood my feelings. Honesty is still the best policy..