Life... It's Ups and Downs....
By Darkwing
@Darkwing (21583)
April 10, 2007 10:22am CST
As the saying goes, Life is a Roller Coaster. It can be that one minute you're on the up and the next, plummeting down. The latter times are when you have to hold on tight and keep a grip and unfortunately these seem to happen far too often.
However, I belief that everything in the Universe balances out, and this includes our life experiences. We have to take the good with the bad, and balance them up, in order to experience life to the full and learn lessons from it. When you come upon the downward trend, you have to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, hold your head up high and find your inner self. If you can do that, you will find balance again and the force of the downward plummet will set you on the incline again.
Many of the down times instill in us a determination to gather strength and positive mental attitude, enough to win back the better times. If you can envisage those "high" moments and want them enough, you will fight for them, strive towards them, and eventually, reach them once more. Moreover, the more positive your mental attitude becomes, the longer the "high" times, and the less time spent down and distressed.
I could tell you a lot of stories here... give you examples, but I'd like to hear your personal feelings on this. Are you a fighter? Are you determined to fulfill your dreams and reach your goals? Do you sometimes feel as though you've been kicked in the teeth and can't go on, or do you rally your faith, strength and positive mental attitude and kick back? What is your view on life's ups and downs?
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@nancyrowina (3850)
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11 Apr 07
We all have good times and bad times without one we wouldn't know the other so it all balances out. I'm a fighter I've coped with a lot of things in my life and am determined to carry on no matter what life throws at me. Sometimes I get dangerously depressed but when you've had depression as long as I am you learn to cope with it as you know it will end.
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@Darkwing (21583)
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11 Apr 07
I like your attitude Nancy... indeed we have to have balance in our lives... it's the only way forward. Positive attitude and a will to succeed in life is all important I think, and you are a fighter. You'll make the best you can of life. Have faith and keep climbing that mountain!
Brightest Blessings and thank you for your response.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
10 Apr 07
Yes I am a Fighter but there is times that I can get really down and it will take me a couple of Days to pick myself back up or even longer but eventually I do get back up and I start fighting again no matter how many times I get kicked, I will kick back
@Darkwing (21583)
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10 Apr 07
Yes, Gabs... I don't think any of us can say that there's no one time in life, at least, that we don't stay down for a while, but the important thing is that we apply our PMA and get back up again, brushing of the negative.
Thank you for your response, my dear friend. I hope you're beginning to get up and smile again! Brightest Blessings.
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@raphael_volts (1131)
• India
13 Apr 07
My view on lifes ups and downs is that its a part of life and its what that makes life what it is.
If we take example of the roller coaster itslef then we can see that the fun of going up to the height is only after you have travelled all the way down at that speed and then it builds up the thrills and thats whats enjoyable.
So my funda of life is to never give up cause you never know what the next second brings and also that what enjoyment will the success bring if you never knew what failure is.
Take Care
May GOD Bless YOU
@SpitFire179 (2536)
• Canada
14 Apr 07
I've had a hard life, a lot more downs than ups, depression got unbearable, and i just couldn't pick myself up, it just got so hard, then i met my husband, i strived every day to become happier, with or without him, i knew what i wanted, and i knew i had to have him.
From there we moved in together, got married, and became so happy, to this day we're happier than i could have ever dreamed possible, but sometimes, the downs, the worries, stresses and such get too much to bear and i find myself curling up in bed and not wanting to leave, just sleep the day away.
I watched this movie, a friend recommended it to me, told me it would change my life forever, I didn't believe him, i thought we would always be stuck in this slump, not in our relationship but with the financial and day to day burdens that keep us from moving forward at times, as it seems.
We got the movie, and watched not once, but 2ice, and i can say that i thank my friend every day now for how my life has changed, because it really genuinely changed, for the better, and so has my husband's, as our lives are one.
this movie is called 'the secret' and i now recomend it to everyone i talk to that needs a change in their lives, it tells you that no matter what you have or don't, you can do anything, achieve anything, become anything, all with the power of your thoughts and feelings, i think anyone who is in a bad situation, or just can't seem to be happy all the time, or as often as possible, should watch this movie, it's more than worth it.
Now we smile every day, almost all day, and i'm active and motivated, and we're getting more than we ever dreamed possible, and it's all thanks to my friend and the movie.
@Darkwing (21583)
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14 Apr 07
Spitfire, this is indeed a good example of PMA also. I tend to believe that people are sent to help us, as with your boyfriend, now husband, and also your friend. I would regard your husband as a "sharer of your burdens" and your friend as your "mentor" or "guardian angel", because these are the two main "lessons" you have learned from life so far. Just because you don't have a heap of money or possessions doesn't mean you can't excel in life. What really matters is the love you give and the love you receive. I'm a firm believer in the saying that you must learn to love yourself before others will love you. Here, I think your boyfriend was sent into your life to help you give out some of the love you were harbouring inside you, and thus, you learned to give and help the person you loved most in the World? He, equally gave you his love and you both shared each other's fears and depression, and fought your way, with PMA, to your "guardian angel", who was just sitting there waiting for you to realise that with a little help from him, you would be back on the upward slope again. Hence, he produced a video which instilled in you an increase in PMA, and an increase in determination to shape your own path in life, towards happier times and towards the top of the mountain.
Well done, all three of you! Teamwork is never a bad thing, and nor is giving. You can make your way through to the top with love and giving alone, if the need arises. We have been given a great gift in life and in the nature around us. It's up to us to make the very best of the gift we've been given, and I think you have done this, from scratch. Well done!!!
Thank you for sharing your life experiences with us. I like a story with a happy ending, and appreciate the time you put into this, so, a + rating for you too. Thank you very much. Brightest Blessings in perfect love and perfect light, for a very happy future life.
@complexvanilla (653)
• India
11 Apr 07
Ups and downs are indeed a part of everyone's life. Someone wise once said that 'Life is unfair, but it is unfair to everybody, so life is fair'.
Everyone of us, no matter how phenomenally rich, successful or popular have our own skeletons in the closet, our own feelings of insecurity and unhappiness. In my studies, I have always been partial to the subjects and topics that interest me while ignoring the rest. This means that in every academic course, I make a phenomenal impact when I'm studying the subject of my choice, thereby heightening everybody's expectations of me, only to let them completely down when the other subjects come out. Every failure has something new to teach and I have learned a lot over the years. While I'm far from being where I want to be, I'm learning all the time and I'm happy to say that I at least don't repeat the same error twice. I have also come to realize that mental maturity is something that not everyone is gifted with from early on. I have learned a great deal more now that I'm more mature mentally.
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@Darkwing (21583)
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11 Apr 07
Yes, we do all have our ups and downs. I don't think it's just that life is unfair to everybody which makes it fair, but also that the unfair times balance the fair times. The difference is, we tend to remember the 'unfair' times better, because they make such a mark on our lives. But, having said that, everything happens for a reason, and most of the time we learn a lesson from the marked times in our lives.
Yes, as you age, or mature, as you call it, you become wiser and able to deal with things in a much simpler way. It's all a part of getting where we want to be, and I hope you reach your dreams someday, Vanilla.
Thank you for a very valid, quality response. I'm giving you a + rating for this, with Brightest Blessings.
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@Darkwing (21583)
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11 Apr 07
Yes, we do all have our ups and downs. I don't think it's just that life is unfair to everybody which makes it fair, but also that the unfair times balance the fair times. The difference is, we tend to remember the 'unfair' times better, because they make such a mark on our lives. But, having said that, everything happens for a reason, and most of the time we learn a lesson from the marked times in our lives.
Yes, as you age, or mature, as you call it, you become wiser and able to deal with things in a much simpler way. It's all a part of getting where we want to be, and I hope you reach your dreams someday, Vanilla.
Thank you for a very valid, quality response. I'm giving you a + rating for this, with Brightest Blessings.
@mlgb_24 (638)
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11 Apr 07
i am a definitely a fighter, a very optimistic person. there was even one point in my life that i thought i was strong as a steel - it helps in some ways and it doesn't as well. my faith is always strong, no matter what good or bad happens in my life. Life's ups and downs are a good learning experience for all of us. it teaches us what teachers don't teach at school. it makes us often a better person inside and out. this is very substantial.
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@Adrenochrome (1653)
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13 Apr 07
Not only can life be a roller-coaster ride, but I find that what you lose on the swings, you gain on the roundabout! And when I find the man who created these fairground metaphors, I'll teach him a thing or two!
Seriously though, without the lows, we would not be able to appreciate the highs. For many years, I suffered with depression, and never felt any highs. Things that should have lifted me, just passed by, yet the downs grew deeper. Fortunately, I got help and now feel both spheres again, which makes the lows understandable, and I really get 'high' of the good things, often simple everyday things.
I used to think I was a fighter, but it was the fight which was causing my problems. Sometimes we have to fight for ourselves, and that might mean surrendering some things, to gain all-round.
It took me 35 years to learn this lesson, and to change my life accordingly, and whilst I still remain true to myself, I have discovered you are never too old to change, and it isn't a weakness to ask for help.
Being numbed, or on an even keel at all times, probably means you are not experiencing life to the full, and no-one should miss out.
If you ever feel low, remember that a peak is just around the corner.
All the best.
@Darkwing (21583)
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14 Apr 07
Hi Adren, my friend! Every word of this is true... you have to find the balance, and if that means asking for help, you ask for help. I frequently have to search my inner-self and rebalance, but I'm fortunate enough to be able to do that on my own, most times. I like to be alone, and away from everything and everybody else, to spend some quiet time finding my inner self and the solution to my problems. Once at that point, I am able to apply my PMA and set on the upward climb. Then, what happens when you get to the top? Right... you have nowhere to go but back down again, but, this need not be bad, because you can decide whether to leave the bad things behind and take with you only the better, more positive things. Then when you reach the bottom, you have the force to push you right back up again.
Sorry, my friend, I'm getting carried away by my tongue again, but this is the way I see it, and it's similar to your way. As for the fairground owner, ha ha ha ha ha, tell me when you find him because I might want to join you!!!
Thank you for sharing your experiences of life with us and for a most intelligent and fascinating response. That's worth a + rating from anybody, so you have it!
Brightest Blessings for a happy and enlightened life in the future. Take care, Adren. :-)
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
11 Apr 07
In my living years, I have never experience life as a constant, either always up or always down. It is full of ups and downs. I am a fighter only when equipped. Many a times, I have been kicked and fell right flat on the nose. It is lucky I have a big head with a springy nose. As soon as my nose hit the floor, I will rebound. I am not sure how long the elasticity of the spring will last before it finally wears off :P
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