Commitment...is marriage the only statement of commitment?
April 10, 2007 3:07pm CST
I have several discussions that have brought up the word commitment. In one dicussion i had asked what the best ways to concieve where. I had also stated that me and my boyfriend where wanting to start a family and then im ridiculed for not being married. My position on marriage is that it doesn't keep people from leaving one another and that marriage ends up being just a piece of paper in the end. It is after all just as easy to leave someone if you are married or not. I just feel like marriage isn't a way to prove commitment. I think that lately people only stay committed for a short period of time. When people see the marriage certificate they don't see a lifetime with that person. I think that people who do marry and stay that way and are happy in their marriage are very lucky and i have nothing against those people that choose to be married. How ever i don't feel it right that i be ridiculed for not wanting to get married after all a true statement of commitment is commitment is it not? A piece of paper isn't going to make a person stay committed to a relationship. The only thing that makes the person committed is the love and trust that goes into that relationship. What is your stance on this subject?
• United States
10 Apr 07
I am right there with you on this one. The state of commitment is in the heart and mind. No piece of paper or being "sanctioned" for marriage by any state means a thing really. I was married to the only man I have ever loved for 4 years. We hated each other (not really but you know what I mean) . Now that we have freed ourselves from that constraint we are totally in love again. And the weight of the world is off our shoulders. So ignore the naysayers. And you are right, it is just as easy to leave someone when you are married, but you get the bonus of the lawyer's bill. So where is the joy in that? Good topic and good luck!
• United States
10 Apr 07
Thank you very much for your input it was very good!!! I agree with everything that you said. I think people when they get married have this heavy burden on their shoulders to be the perfect husband and wife and if they don't they well they become people that they no longer enjoy they become people that they no longer want to live with. I would rather have a huge party to let everyone know my love for my boyfriend rather than getting married. I don't think that getting married really reflects commitment. I think that people expect you to do it and there for you do it. When you have been with someone for so long you feel like you have to get married and i never want to feel like that so i don't feel that i should nor do i want to get married i like the way things are right now why would i want to change that?