I am a female, wondering what other womens opinion is on what is a good man?

Love and relationships last forever . - I think it's love and relationship which last forever. Nothin in life can take place fo your love and feelings for any body on this earth. Relationships matter a lot to me and I think relationship would matter to you also more than your life.
@samrat16 (2442)
India
April 11, 2007 4:47am CST
I would like to see what other women think of when it comes to saying what is a good man to you. I mean give some examples of how he might be to make you feel he is a good man.What are your opinions for qulities I shouls seek to find a good man . I have made my mind little bit and this is what I think ..... A good man never makes you feel sad. My man is always here for me and supports me. I can talk to him about anything and I know it won't change his love for me. He's a great listener and gives awesome advice when I ask. He doesn't try to control me ot think of me as his property. He is not jealous but if someone ever hurt me, well they would regret it bigtime. He makes me feel like a great person and gives me strength when I am feeling down. What do you think about my opinion???
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@pillze (118)
• Romania
11 Apr 07
i think that we should learn how to love men with their flaws and all. but the perfect man for me would have sense of humour, would be caring, always there for me when i need him, he would buy me flowers just because it's wendnesday and he would constantly tell me how much he loves me:)
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@dlkuku (1936)
• United States
11 Apr 07
We women have a tendency to look for Prince Charming, and we can make all the lists of all the qualities we want in a man, but men often fall short of our desires. As we fall short of theirs. We are all human, and there is no perfect man. For me, I know my man has his faults, but that is what makes his good qualities stand out even more. We don't always get along, but then, life would be really boring if we did, and we also wouldn't have those times when we make up. My man is honest, hard working and has a strong sense of what is right and wrong. He is responsible, strong and cares deeply and he's very protective. He can also be picky, judgemental and jealous. But I take the bad with the good, and love him warts and all. I know the man inside. I have seen him angrier than anything, yet I have also seen him cry tears of sorrow. I have seen him show compassion to someone who needed it, and have seen him help a struggling child to learn something. There are many aspects to him, some good, some bad, but one thing I know is that he does love me, and that is what is important.
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• United States
12 Apr 07
yup
• United States
11 Apr 07
Well, personally...I think your first comment about a good man is a little silly...a good man will never make you feel sad. This is just setting yourself up for a huge disappointment. Whether or not he is a good man - he will let you down sometime or another - he is human! Just as I try to be a good woman - I'm not perfect and I let husband down everyonce in awhile. But I do think all of the other qualities you listed of a good man are very well thought out! But don't forget to look for a man that shares the same views and values as you. Especially when it comes to religion and politics. If you clash on your views here you could be setting yourself up for a lot of hurt and pain in the future unless you both can decide to respect and understand the other's viewpoints.
@KarenO52 (2951)
• United States
11 Apr 07
I think you've got the right idea, and I would add that he should be able to fight effectively. In any relationship, there will be conflicts eventually. If he becomes angry with you and can work it out with you reasonably, that is really important. Just see how he acts when you dissagree, and you will get a hint whether he will become excessively angry, or refuse to hear your side.
• United States
11 Apr 07
I am with a good man. He calls me up during the day just to tell me he loves me, he brings home flowers just to say thank you for being with him, he calls me up to thank me for making his house a home. He always makes me smile everyday and is always there for me to lean on and to tell my problems and concerns. When I complain about our 18 year old son or my drama induced daughter he listens to me and then tells me to go relax and enjoy the day. He has always been there for me with a smile on his face and his arms always extended to hug me. I am with a good man and I love every minute of it.
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• United States
11 Apr 07
I am with a good man. He calls me up during the day just to tell me he loves me, he brings home flowers just to say thank you for being with him, he calls me up to thank me for making his house a home. He always makes me smile everyday and is always there for me to lean on and to tell my problems and concerns. When I complain about our 18 year old son or my drama induced daughter he listens to me and then tells me to go relax and enjoy the day. He has always been there for me with a smile on his face and his arms always extended to hug me. I am with a good man and I love every minute of it.
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@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
11 Apr 07
A good man to me is one who respects my individuality and doesnt try to change me....one who acknowledges and attempts at least to understand my past and how its affected who I am now as well as why I do certain things the way I do or react how I do and acts accordingly...one who loves and respects my children completely and DOES NOT try to force himself on them or try to override my role as their sole parent....A good man is one who works hard, supports his family mentally, emotionally and finacially BUT if I want to work he's cool with that too....A good man to me is one that puts up with my crazy antics LOL as well as my mood swings and so on...He's one who makes me laugh, cry, mad, feel loved and so on....A man who isnt afraid to talk to me openly and honestly is also very important... Wow there are a lot of thigns that IMO make a man a good man....I was totally lucky cause my husband is all those things....
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@mypeace (394)
• Nigeria
11 Apr 07
Naturally any man would want to misbehave, its only God that control their execess. A nice man to me is a man that has the fear of God. I want my man to love me, say it, and prove it by action. Shoudnt exert unecessary authority, love his children, stay at home at his free time, provide for his family, trust me and be honest with me.
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• India
11 Apr 07
its partly correct correct...... but what is most imp is, my man should respect me! he should trust me and should be trustworthy... my man should always speak for truth and justics! and love me the most after god and parents... and tell me "I LOVE YOU" many times a day... come on even thats imp lol! rest other stuffs are slso imp but secondry!
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• United States
12 Apr 07
A good man should make you feel beautiful, make you smile by just looking at him. If you need someone to lean on they are there to hold you tightly and listen and whipe your tears away if they should happen to fall. Make butterflies appear in yourstomach just at the thought of them. Make you blush then when they notice it they think it's cute and they kiss both your cheeks then your lips. Most of all they tell you that they love you and will never let you go. And they never let you feel like you're alone through anything.
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11 Apr 07
Hi, I am not sure if I should respond to this or if I am just going to get a lot of abuse but hey. To me from a male point of view, there are hundred of things that make an average man good. There are only a few that make a good man special. It starts with respect. He needs to respect you, your needs, that fact that you might need space. He needs to understand that not everything is black and white with you and that sometimes there may be days he will never understand you, cos you might not understand yourself. He needs to love you. Not overblown romantic gestures that are merely a facade for him to get someting from you, but the subtle things that mnake you realise that he cares. He needs to be your rock to support you, but also the man who can ravish you. He needs to touch your soul but also keep you wanting more. In essence he needs to be similar to you.....a paradox......both a sinner and a saint. But not just any paradox.....your paradox
@GardenGerty (99411)
• United States
11 Apr 07
If you are female, then you need to go edit your profile. It says that you are a man, from India, age twenty eight.
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@diillu (5128)
11 Apr 07
you have got a real good man i think..i think good man would be like he would be proud of you no matter how you are...he would be the most happiest coz you are in his life..he is not shy to hold your hand infront of crowd..(my boi does so)...and when you are wrong he should point out our mistake no matter how rough you will be on him afterwards..and he should know yo so well that he should know how to make you laugh when you are down... plus..he shouldn't restrict you from doing things...
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• United States
11 Apr 07
A good man should respect you for what you are and not for what he wants u to be.The person should love u the way u are and not try to change you.The person who stands with u when no one trust u.
@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
11 Apr 07
I am also a woman, and in my opinion a good man is a man that is truthful and honest to start with, also a man that is there when you need him especially if you are feeling down, you should also be able to communicate at all levels with him, and he should be able to express his feelings, yes he should not be controlling. I think that your opinion is exactly right.
@angel68 (138)
• United States
11 Apr 07
a good man is one that respects his lady no matter what and is on her side thru thick and thin . one that will not allow any other person to disrespect you.
@wisedragon (2330)
• Philippines
11 Apr 07
A good man is a loving husband and father. He is responsible and takes care of his family, protects them from harm. He is not selfish nor childish.
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@akumei1269 (1750)
• India
11 Apr 07
I am a man who definitely don't fall within your good man category . Yours is too utopian thought .If you don't downsize your expectation , you are almost bound to end up in unhappyness.
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• United States
11 Apr 07
my idea of a good man? being honest and not lying to my face,tolerating my family even if he doesn't like them (which is ok,just don't insult them in front of me),actually showing concern if i am ill,not putting his friends above me in decisions,and paying his own bills. i do not expect a man to "take care of me" financially,but don't try to make me pay everything either.
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@aissha (2036)
• India
11 Apr 07
well dear i know samrat loves u very much and befor u took ove he mostly mentioned about u in many responses of mine so u are one lucky girl.hv nice time dear friend.
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