My husband actually listened to what I had to say!!!

My husband - This is what I see normally when it's time to clean the house
@Caila611 (992)
United States
April 11, 2007 12:59pm CST
OH my Gosh!!! You could have knocked me over with a feather! I calmy told him that I can't keep the house clean all by myself and that it was time for him to step up and help me. He actually agreed with me! What's wrong with him? He must have done something bad. Don't get me wrong, I'm glad that he's so willing to help me but why the sudden change? HMMMMM
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@Michele21 (3094)
• United States
11 Apr 07
I think husbands respond better when we are nice about things and don't get mad. My husband use to do nothing and then on the weekends if I wanted him to do something he would say "I just want one day off where I don't have to do anything." Then I realized I don't EVER get a day off so I told him that, I just casually mentioned it to him that I don't ever get a full day off either, just when the kids are asleep. And saying it that way somehow helped him realize that I am working all the time, just because I stay home doesn't mean I am sitting on my tush all day =) So ever since he has made me get out of the house-without the kids- to do whatever I want, and it is really great!!
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@lonely_f16 (2147)
• Philippines
11 Apr 07
Why do you doubt something that has been done maybe out of good will. Maybe of course he feels guilty because it's you always who does the chores. A helping hand wouldn't hurt so he agreed
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@carlaabt (3505)
• United States
11 Apr 07
Thats great that he is willing to help out more now. My husband's generally pretty good about helping around the house so I have nothing to complain about there. He does dishes and laundry both all the time. He knows that it's better if he does them, because that's the only way he gets what he wants! Ha!
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@missybal (4492)
• United States
11 Apr 07
Congradulations!!! Maybe he did something wrong or maybe he's saving up the credit for later. Really it's hard to say. Or maybe he is actually one of those loving caring husbands we see on television. Whatever the case I suggest that you go with it and live it up to the last drop. You never know when he might just start acting like a man again. lol
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@lightningMD (5932)
• United States
11 Apr 07
hmmm is there some power tool he's been wanting to buy,or a fishing trip he's been talking about..he might be trying to soften you up...or maybe he truly realizes how hard it is to keep everything done around the house...there is a benefit for him in this if he helps around the house you wont be as tired and stressed out everynight which might leave more quality for him and you together.
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@sarah22 (3981)
• United States
11 Apr 07
thats just wonderful. have you asked him that question?
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@nancygibson (3738)
• France
11 Apr 07
Thats great news! Lets hope he was actually listening not just doing the 'yes dear no dear' routine. The proof will come when he actually starts doing real housework! Best of luck and hope he's good at it.
@paidreader (5151)
• United States
11 Apr 07
LOL, I'm sorry, I can't help but laugh. It's such a rare occurance that our hubbys don't automatically filter us thru their selective hearing ears. Please appreciate the help while it lasts, especially with your busy family, and consider this instead. You have calmly & logically challenged him & he's just stepping up to the plate in an attempt to pitch in. If you're hubby is anything like mine is, they are best used for minor tasks that you don't really mind finishing up if you have to, as their good intentions soon fade away just like all my good intentions when adding a new diet to my new years resolutions, lol.
@Caila611 (992)
• United States
11 Apr 07
should have a poll of how long this will last?? LOL
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• United States
12 Apr 07
If you start a poll, you would definately need to choose some low time periods, lol. You could do: more than 1 hour, more than 1 day, more than 1 weekend, and more than 1 week! Anything longer might be pressing your luck, roflol. Seriously though, I hope he can actually give you a hand around the house. Sometimes it just takes a few small things to make a big difference. :)
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@emeraldisle (13146)
• United States
14 Apr 07
It's probably because you actually sat down and talked with him. You explained the situation and he could see it. He probably appreciated the fact that you told him in a calm manner and not just demanded. That can make a big difference for a lot of people. When one person explains a situation and asks for help it goes over a lot better then just, "That's it. I can't do it all. You have to help out from now on" type thing.
• Canada
14 Apr 07
Maybe he finally woke up and smelled the coffee!! There could be all kinds of interesting reasons for the sudden change in your husband's attitude towards housework...let's just hope he changed for the best and that he is doing what he's doing because he finally realizes how special you are, and how lucky he is to have you.
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• United States
12 Apr 07
It is so good. Just enjoy this pleasant change. He must have realised that you are right. But just wait for his mood swing. Sometimes it happens when hubby is in good mood and after some times changes his mood.
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
12 Apr 07
He probably realizes that you are right! I know, I know, men hate it when that happens. But at least you got him to agree with you, one small victory for us women! It is a shock isn't it? I am glad that he is being responsive to your needs, too often some husbands just don't get the big picture!
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@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
11 Apr 07
I think that's GREAT for him actually listened to you. I would fall over too. Maybe he wanted to help you and you have been doing all the housework.
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