do you get offended?

@uiwwitch (892)
United States
April 11, 2007 6:55pm CST
Do you guys get offended when the thread starter did not reply to your response? Do you feel like everyone should be thanked or their responses acknowledged? I'm still trying to weigh my feelings on that. I know that it's a "don't" to thank people who responds to your question but sometimes I feel like I have made a good and valid point and gets disappointed if I don't get a reaction. But what the hey, life goes on and the disappointment soon goes away.
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26 responses
• United States
12 Apr 07
According to myLot rules...and a pm sent to a friend of mine; it is against the rules for a discussion starter to reply (thank) everyone that has replied to their discussion. I don't know why it is this way. I try to respond to everyone, at least to answer questions if they are brought up. But since I now know about this rule, I don't just "thank all" anymore. Try not to be disappointed. As for me, I do read all replies and rate them. As should everyone else.
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@budsr03 (2354)
• Canada
12 Apr 07
That makes no sense! How can people have a discussion? I don't doubt you Creativedreamweaver and i hope mylot can fix this.
@uiwwitch (892)
• United States
12 Apr 07
mylot rules say don't thanks everyone but if you have something else to say (like I'm doing right now), you're certaily allowed to do so.
@chloe9013 (532)
12 Apr 07
I only feel disopointed when i have put great effort into my reply, leaving open a descussion with me, or asked questions to them about their post. If my post is just answering the question and not really opening a descussion then i dont mind as i have not given then enough input to give a good response back. I am the save with my topics. Unless i have reply with something of value, i will just rate the post and go to the next one. I dont like to post "thankyou" responces as if gives nothing more to the topic.
@inked4life (4227)
• United States
11 Apr 07
No, I don't really care especially when the discussion has a lot of responses. Who has time to answer all those? Personally, I don't usually leave an answer for every response but I do rate them all.
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
11 Apr 07
No, I don't expect an acknowledgement. If they acknowledged every answer, they would not have time to make money. the way I see it, thisis give and take, the asker asked a good question, I answered it. We both do ok.
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@budsr03 (2354)
• Canada
12 Apr 07
This may be rude, but it is the truth. Some people are not here to have discussions, just here for the money period. If i get no reply i just ignore this person in the future. Take care Uiwwitch.
@uiwwitch (892)
• United States
12 Apr 07
I appreciate your honesty. Quick question....If you get a thank you from the thread starter, that gives you points too?
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@budsr03 (2354)
• Canada
12 Apr 07
I think you get 1cent for starting a discussion and a cent for replying, but only once per discussion. I could be wrong on this! Take care uiwwitch.
@steney (1418)
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
I don't feel offended at all if the thread starter don't leave thank yous or comments on my responses. I know that the absence of acknowledgment does not mean that they do not appreciate the responses. We all know that if we get too many responses in a discussion, we can't manage to answer or leave comments to each one of them because we have to do other things too on mylot, but we are happy about the responses and we rate them fairly.
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
16 Apr 07
Thanks for the best response! :)
@cefaz_21 (2597)
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
honestly speaking, I don't feeloffended at all. I don't expect everyone to respond to every responses he/she received. It must be a lot of work and can eat up most of your time spend here in mylot.But of course It feel good also to see reply from the thread starter, menaing he/she reads all the responses. Sometimes I do reply to some responses I got but I can't just have time to respond to all of them..I want to let them know though that I appreciate every response they made..hmnn which makes me think where is the best place to thank them alla t once?
@uiwwitch (892)
• United States
12 Apr 07
that's what I'm thinking too. sending everyone a pm would be tedious.
@jojogirl (289)
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
a little diasppointed yes, but no big deal. i don't get offended at all. maybe the topic ran out of things to say and he or she doesn't want to repeat all the things that he or she have said. i do, however, feel elated when the topic starter acknowledge my response.
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@jojogirl (289)
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
oops sorry, i meant the topic starter ran out of things to say, not "the topic ran out of things to say".
@darkzzt (760)
• Canada
12 Apr 07
nope i dont get offended if the thread starter doesnt reply to my responses. it is hard to keep track of all of your discussions if you start plenty. dont take it personally that people aren't responding to your posts. it takes a lot of effort to do that and doesnt help to make them any more money because i heard that you dont get paid for posting comments in your own discussions.
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@uiwwitch (892)
• United States
12 Apr 07
Oh no, I understand how you're not supposed to. I don't do it myself. But sometimes, you just pour your heart into that answer and you get nothing. Good to know that everybody understands that sometimes you can't keep up with all the answers.
@mnflower (1301)
• United States
11 Apr 07
No not really, sometimes I sit back and wonder what there opinion would be about my opinion but it isn't that important to me, I know I don't reply to alot of my threads for I add discussions for helpful answers and I just go back and read them and pick the one that gave me the best response and rate all there replies. I think rating there replys are just as goood as answering them for that helps them to a point.
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@uiwwitch (892)
• United States
12 Apr 07
Is there a way to know which of our responses had a + rating? I do leave a + rating too, I think that is a great motivator for everyone.
@oldboy46 (2132)
• Australia
20 Apr 07
I have only started a few discussions so far .. and have checked them all .. in most cases I have made a comment to the person who responded but not all. It depends on what they have to say of course .. I think that it is important that people read the responses they get .. and make a comment if appropriate. That way the person who starts the discussion can give the best response to the right person. That is just my opinion though .. and it seems that many do not agree with how I think. Judge each case on merit .. if you read through the responses and want to make a comment .. do so otherwise let it go. It is not all about making money here .. at least it shouldn't be .. a discussion is a two way thing. If we want a good discussion .. then we really should interact with those who are starting or responding. Otherwise it is not a discussion as far as I am concerned. Example, you have asked what people do. I have said what I think should happen .. what I do anyway .. now it is up to you. You can either accept what I am saying or ignore it .. but if I ask something specific then I think I should get some sort of response from you on that.
@wachit14 (3600)
• United States
12 Apr 07
I definitely don't post with the idea that I should get a response. I post because the discussion resonated with me on some level. If the thread starter wishes to reply to my post then that's an added bonus, but I don't post expecting it and I certainly don't get offended by it.
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• India
12 Apr 07
No I do not feel offended. It is completely the choice of the starter of the thread. Also he/she may not be free all time to return to the discussion. May be he/she can forget about the discussion, if the discussion topic becomes more than a week old.
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@ehdzzie (331)
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
i get offended if no one is giving comment on my thread....especially to my friends because i do commenting their threads....
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@xfahctor (14131)
• Lancaster, New Hampshire
12 Apr 07
I dont get offended at all. From my understanding is that we are encouraged not to comment on every single reply to our threads. If we did, we would be spending all our time on here commenting. We dont get paid for comments is my understanding so those who are here to eran money would not see it as feasable when the time could be spent creating thoughtful threads and replies. Some I understand would benifite from a comment and it is a good way to keep a discussion going, but, I dont let it bother me if it doesnt happen.
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12 Apr 07
While I do like to *try* to say thanks, I simply don't have too much time on here. I do, however, rate discussions and responses.
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• United States
12 Apr 07
Yes i feel you should respond to your own thread. They are the one asking the question so they should respond and see what the others had to say
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@ninong (110)
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
I'm not really offended if the thread starter did not reply, after all, I'm finding it hard to comment on every response. But I can really appreciate the effort should the thread starter comment on my response.
@5000ml (1923)
• Belgium
12 Apr 07
No, I don't get offended. I don't expect people to have enough time to respond to my response especially in a discussion with a lot of responses. I always find that a plus rating is enough for me (a best response is of course the best, but I don't always hope for that!).
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@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
no. i dont get offended if people will not respond after i make my comments on a certain topic. i dont always supposed that the thread starter will always check on his/her thread.
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