Does anyone else have kids that are close in age

United States
April 12, 2007 3:24am CST
I was wondering who else had kids that were close together in age. I have a daughter that is 14 months and a son that is 3 months old. I just wanted to find other that were going through what I am or that have gone through it. Somedays I dont know if I am coming or going.
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
12 Apr 07
well, mine are two years apart, so I had a little bit more breathing room, but I can say it gets easier as they get older. My oldest is a little over 2 1/2 and the youngest just turned 7 months. As your oldest gets older, and more independent, and your younger one gets past any fussy stage, it will get easier. Right now, it's the easiest it has been for me. Even though we are finishing up potty training the oldest, and the youngest is learning how to crawl. My oldest helps out alot. IF the baby wakes up, and I can't get to him yet, the older one will go in there and talk to him, "read" him a story, and tickle him, then he'll come back to me with reports, (Ie, the baby is happy mommy!, Or I made him smile!, or He's crying, he's sad!) My oldest son will also go and get diapers, find the pacifier and get a toy for his little brother. Also, they are beggining to "play" together, which is nice. I have a friend whom has two boys as well, she got pregnant with the second, when the first was 4 months old. SHe said initially it was very difficult, but once the youngest hit 6-7 months it got easier. Now the two boys play together all day. SHe also, potty trained them both about the same time. (the oldest was almost three, the youngest was a litte over 2). They like the same toys, books and movies. SO in that aspect I could see how it would be much easier as they get older. Don't worry, it won't be too much longer and they'll grow up a bit more.
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• United States
12 Apr 07
I am glad to hear that hopefully in a few months that things will be gettig a little less crazy. I dont even want to think about how crazy it is going to be when I start potty training my daughter. If you have any advice when it comes to potty traing let me know. And if you dont mind my asking at what age did you start with the potty training?
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
12 Apr 07
Thanks for best response. I read a book called 1-2-3 potty training made easy, also the authors wrote another called "potty wise" which I heard is even better. It gives you three differnt time frames, and ways to potty train your children. My oldest, I had intended on waiting until he was three, but he had a friend come over who was potty training and wanted to start. He started at about 27 months or so, he's 2 1/2 and just started putting his B.M's in the potty (it took alot of creative rewards for that, because he was quite scared of doing that, peeing, he did right away though) He doesn't really have any accidents any more and wakes up dry from a full night's sleep. BUt that's not really the norm, he wanted to do it, so we let him. I think they say girls are usually ready earlier than boys, and I know of parents who start thier girls at about 2. I think that boys are usually ready to start around 2 1/2 - 3 years. Good luck to you. I'm sure it will get easier soon enough. I remember even with just one, it's hard that first few months, until you figure out your baby. I think the hardest thing so far for me, has been realizing that he's not his brother. That just because his brother hated, or loved a certain thing, does not mean he will.
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• United States
13 Apr 07
Thanks for the potty training advice. I will take a look at those books. I know what you mean about learning that the kids are not the same and what worked for one dosent mean it will work for the other one. My daughter and son I am realizing are complete oppisites. What worked for her doesnt usually work on my son. Sometimes they are so much alike then the next minute they are comepletely different.
@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
12 Apr 07
I had all my kiddies close 10 9 8 6 4 2 1 and expecting #8 in Aug.....I would have to say I did a crazy thing, and that there are so many days I would Love to pull my hair out esp when they fight and carry on. But I just keep trying with the positive attitude telling myself they are going to grow and when they do I know I'm going to miss it! That's what seems to work for me =) I wish you the very best with your 2 young children Stacy
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• United States
12 Apr 07
Wow I thought that my days were crazy. I dont know what I would do with that many and so close together. I want to have more but my husband says no. It is a little to crazy for him with the two that we have. I just cant get over how fast they can grow up.
@KissThis (3008)
• United States
12 Apr 07
My children are now 5,7 on Saturday, and 8 years. Not as close as yours but still close. Once you get your children pass the diapers stage it does get easier. I wouldn't say that it is smooth flying but it does get easier.
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• United States
12 Apr 07
Thanks for the words of encouragment. I am hoping that it at least gets a little easier overtime. I know that it will never be easy sailing but a little easier would be nice.
@mypeace (395)
• Nigeria
12 Apr 07
I can understand the stress you would be going through now, becuase the 2 are still babies, wearing pampers and seeking whole attention. My aunty had such kids amost the same age range with yours. It wasnt easy for her, until she got a nanny who help her out. Now the kids are about 5yrs and 4yrs, and the stress has greatly reduced. You may have to employ a nanny to reduce burn out. Cheers.
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• United States
12 Apr 07
Thanks for the advice. We cant afford a nanny but hopefully things will get better as they get older. Plus my husband is starting to help out when he can. It is just hard for him to help out because he works third shift and then has to sleep during the day.