What is the most important thing in marriage?

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Indonesia
April 13, 2007 1:52am CST
I just watched one of korean drama, and I was really captivated by its story. There was one line that I remembered the most and it is keeping me for think about it. I kept think about it and I just can't figure out what the correct answers. What is the most important thing in marriage? I always thought that it's was love. When I watched that drama, I realized love is not enough for you to maintain a marriage. Love is an ingredient but not the substantial things in marriage. So what about you? What do you think the most important thing you must have in marriage? I need to hear this from all mylotters here, especially those who has experience marriage.
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37 responses
• India
13 Apr 07
More than love, trust is the thing which is important to have a long lasting marriage. And with trust between the partners, love comes as a byproduct.
• Philippines
13 Apr 07
hi jc! although im not married yet, i just wanna share my views on this discussion. For me, the elements of a good marriage are the following: commitment as husband and wife- this is the most important element for me i do regard this as sacred because as they say true love comes when your not inlove with the person anymore and you still find reasons to stay in a relationship since marriage is a covenant of two people in love who decided to stay for the rest of their lives. Secondly, Respect and trust for one another, thirdly, they should learn the value of communication as this plays a vital role as well, fourthly, love and care and lastly, fidelity to one another. Hope this helps..
• Indonesia
24 Apr 07
That's good opinions. So you say commitment, respect and trust. Oh, yeah not forget communication. I guess commitment does play an important role. Without commitment, they will not taking marriage as serious relationship. Do you think that they should be comfortable with each other too ?
@sebatt84 (131)
• France
13 Apr 07
Yes , love hide a lot of surprise
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• Philippines
13 Apr 07
i would say, Understanding and Respect. . . even the simplest respect for privacy and quiet time for each partner. . . it shouldn't be misunderstood as concocting a lie or other negative plans. . . understanding, on the other hand, refers to assuming that all things done by your partner has a reason which is never to deliberately hurt you. . .
• Philippines
13 Apr 07
For me, the most important thing in marriage is to keep each other and your family intact. In a sense that you are always together no matter what happens. Even if you loose your love to your partner, you still have your kids to have a reason to be together. Bottom line, as long as you are living together (intact) and living in an honest life, then you're doing your job very well.
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@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
13 Apr 07
I think honesty is a very important thing but I think it helps if you keep the friendship alive, and stay young at heart together...
@superchook (1786)
• Australia
13 Apr 07
I believe that its trust and communication, without these two, I think there will be a lot of problems. I have seen people with trust issues and they haven't worked out, I have also seen people break up over lack of communication.
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@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
24 Apr 07
i am not yet married. but i will one day be. love is just the general concept which covers everything about marriage. but it is consist of a lot of factors. love alone cannot survive if the couples won't deal with it with so much sincerity. love should be accompanied with trust, loyalty, honesty, care, understanding and thoughtfulness. both parties should work together as one to keep the relationship and love for each other alive. happy myLotting!
• Indonesia
25 Apr 07
Love is not enough, right ? A marriage consists a lot of things. Thank you for your opinions. Although it's seemed a lot of important factors in marriage, but it worth to trying don't you think ?
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
25 Apr 07
ofcourse. everything to keep the marriage alive is worth it. you need to go through lots of trials and love alone won't keep both of you kicking. you need lots of other factors to go with love to keep the marriage work.
@dlkuku (1936)
• United States
13 Apr 07
There are a lot of things that you need to maintain a marriage. Trust in each other, and communication. But you also need respect for each other. And one thing that is really big at least in my book, is the willingness to say, 'I'm sorry'. To very small words but they are sometimes the hardest to say. Love is a big part of it, but without the rest, things will fall apart.
• China
14 Apr 07
Trust, communication,respect are important in marriage, i agree with you ,many couples release themselves to their wife or hubby, they think he/she is her/his closest person so should bear it ,after speak loudly with their couple they never said sorry to their lover.In fact speak "I'm sorry "isn't a difficult thing ,meanwhile lover is the closest people in your life you shouldn't put out you bad mood to them,no matter who you are angry with you cann't take it to home to quarrle with your lover. or things will really fall apart.
@vicky19810 (1601)
• China
25 Apr 07
hi friend,it is a good post.yes,i always think that what is love,and what is marry!but i can not get a clear answer yet.now ,i am a bit afraid of love and marriage.maybe i fear to loss them.lol...
• Philippines
24 Apr 07
I believe TRUST is the most important thing. If you don't trust your partner there's really no point in getting married. You will always be fighting due to TRUST issues and insecurities. LOVE is also important though for without it you will not be able to endure the hardships you will face with your partner.
@hqadim (10)
• United States
21 Apr 07
Understanding the differences! that is very important because who u love has a personality which is much different from yours! Life is choosing for the sake of other's interest and it should be believed by the 2 person simultaneously!
@gloria777 (1678)
• India
21 Apr 07
I think the most important thing is Trust, Understanding and Adjustment.
@skbadhan (881)
• India
21 Apr 07
i think the most impotant thing for a successful married life is mutal understanding, respect to each others views and ideas and faith. if you are caring about all the above things u can hapily live a wonderful married life.in many cases both husband and wife have high expectaions related to different matters from each others in such case they shoul tell each other clearly about there expections otherwise there could be a lot misunderstandings which may lead somtimes to break down of relationships
• Philippines
21 Apr 07
For me the most important in Marriage or any relationship is communication. You may have love between you. But if you don't know how to tell or show it. It's worth nothing. You may have respect or trust for one another. But if you don't voice it out. Doubts and jealousy may sink in. I have seen many succesful mariage that are based on communication. They talk about anything, laugh together, cry together. And because they know how to voice out their feelings, their pains and joys. They became stronger and better persons. So their relationships lasted for a long long time. (^^,)
@lbbaby (489)
• China
14 Apr 07
I think understanding is the most importatn thing in marriage. Because if you two don't have the same aims of life, I think that's a little difficult to live together. To be frank is a better way. But you should not tell everything because everyone should have secrets.
• Philippines
14 Apr 07
Love is the very basic foundation of marriage. The reason behind why people get married is because they love each other. When you love someone, a person becomes dynamic. He does things to make the relationships last. He gets excited, he wants to travel, wants to eat out, wants to have a bay, wants to take care of kids, wants to be happy, wants everybody especially the wife and kids, wants everyone to be healthy. Love is all that matters for a person to do numerous things to make the commitment work and last. Don't you think?
@nandans (1161)
• India
14 Apr 07
The most important thing is to carry on with the relationship with the same love and affection.
@sagiban (24)
• Malaysia
14 Apr 07
To have a long lasting marriage, besides love, the couple must have trust, understanding each other, patience and working in team. Marriage is like house that need to build nicely and strong. It need a strong foundation. So, love only is not enough to maintain a marriage. Because, the situation is not same before and after married. After married, besides love, we need to think about other things, such as our children, economy of our family, and many more.
@ryanphil01 (4187)
• Philippines
14 Apr 07
there are many things actually that the partners should do in order to keep their marriage successful or intact. one most important aspect of marriage is COMMUNICATION. If you cannot talk to your partner, there will be no room for growth. Communication should be a two-way process. When one talks, the other should listen and vice-versa. Communicating your feelings and and needs will keep your marriage stronger. Talking to each other builds trust as well. It's important to maintain a good, trusting marriage. Another aspect is building a strong foundation.Going back to the basics like your values, morals and beliefs. Marriage should be built based from these three parts, If there would be disagreements on these, things are going to be shaking your marriage. Other things include: honesty, forgiveness, and understanding Generally, marriage is built on TRUST, LOVE AND FRIENDSHIP. To learn more about the important things in marriage you can visit this link: http://www.kpatra.com//importantthingsinmarriage.htm