Should mothers be stay-at-home moms or work a 9 to 5

@lenapoo (674)
United States
April 13, 2007 2:18pm CST
Back when I was growing up in the 80's my mom stayed home to cook and clean and my father went to work. We stayed at home until we started school and then my mom went back to work. Well now that I have kids of my own I chose to be a stay-at-home mom instead of working a regular job so that I could raise my kids. I choose not go back to work even when they become of age to start school are there any other mothers out there that feel me.
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@my2luvs (158)
• United States
13 Apr 07
I grew up in the 80's. I was taught that you can have it all. My mom worked 2 jobs and was never there for me. Oh she had it all but she wasnt there for me ever. So I decided that I would be a sahm when I had kids. I do plan on going back to work when my kids are older. In my opinion I dont feel like you can have it all. Something or someone is going to suffer.
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@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
13 Apr 07
I stayed home when my kids were younger and i think they really appreciated it. my younger daughter still wants to come home for lunch and she is 10 (i just got a job recently and work from 9-1) i think its better for the kids to if at least one parent stays home (whether it be mom or dad) you can learn to live with one car and eating at home and in later years, your children will thank you for it.
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@faith6 (47)
• United States
14 Apr 07
i agree, i'm a stay at home mom and its great one on one with the child
@sunshine4 (8709)
• United States
13 Apr 07
Everyone has different reasons to choose to either be a stay at home mom or go back to work. I decided when my first born was 2 yrs old that I wanted to stay home with him. At that time, I was teaching at a special ed preschool. It seemed foolish to me to go and focus all my time and energy to other peoples children while mine was at a sitter. I loved my job and it was very rewarding, but I thought my son was more important. This was 15 yrs ago. My youngest now is in 1st grade and I am still a stay at home mom. We did need income to replace my teaching salary, so I opened an in home day care. I am still a day care provider for the income and it allows me to be here in the morning to get my kids on the bus and home when they get home from school. I am loving being able to stay home.
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@inked4life (4227)
• United States
13 Apr 07
I think it's financially viable then it's great fro one of the parents to stay at home. I have been in the very fortunate position of being a stay-at-home dad for the past 9 years and I really think my kids have flourished from having a parent there all the time. It's the best "job" I've evr had and I wouldn't trade those 9 years for the world.
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@ladyljs (1303)
• United States
13 Apr 07
Oh, I almost forgot...you could try to work out of the home if you just want or need to work. Ebay is a great tool for that! I wish you all the best!
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@ladyljs (1303)
• United States
13 Apr 07
My mother was also a stay at home mom...and i must say that it kept me out of trouble. When I had the twins, I quit my very well paying job to be at home with them. I feel that it is more important to play the role of Mommy, than to work. When they get to be 15 or 16, I may return to work, but we will have to see how I feel as I had my twins at 36 years old. That would make me 52 or 53, and I may not feel like tackling the outside work force anymore. Good for you for sticking to your feelings. You sound like a great Mom!
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@clarkebar (130)
• United States
13 Apr 07
I believe that it should be individual choice for each mother. I have always worked and still found time for my children when they were young. Other people I know chose to stay home with their children. I don't think either group is more wrong or right, it is all about the balance in your life. Just my opinion.
@katyzzz (2902)
• Australia
15 Apr 07
Stay at home, but you'll need some interests and preferably a way of making just a little extra money.
• United States
15 Apr 07
I think that it is really whatever works best for that family. I don't see one way being better than the other. And many people cannnot afford to have the mom stay at home.
14 Apr 07
I truely believe that one parent should stay at home. If I wanted a career then I wouldn't have had children. Children deserve to have a parent devote time to them and I feel that it is how come our society has so much violence between youngsters.
@thess0312 (442)
• United States
14 Apr 07
I as well am a stay at home mom of four children. I have worked but when I had my first child, I stopped working to raise my kids. Since then, I haven't gone back to work. I would like to go back to work when my kids are old enough to walk to school by themselves and reach the age of maturity and major responsibility.
@bad1981 (799)
• United States
14 Apr 07
I totally understand this. I always wanna be here for my kids and no matter what sacrifices I have to take to do it. But when my husband gets off work at night its like here deal with them a little bit too.
• Bangladesh
14 Apr 07
Mom with a baby of early age has a great responsibility towards her children aswell as home. I wont prefer mom to work 9 to 5 depriving her children from motherly care unless there is severe financial crisis. Now there is lots of home job in internet. you can opt out some of them.
@ebsharer (5517)
• United States
14 Apr 07
I agree that mothers should stay home with their kids. Even after they are of age to go to school. Mom's should be avaiable all the time. I also understand that in todays world it is hard to afford to have one income. I am a stay at home mom but I sell Mary Kay now too. It is great because I can set my own scheudle. I work with my kids schedule and my husbands so my kids are never left with a sitter. I make a great commission and the tax deductions are incredable! If you need some extra money just for play time. Look into it. It could give you the me time you derserve but don't get.
@anja31 (708)
• Canada
14 Apr 07
my mom was also a stay home mom. I emjoyed that she was at home. She started to work when i was 13 years old. know I have children by me own, I will do the same. Being a mom for your children is very important
@wachit14 (3600)
• United States
14 Apr 07
I think if you can afford to stay home with your kids, then that's great. Unfortunately, too many moms have no choice but to work outside the home to help pay all the bills. Their children do just as well as anyone else's as they know no other life. Either way is what's best for the family and that is a very personal decision.
• United States
14 Apr 07
I am also a stay at home mom and wouldn't want it any other way. While I sometimes miss the outside working world, I know without a doubt that my job at home is much more important than any job I have ever had. Even though I don't get paid money for being a mom, I get paid in other more rewarding ways.
• China
14 Apr 07
Nowadays, many mothers work 9 to 5 and fathers stay at home, taking care of babies... I think it depends on different situatoins. when a wife can earn more, it is better that wife goes out to work and husband stays at home.
@eyewitness (1577)
• Netherlands
14 Apr 07
to be honest if you have young children it would be better to be a stay at home mom.I want to be one or work parttime. But i wanna give all my atention to my children so i can give them all my love.It's so important for children to have you around in their youngest years.I also don't thonk it's wrong when you want to work from 9 till 5.If i work parttime i know my mom will help me with the children.But if i have the choice to be a stay at home mom i will definately be one.
@magnel (2263)
• India
14 Apr 07
Yes I think Mothers should be a stay at home moms till the time kids are old enough to take care of themselves... but thats optional if there is someone to take care of the kids at home...