Do you reckon you apologise too much???

April 13, 2007 8:16pm CST
Everyone makes mistakes, judgement in errors or just does plain stupid things sometimes and it is good to put your hands up, take the blame and apologise but do you ever feel like you are just doing it too much??? I don't reckon I over-apologise too often but I find myself apologising for other people or saying sorry when someone should be saying sorry to me. I just want to know what your experiences are in this. Do you say sorry too much or do you know someone who does? I think often people can see you as a weak person or think you are capable of a lot less than you are due to the hgihlighting of mistakes.
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@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
14 Apr 07
It's funny you should bring this up. Last weekend my 4 year old grandson spent the night with me and he kept saying he was sorry - for everything, even things he didn't do or need to apologize for. I finally said something about it and in his sweet little voice he said, "but you do grandma". I started listening to myself and he was right - I apologize for everything, my doing or not. I don't however think anyone thinks I am a weak person though, if anything I'm just the opposite, sometimes too strong for my own good.
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@SatoNa (247)
• Indonesia
14 Apr 07
I agree with your opinion.. but I also often say sorry.. because I'm a little indecent.. I just think I have to say sorry for making someone annoy because of my mistake, even it's a little mistake.. So, they won't be so angry with me.. ^-^
@Karmalina (647)
• Australia
14 Apr 07
Yeah I do say sorry too much. Like when there's an argument even if I'm right I apologize for bringing it up. I also am bad to apologize if someone has to do something for me or deal with me in a crappy mood or don't feel well. I need to snap out of that.
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• India
14 Apr 07
i think i do appolise...but only timely...i guess it is one of the best nature of mine to appolise when i feel i am wrong...
@vebela (310)
• United States
14 Apr 07
I honestly think I do apologize too much. I find myself saying sorry for things I can't control. For instance, when my husband stubbed his toe, I automatically said, "Oh honey, I'm sorry." It's as if to say, i'm sorry this happened to you, like it was a way to show sympathy. Oftentimes, though, I get reminded that it wasn't my fault and I have nothing to apologize for. I think I just grew up doing this. I'm not highlighting mistakes, but rather, I don't like it when people feel bad around me, so I apologize to show sympathy. I know that not exactly how it's supposed to work. I've noticed that a lot of people do this. And, I thinl I just picked it up from everyone around me when I was growing up.
@freesoul (3023)
• Egypt
14 Apr 07
I don't think I apologize too much but sometimes it's a good way to end arguments and disagreements even if you are not wrong but I don't over do it.. yes apologizing a lot makes you weak and vulnerable so i try not to do it but also I'm not too stubborn or too vain to apologize and take the blame when i deserve it or when it's the best way to get ride of annoying people.
• China
14 Apr 07
yes, I always reckon my mistakes and appologies when I found I was wrong. I think it is not shamed for a man to make appologies.
• United States
14 Apr 07
I don't find my self having to do this often. I tend not to do things I will regret afterwards. You can always be sorry for something you say or do. It's just not having to say it that often. What could you possibly have to say to have to apologize so often.
• India
14 Apr 07
yeah that with me too that makes me happy as i apologise that time but if i am not wrong then that person also feels guilty of being his mistake and then that doo make him think of his mistake dear..
@Woodpigeon (3710)
• Ireland
14 Apr 07
I think it is a big person who will stand up and admit their mistakes. I don't think it is sign of weakness, at all. On the other hand, there are those who do seem t say sorry for no real reason. It is usually just the tip of the iceburg with them though, and they are generally just self critical in general. I do find ha sort of thing to be trying.
@yanjiaren (9050)
14 Apr 07
I do say sorry too much and my Hubby tells me off for it. I end up sometimes apologizing for other people hurting me1 This is totally nonsensical behavior which obviously stems from low self esteem and bullying. I always felt guilty even to exist and breathe sometimes. I am getting slightly better and try now only to apologize when I have made a genuine error but I no longer feel guilty to be alive. I try to make a daily affirmation and say to myself God wanted me here so that is enough. Any one that doesn't like it they can either like it or lump it lol.
@Stiletto (4584)
14 Apr 07
I used to be like you and often find myself apologising for other people or saying sorry when really I was the one who should be getting the apology but I don't do it now. I don't say sorry unless I really mean it but having said that I'm quite willing to apologise if I think I'm in the wrong. Having said that I still do that daft thing of saying sorry when someone bumps into me. I think that's just instinctive - just can't stop myself. The other day this man practically trampled over me in Tesco - I said sorry and he tutted!! So it obviously doesn't come naturally to everyone!
@rosie_123 (6118)
14 Apr 07
Well I don't say sorry to people unless I really mean it over the big things in life - I am far too stubborn for that! But I am a typical Brit, who tends to say "sorry" to people who push me or bump into me, just because it's the polite "British" thing to do! When he first moved to the UK my partner couldn't understand it at all - he used to say but WHY do people apologise when someone bumps into them? It should be the other way round surely?But now he does it too - I must have Anglicised him - LOL!
@JashleyB (1441)
• United States
14 Apr 07
I am always quick to apologize unless I really feel I shouldn't. I'm just a forgiving person. Maye sometimes I do it when I shouldn't but I try not to be weak.