best friend is makeing the wrong desition
April 13, 2007 9:34pm CST
i have a best friend that is married and has kids. she lives next door to me. recently she was reunited with the man that she used to have feelings for and a friend came back to ct. her friend that just moved back here is going to live with the man that she used to date back in high school. she thaught her feelings for him where gone because she is married. when she saw him for the first time in years the rekindle flamed back up. now she only thinks about him and not her husband and kids. i tried to tell her to let it go and just be friends with him. she can not let it just be friends. this man is also married. i do not know if he has any kids or not. tonight that man and his wife showed up at her house. that man and his wife showed up in two diffrent vehicals. my best friends husband came over to my house tonight and told me that his wife left with that man. i could not look her husband in the eyse because i know what is going on and i do not want to be the one to tell him that she is going to cheat on you. i do not know what to do if her husband askes me what is going on with those two. her husband does not like that gyue at all. please help. what can i do to make her realise what she is doing is wrong. she has it in her head that she is only going to talk to him and that when his wife goes away for work in may he is going to rent a room and she is going to go to that room and talk to him some more. i am a single mom and i know how hard it is raiseing kids on your own and i do not wish that on anyone. she continues doing what she is doing her husband will find out and i do not want to be in the middle. i asked her what would she do if her husband or someone that they both know saw her van at the hotel. she told me that she will cross that when it happens. that is what i am trying to prevent from happening. i do not want to lose her as a friend and i do not want her to mess up her marriage either. granted her marriage is not the best but then agian whose is. at least he doese not beat on her like mine did to me. i do not know what to do anymore. please help me to help her.
14 Apr 07
the case you've told here is almost similar to the situation faced by me... i was in my college that time and my friend was in affair with a guy... she is very innocent and she doesnt know the world properly... one day she came home in a very pitiful condition, she didnt eat for three days, ran out of her house and didnt know where to go, so she came to me... i asked whats the matter for all her conditions, she said she loves a guy but her parents are forcing her to marry another guy, and that fixed guy tortures her saying she'll beat her after marriage because he knows that my friend is in love with another guy... so she is so afraid and ran out of her house.... her cousins helped her... since i do not know all this, i made her stay in my house and called her mom home... her mom spoke in a very nice manner to her and took her from my house... later i didnt hear any news from her... i got a message from her cousin saying she neither married that fixed guy, nor to the guy she loved... her parents got her married to someone else... she didnt speak to me after that.... maybe she is angry that i spoilt her life.... but it was not my intention... i only thought she has got into some problem and i have to give her in the safe hands... (her parents hand) thats all i did and now i became the wrong person... so to your situation, it just like that... keep watching what happens.... time will answer what to do when....
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14 Apr 07
it is terrible that your friend is cheating on her husband, and deceiving her children also! I'm sorry to be harsh because she is your friend, but cheating is the worst thing and she should know better than that. I can not stress hwo terrible it is that is she doing this to a man that loves and trusts her. I could never imagine cheating on my husband, no matter what. She has a conscience, and a brain so she can control herself and stop the affair! But if she doesnt, you really should come clean to her husband, he has a right to know. I feel so sorry for him, poor guy.