I am truly different, I guess

United States
April 13, 2007 10:41pm CST
I caught myself whining about having discussions that had no responses or had only one response which was off topic so that I couldn't "resolve" them. So then I decided I'd do my myLot friends a favor and go back through there discussions and respond to the ones that no responses or only one response. Guess what? I've been through the discussions of ten friends and have only found two discussions with no responses among them! And there were maybe three or four with only one response. So my question remains, why do I have discussions with no responses. So I started looking at the discussions that got lots of responses to see how they differ from mine. Interesting. There seems to be LOTS of responses to discussions about relationship problems with spouses or lovers. Well, I've been in a great spousal relationship for twenty years and don't really need or want advice about problems I don't have. So, guess that's out. There are also LOTS of responses to people wanting parenting advice. Well, I'm retired, my kids have kids, but I don't need parenting advice since I am no longer actively parenting. I can give advice, of course. But don't see me starting a discussion asking for advice. Then, of course, there are the discussions about television programs and movies and video games. I don't get very involved in any of that. I do watch more television than I used to. But I seldom have anything to discuss about them, except news items. I have started discussions about war and global warming. Didn't garner many responses, however. So, I guess I'm a minority at myLot. Just haven't figured out what kind of minority. :-) I'm used to being different, though. So that's no big surprise. At least I'm glad I can help others resolved their unresolved discussions.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
14 Apr 07
It is kind of frustrating sometimes when you start a discusssion that you think is really clever and interesting and no one responds. I've had that happen to me before, until a lovely friend went back and dug some of them up. Those are some good observations about the types of things that get a lot of responses. I suppose since I'm a fairly new parent, I find a lot of things to talk about. My other discussions recently have been about: charity, work, religion, holidays, mylot, life stories, the weather, therapy... Now that I think about it, I talk about a lot of different things. =p
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
14 Apr 07
On a side note, I dug up two of your "no responses" discussions, just because I could. =)
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• United States
14 Apr 07
Thanks!
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@4cuteboys (4102)
• United States
14 Apr 07
Yes those do seem to be two huge topics here! But also some strange topics get on the "hot topics and top discussions" lists if you've ever gone thru! Even the simple things can get a million responses. I don't know but I think it depends on how many friends you have here. The more friends the more responses probably. :) It's good to be different!
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• United States
14 Apr 07
Yes, it can be good to be different. Especially in a discussion, it expands thoughts. Thanks for your response.
• United States
14 Apr 07
I'm pretty new here, but I have felt the same way. At first it can be frustrating at times. I think if you aren't already doing this, that when you start a new discussion, make sure it's from one of the interests you have setup. For example, start a post in dogs or cats since you will see that they are very popular topics. Another good subject is the "make extra money" interest, "mylot.com" interest, "people," and so on. Don't start a discussion with an interest of yours that has a (1) by it as nobody will hardly see it. Another good thing to do is put up to 10 tags or keywords on it.
• United States
14 Apr 07
Great advice. Thanks. I'll bet it increases my responses.
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• United States
27 Apr 07
Thanks so much for the best response. I have gotten way more great advice on here than I have given out for sure. Plus the number of friends you have here is astonishingly superb.
• Kuwait
15 Apr 07
you are not alone here, i have so much posted discussion which doesn't get response and i didnt resolve them,even i try to go my friends list and response them.anyway i still continue responding to any discussion catch my interest and responded honestly.
• United States
15 Apr 07
I try to respond to friends' discussions unless I just don't have a response in me. Even then, sometimes when I am going through friends' discussion list and find they have discussions with no responses, I'll respond with something so they can resolve it if they want. Thanks for responding!
@hookfan (447)
15 Apr 07
You're not so different :) I've gone and done exactly as you, trying to figure out MyLot and how the discussions work, getting responses etc. You're not alone on this one. You have kids, so you can advise that way and I'm sure you have more than a little life experience too, so passing that along is good too :)
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• United States
15 Apr 07
Thanks, hookfan. Yeah, I have a LOT of life experience! I've had so many different kinds of "lives" that I have plenty to share. Have been in and out of LOTS of roles. Have been very poor and have been comfortably employed and financially blessed. Have been a stay-at-home mom and a working single mom and a non-custodial mom. I've been a typically aged and a non-traditionally aged college student, as I went back to college in my thirties. I've earned money as a secretary, a clerk, a mental health professional, and a personal assistant. I've known all kinds of people, including criminals. I'd say I've been around.
• United States
14 Apr 07
Hint taken, checking out your topics now :)
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• United States
15 Apr 07
Thanks. I thought my hint was subtle! LOL
@web2samus (255)
• Uruguay
14 Apr 07
hmm interesting, I feel myself "talking to the wind" sometimes, I think it can be interesting to see your topics; global warming is an interesting topic too (my kingdom for a synonym of "interesting" please!) well, let's see your stuff. btw: better to talk less and good than to talk a lot and say nothing, fk-off the rest -even the rewards- yeah!
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• United States
14 Apr 07
Synonym of "interesting"? Frequently it is "confusing" or "obtuse"! :-) Especially preceding "Tell me about that." I like the image of "talking to the wind". Sure feels better than "talking to the wall". Thanks.
• China
14 Apr 07
I appreciate the people like you, patient and careful. I sometimes also feel bad that my topic are not attracting. People always chase for something new and attracting. However, I still think it is a good habit to care for every topic by others.
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• United States
14 Apr 07
Yes. I seldom respond to discussions that are meaningless to me, except occassionally I will respond to a discussion that has had no responses for a long time, and ask for clarification. Sometimes the discussion posting is confusing or unclear and that may be why it isn't getting responses. So I respond and ask them to clarify or give examples so I'll understand what they are asking about.
• Netherlands
20 Apr 07
well, I still have the same problems as you though. Sometimes, I talk to my husband about it and he helps me with some ideas. Just don't give up, keep on posting and respond discussion that you are interested in. Once in while when I think I can give my opinion, I do response discussion that with no response. So, keep up your good work !!!
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