How do you deal with your angerin a healthy way?
April 14, 2007 6:40am CST
Getting cut off in traffic, a missed deadline, spilt coffee, a cranky child - it doesn't take much to upset us these days. Anger is a normal and necessary emotion. How we deal with it makes all the difference. It's a common philosophy that venting anger is good for you. "It's cathartic," we're told. "Just get it out of your system." But expressing anger through yelling, throwing things, or pounding our keyboards has an incredible impact on our co-workers, our families and ourselves. In your case, What actions do you take to treat your anger in a healthy way?
10 May 07
if it's important enough to get angry about, it's important enough to process and deal with it. 1. Before you open your mouth and say something stupid, you should stop and think. Count up to 10 before you say anything or do anything. Give your brain a chance to think. 2. Admit that you are angry. Tell the other person: "What you just said made me very angry." state clearly what the problem is, then start talking to yourself about it. Start the processing bit. Ask yourself: what are my feelings? why? what is the other side of the question? so what am I going to do about it now? it is important that you deal with the situation objectively. If you are in a traffic, do something else to while away time. If you are not part of the solution, you are part of the problem.
11 May 07
i like your insights on holding back one's anger. it is true that it is best that we give our brain sometime to think before opening the mouth. this way, we can settle problems sensibly without picking up quarrels with anyone. cool minds will best deal with problems at hand and find a proper solution for it.
11 May 07
i have learned to control my anger since i was young. my parents had taught us to be patient with the mistakes of others and not to be easily intimidated. if we are angered by someone's actions or remarks, we are to hold back our anger. it is best to keep the mouth shut if only hurting words will come out of it. it is best to deal with what has caused the anger after i have cooled down. but there are times though that i yell and show my anger through my actions. i just make sure that i do not hurt anyone bodily nor with sharp and cutting words.