opposite characters really attract or not?

@rubiana6 (270)
Brazil
April 14, 2007 8:37am CST
some say for a sucessful and happy relation the two partners should have the same interest. The same hobbies, the same thinking. Others say thats not true, in contrary. Its the best of the two partners are very different. Opposite attracts, and this give the pepper in a relation. so it will never be boring and always exciting. hmmmmmm. what do you think? which opinion is true?
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@Denmarkguy (1845)
• United States
16 Apr 07
I can only share my personal experience, and what I see from looking at my friends and other people around me. I believe both statements are "true" but we must look at what they SAY. Yes, "Opposites ATTRACT." Especially when I was younger, I found this to be true. But the fact that they ATTRACT doesn't necessarily make for a good relationship in the long run. It seems that very often what happens is that the many differences that were "cute" and "funny" in the beginning become irritating after 5, 10 or a few more years... and then there's a lot of arguing and fighting. I think it is often true that when a person is drawn to their "opposite," they are REALLY drawn to the things they see themselves as "not having," and they try to "have" them by being close to an opposite person. For me, especially since my mid-30's or so, "similar" is MUCH more important to me. I am still ATTRACTED to opposites, but I also recognize that it is "fascination" rather than true "connection." But also, I don't look for another person to "be something" I am lacking... it is MY job to figure out my own shortcomings, and to work on them... not ANOTHER person's. In the end, it probably matters most to know yourself, and to know what a relationship "means" to you. For some, they like it more with some drama and "pepper." Others (including myself) like it best when there is peace and harmony.
@kkerix (403)
• United States
15 Apr 07
not true i think i get along with my friend because we like the same thing.
• Philippines
14 Apr 07
Well yeah i do agree with you on that note. It would be more exciting and yea not boring if a couple has an opposite interest coz they always having a fight towards each other. But then, as long as they both love each other and their love is strong, then it's ok. Cheers and have a nice day ahead from Francis.
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
14 Apr 07
I think it depends on the ppl really....Sure sometimes being similar is good and sure sometimes being opposites is good too...I think HOW similar or HOW opposite is a huge factor though as well as how willing each person is to bend alittle rather than be rigid in their ways ya know.....
• Philippines
14 Apr 07
I'd like to think that opposites do attract, but I'm more on two people with the same interests. This is so because when you have the same interests, you will get to enjoy each other's company more; all the more will it be fruitful and fun. Although there's a thrill behind being opposites, I still think that it will be too complicated to deal with people who are not so much like you since conflicts, quarrels, and arguments will arise due to misunderstandings and stuff.
• India
14 Apr 07
Well I too beleive that opposite attract.Sometimes its just when a person enjoys the differences ten attracion is strongest.
@WanderZ (107)
• Singapore
14 Apr 07
to me, i think with similar interest one will have more to talk about, hence getting to know one person is easier... however, when interest differ, wouldn't you be somewhat a little interested in the hobby/interest you never knew? so i think they should attract, as i'm sure there will be something you have in common with other people, other than being human.